If today's parent didn't have enough to worry about, handwriting has been dropped from the curriculum of most teachers' colleges and is taught as little as once a week in elementary schools, according to Parents magazine. It is now up to parents to teach their children how to write and Parents offered some tips for your budding writer:

PROBLEM: Your preschooler has zero interest in writing...
Spray shaving cream on the kitchen counter or table and help your child write his name in the foam. The next day, draw letters with finger-paints. Wikki Stix, Play-Doh, and Lego blocks are toy-box favorites you can also use to shape letters...

PROBLEM: You have absolutely no idea where to begin.
It's best to start by teaching your child to print her name. But even though capital letters are easier to write than lowercase ones, don't encourage her to write her name in all caps. "It's an incredibly difficult habit for kids to break in kindergarten," says Dawn Audibert, a kindergarten teacher in Rockville, Maryland...

PROBLEM: After lots of practice, your child's letters are barely recognizable.
Get a grip...

PROBLEM: Your 4-year-old writes a lot of the letters backwards.
Don't freak out thinking that it's dyslexia! Writing letters backwards is a common problem in young children, says Jan Olsen, an occupational therapist who developed Handwriting Without Tears, a curriculum used in thousands of elementary schools...

PROBLEM: Your child's letters are larger than the top line of an eye chart.
First, make sure your child fully understands the concept of big and small by asking her to write the same letters in different sizes on a piece of colorful construction paper. Make it a game--and challenge her to fit as many letters as she can.

Amy's husband, Will, actually taught Ari how to write his name. I make sure he babysits Ari a lot.

J/K!

But I agree that despite the tuition I am paying, Ari has not learned how to write his name at school. I, too, have heard that it is uncommon for schools to teach handwriting before elementary school, and even then, instruction is rare. How did your children learn to write? Make sure you drop your tips!

Salon ran a depressing piece stating the obvious: Due to increasing college and retirement costs as well as stagnant wages, we are the first generation to be worse off than our parents. While the American Dream is out of reach for more people, the richest minority has experienced even greater riches not seen since the roaring '20s, according to the article.

Salon's Katharine Mieszkowski conducted an interview with Nan Mooney, author of the newly released (Not) Keeping Up With Our Parents: The Decline of the Professional Middle Class to shed more light on this phenomenon. Here is an excerpt:

How would you characterize the educated middle-class professional you're writing about?

These are people who went to college and have at least a four-year degree. Oftentimes, they have extended education beyond that, a master's or a Ph.D. They're people who work in white-collar professions, usually not the high-end professions like law or medicine or finance.

Why did you want to write about this group?

Because I fall into this group and so many people I know fall into this group, and I feel like we fall under the umbrella of having done everything they say you're supposed to do to be financially secure in America.

There is this myth that if everyone could just go to college and get the proper job skills we would all be financially comfortable, and I was looking around me and saying, "Well, that's not true."

But if you have a college education you're more likely to be financially secure than if you have only a high school education.

Yes, absolutely. But the rhetoric goes beyond that. It says that you will be secure, and you will be comfortable. If you look at the rates of bankruptcies of people who are getting in deep credit-card debt, it's not only the people with the high-school educations. It's traveled well into what we consider the professional middle class.

How has college debt risen for this group in a generation?

In the '70s, we were barely taking out student loans. In 1977, collectively students were borrowing about $6 billion. By now, they're borrowing over $85 billion. That's a remarkable number. The number of students enrolled in college grew 44 percent between 1977 and 2003, but student loan volume rose 833 percent in that same time period.

There are fewer grants and scholarships available. If students go through graduate school, they can end up taking out over $100,000 of student loans. And if you go into a field that's not high-paying that can be a real burden on you for 20, 30, 40 years.

We are seeing more people going to college, which is definitely a positive move, but they're getting into a lot of debt to do it. The college degree now is what the high school degree used to be. You really need a basic bachelor's degree in order to be eligible for a lot of jobs.

