Mamapedia had a couple of good threads on gift ideas for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. (The link to the threads is still not available online so I will summarize.) Mother’s Day is on May 9 so let’s go there first:
The best Mother’s Day present my husband gave me was a whole day off! He surprised me with a one night stay at a hotel with a day at the spa. He scheduled it for the Saturday before Mother’s Day. So Saturday morning, he and the kids drove me to the hotel, kissed me goodbye and then picked me up on Sunday morning. So I was able to spend actual Mother’s Day with my children and my husband’s mother but the day before was all mine. I checked into my hotel, walked around the town, then went for my massage and facial, I went back to the room, called room service, then read in absolute quiet. It was wonderful! To actually have a full 24hrs by myself being pampered at a spa and then reading the rest of the evening-Wonderful!!! I would give up all birthdays