Sorry to inundate you with so many items from the Berkeley Parents Network newsletter. But it really is interesting and helpful -- and conducive to some of the discussion here.

Work-life balance is something we discuss a lot here. What do you deem "enough time" for your children? Check out this letter:

I have a very socially demanding almost 3-year old. She wants non-stop conversation, and it wears me out. She receives a LOT of attention, from my partner (who is a stay at home mom), from her preschool teacher (she goes to preschool 18 hours a week), and from me (I spend time with her before work as well as from 6:30-9:00pm weekdays and all day weekends), yet it is never enough. We have two other children who aren't as demanding (and who sleep more) who also need attention, and it would be great for my mental health (and for my partner's) to get some time to myself/ourselves (which we never do). And the less attention the almost 3 year old gets, the more she acts out. We're willing to put limits on her, but I'm not sure where the limits should be. What is the balance between putting my kids first and keeping my sanity? I feel guilty for time I have ''free'' that I'm not spending with my kids, yet I often end up resentful. (I should note that I love spending time with them, but as an introvert I also love time to myself.) So I ask you, kind advisors, how much time do you think the working parent should spend with his or her children each week, and how much time does the working parent actually spend with your children (if you could note how many children you have that would be helpful)?
-introvert parent of an extrovert

I feel this writer's pain. Eli is already 13 months old and her daily 6 a.m. wake up call has gotten tiresome. She still doesn't walk, but demands to hold my hand and walk around the house. Sometimes for an hour. If I don't comply? Watch out! Zero to three is rough -- at least it is for me.

Nonetheless, I do take time for myself even if it's for only an hour so I can work out. My husband usually takes the kids on a walk and I repay the favor so he can get alone time, too. I figure as long as we eat together as a family in the evenings -- when we can, meaning DH is not gone on a business trip -- and the quality of the time with the kids is interactive, quantity is not the be-all, end-all. What do you think? How do you break up your time between work, kids and personal downtime?

Author and activist Alice Walker is still publicly feuding with her daughter, Rebecca. Well, Rebecca keeps talking about it to the press, this time with the Sunday Times of London.

“My mother did a lot of leaving to go to her writing retreat, which was over 100 miles away — so she’d go there and leave me a little bit of money, leave me in the care of a neighbour,” recalls Rebecca, now 38.

“When I was pregnant at 14, I think it was because I was so lonely that I was reaching out through my sexuality. My mother’s a crusader for daughters around the world, but couldn’t see that her own daughter was having a difficult time. It was me having to psycho-emotionally tiptoe around her, rather than her taking care of me.”

Walker is furious with Rebecca for making such sentiments public, and mother and daughter are estranged with little hope of reconciliation. Rebecca has a three-year-old son, Tenzin, whom her mother has never seen. Their last meaningful exchange, during Rebecca’s pregnancy, ended in Walker sending a terse e-mail in which she resigned from “the job” of being her mother, and told her that in any case their relationship had been “inconsequential” for years.

The depth of her anger was such that she refused to budge even when Rebecca had a difficult birth and Tenzin’s life hung in the balance in a special-care baby unit. “My father called her to tell her what was happening. He couldn’t imagine that she wouldn’t run right over . . . In some ways, I wanted her to — but in other ways, I didn’t. I knew she wouldn’t be able to be there for me in the way I wanted. It would be problematic.”

Ouch.

In-Home Care Costs Shoot Through the Roof: The costs of in-home care for an elderly patient has risen by 17 percent since 2004 to $76,460 a year, according to the Alzheimer's Association. As the organization recently pointed out in its newsletter, many Americans are woefully unprepared to deal with skyrocketing costs and a dwindling number of options to care for their elderly family members.

Ford Recalls Pick-Up Trucks: In case you missed it, Ford has recalled its F-150 pickup truck and Lincoln Mark LT because of a faulty hose tied to the trucks' brakes, according to the Associated Press. The recall affects more than 600,000 customers in the United States and another 50,000 in Canada.

Immoral and Unconscionable: The military junta that controls Burma continues to bar foreign aid, including that from nearby Thailand, according to the Associated Press. Yet, the death toll in the country from a vicious cyclone is about to reach 127,000. Sick.

God I love the soap opera that is Berkeley Parents Network. Remember that letter I published last week about the husband who had an affair that resulted in a pregnancy? The wronged wife wrote BPN, wondering how they could fit the child into their lives.

Well, the responses have started trickling in...

i believe G. Getty had a secret family. i hope you are VERY wealthy. you found out a few weeks ago? um, this is a lifetime commitment. i am an optimist but this sounds disastrous unless you and hubby and the other mom are the coolest folks on earth. when our relationships are rocked we all seek an explanation. in my humble opinion you are in the denial phase. consider your needs as you work through this.

This is EXACTLY what I thought when I first read her letter! She sounded way too calm, as if she were numb and in denial. Here are more responses:

I admire you, for your selfless perspective, thinking first  about the baby and the families' futures. From your letter, however, it seems that your husband and his mistress are as concerned to keep their relationship as the baby. Be wary of this! But for the baby, what should be decided first is for him or her to live in a single family, preferably with a two-parent family. One of the following needs to be decided: whether you and your husband adopt the baby, or whether the mistress (assuming she's single) gives the baby up for adoption to another family. If you adopt the baby, it is the birth mother that will be driving the long distances for occasional visits. Either way your husband will need legal recognition as father. You have already decided that you and your husband should not divorce - presumably because there are other children that should not live without a two parent family. You have already done the right thing for your children, and hopefully your emtional strength will help your husband's child as well!

I completely agree with this writer:

I'm sorry to hear about your story. I also realize you are asking for advice on how to make this work. I kept on thinking and realized there's no way for this to work and let me tell you why: your husband has a pattern of cheating and there is a pattern of you forgiving him. You even say you are not too caught up in the affair right now. He's going to therapy bc. he's scared of what's ahead. But my gut feeling is that once he gets out of his shock he will go back to his old ways. The woman is in another city; he had an affair with her two years ago and again a few weeks ago. How do you know he won't cheat on you again when he goes there in the future? Why have 'they' decided to keep the child without asking you, the wife and mother of his current child? If the woman is pregnant that means he didn't use protection: he didn't mind putting you at risk of getting a disease, he didn't mind that by putting you, and himself, at risk, your child might end up with sick parents...or no parents at all. How are you going to explain to your child what happened and how are you going to explain you condoning that? We judge people by their actions, not their words. And, up to now, his actions tell you he's very likely to cheat on you again and maybe get someone else pregnant. What will you do then? I honestly do not judge you bc. I believe that for you to put up with something like and allow him to do that to your child it must be bc. you are scared to be on your own. I'm hoping it's not that he makes a lot of money and you don't want to lose your current position. I am divorced myself and it's scary but it's very possible and there's a light at the end of the tunnel. If he's willing to be responsible, then he will support your child after you divorce him; if not, then he will not be responsible while you are married to him either. I worry bc. this is not a new thing: he consistently cheated in the past: it's not shock that's making you forgive him. Have you considered doing some therapy? Do you have family, friends in the area? I feel really bad for you but a million times worse for your child. Pls, sit down calmly and with as much hope as you can think of and think of yourself, but MAINLY, of your child: you have to; he's obviously not thinking of either of you. I trully wish you good luck and the strenght to do what's right for your child and yourself.
It takes strenght

I grew up with a lot of machismo and saw many wronged wives suffering in silence. This husband put his wife at risk and has clearly shown what he thinks of her. Where is this woman's pride? Grow some cojones and move on, mujer!

Parents magazine ran a fun article comparing the pros and cons of having children early, late in life or somewhere in between. It peppered the article with some interesting statistics.

The first mom, Carla Lehrer, had her first baby at 21. She was married in her sophomore year of college, pregnant by second semester and took a year off when the baby was born. By graduation, she was pregnant with her second child.

BEING A YOUNG MOM means that it's hard not be selfish about my time. I used to sleep in, read, or watch TV whenever I wanted and go out with friends any night I pleased. All these freedoms go away when you're a parent.

BOUNCING BACK AFTER pregnancies is easier when you're younger. I've gotten down to my starting weight after each one. Two weeks after I had Aliza I was in a bridesmaid dress.

I'M HAPPY THAT my kids have young grandparents--they're all in their 50s--and seven great-grandparents. I'm always calling my mom and mother-in-law for advice, and I also go to Facebook, where I started my own young moms group called Mommy and Me.

Women ages 20 to 24 give birth to about a quarter of all babies each year.

Wow. I felt like I was still finding myself at this age. I couldn't imagine being pregnant as an undergrad! Then again, I do wish I had the energy from my college days.

As I have mentioned at least 99 times before -- hence the title of this post -- one of the parenting areas I grapple with is if, and whether, I should raise my children in a certain faith.

My husband and I are lapsed Catholics. While he does not miss going to church, I sometimes do. Also, I do think my Catholic education gave me a foundation for my beliefs, particularly in social justice and politics. I am not saying that someone could not hold these beliefs anyway -- especially if parents practice what they preach -- but I want to at least give my children the choice. Finally, the more outdated dogma of the Catholic Church will not change if progressive thinkers leave.  

So here's my (latest) dilemma: I am having a hard time reconciling this good faith effort with my shaky faith in some of the stories in the bible. Most recently, I purchased The Beginner's Bible for Toddlers at a Walgreen's for Ari. The book is written simply and in a way to hold the attention of a four-year-old. I highly recommend it as Ari and I have had some interesting discussions about it, which leads me to my concerns.

He was particularly hung up about the story of Joseph and the coat of many colors. This story, in the book of Genesis, is about a father Jacob who has 12 sons, but Joseph is his favorite. At the exclusion of the other sons, Jacob gives Joseph a coat of many colors. The brothers are so jealous of Joseph that they throw him in a jail in Egypt.

Ari kept quizzing me on why Jacob would give Joseph a coat and not his brothers.

"I am not sure," I uncomfortably reply. "But maybe it was because it was his birthday."

"If it's his birthday, then it's okay to give him a gift," Ari said.

"Yes," I replied. The truth is I would never pick favorites among my children and would have made sure that they all received presents, I told Ari. I feel like I had to qualify  many of my answers with these stories like the one about David and Goliath -- "I don't like fighting of any kind," I told Ari -- and prophets who received orders from God -- a voice in the sky.

After Kung Fu Panda co-star Jack Black spilled the beans, Angelina Jolie has confirmed to Access Hollywood that she and Brad Pitt are expecting twins, according to an article on People.com.

No mention of the due date or gender of the babies who will be Jolie's and Pitt's fifth and sixth children.

Jolie and Black will appear on Access Hollywood tonight.

Yet another stay-at-home mom asked Berkeley Parents Network that million dollar question: Where is the part-time work?

While I expected everyone to unilaterally respond with a "join the club" shrug -- and one fellow SAHM did -- there were some great and helpful suggestions:

Yes! Nursing has worked great for me. I have a LVN licence and work 20 hours per week. If you have any interest in health care it is a great way to go. And in high demand.
Mary

Have you thought about substitute teaching? I know many people are scared to do it because of their own childhood memories involving abusing subs. I did it for 3 years, and I found it to be the easiest, most flexible, and least stressful job I've ever done. You only take jobs when you feel like it, and since it's now all done through an automated phone system, you don't even need to talk to a person when you select jobs. You only accept the jobs you want on the days you want. If you market yourself successfully, you become the regular sub for some sweet and easy classrooms. Give it a try - You don't even need to ''quit'' if you don't like it, you simply stop accepting jobs.
anon

I have worked in Human Resources and recruiting for years. I would apply for any jobs that seem interesting to you, even if they are advertised as full time. If they are impressed with you, they might hire you for hours that suit you., or might allow you to work part time from home. Another thought...Craigs list has part time listings, contractual listings, occasional listings etc. which might help you ease back into work slowly. There are lots of firms that hire people for market research work and you usually have a choice of dates and times in which to work. Don't limit yourself....go for what looks good even if if seems that part time might not be an option. Companies will flex for the right candidate...
Recruitment specialist

One dad of teenagers reminded the mother that she already has a "real job;" that perhaps she was looking for other opportunities on top of her current position.

So, my advice (you asked), think about what you want to do for ''other'' work in addition to the ''job'' you already have. Acknowledge that a ''real job'' provides satisfaction in other ways: intellectual challenge, camaraderie, monetary gain... and so does your current job as a mom. Then, attempt to integrate all this into your life. Start your own business, seek job sharing in a progressive company....
~ former corporate geek enjoying life as a carpenter

What other advice would give this mother looking for part-time work options?

CNN has detailed results of last night's West Virginia primary. Sen. Hillary Clinton crushed Sen. Barack Obama there, 67-26, with the rest of voters going for John Edwards who was still on the ballot.

Update on China's Earthquake: The news coming out of Asia has not been good recently. China was the most recent country to be hit by a natural disaster, this time by a 7.8-magnitude earthquake in Sichuan and nearby provinces, the worst earthquake the country has experienced in decades.

So far, it has killed nearly 15,000 people, trapped at least 25,000 while another 14,000 remain missing and destroyed up to 80 percent of the buildings in at least one county. The earthquake could be felt as far away as Pakistan, Vietnam and Thailand, MSNBC reported.

Foreign aid is starting to trickle in, but as this Associated Press article pointed out, people are in desperate need for medical attention, food and water.

Racism on the Campaign Trail: Some of Sen. Barack Obama's most ardent supporters, including white canvassers, have spoken out about the racism they have encountered on the campaign trail, according to the Washington Post. As the article pointed out, there have been a number of racial incidents on the campaign trail, including the vandalization of an Obama office in Indiana, racial slurs, hostility and death threats. The young people quoted in the article rightfully felt dispirited, but they were quick to note that the tide seems to be turning in this country.

For the most part, Obama campaign workers say, the 2008 election cycle has been exhilarating. On the ground, the Obama campaign is being driven by youngsters, many of whom are imbued with an optimism undeterred by racial intolerance. "We've grown up in a different world," says Danielle Ross. Field offices are staffed by 20-somethings who hold positions -- state director, regional field director, field organizer -- that are typically off limits to newcomers to presidential politics.

Despite these sad incidents, it was great to see these young people continuously put themselves out there.

What else is in the news? What's up with you?

How will you spend your "stimulus" rebate check? Will you go out and spend it as our dear prez has encouraged us to? Or, will you do irresponsible things like pay off your debt or horde it in a savings account?

Of course, the businesses President Bush is intent on helping with these checks, hope you do the former. In fact, they have wasted no time in busting out their parasitic marketing pitches for your government rebate, according to the New York Times.

Sears has started a “stretch your stimulus check” campaign. Supervalu, the grocery chain, is promoting a “watch your refund grow” program, and Kroger is calling its stimulus gift cards “a powerful new financial tool.” All three companies offer shoppers a 10 percent bonus if they buy a gift card with their checks.

Domino’s Pizza is also offering a “recession-busting” special of three pizzas for $12. “While you’re feeding the economy with your special refund check, let it feed you back,” the company said in a news release promoting the offer. Home Depot is encouraging customers to buy energy-efficient products, like compact fluorescent bulbs, to save money.

Ironically, market behemoths Wal-Mart and RadioShack are the reluctant vultures in this article.

Due to some demand, here is a thread dedicated to the West Virginia primary. Polls close at 7:30 p.m. local time. Political enthusiasts everywhere, rejoice!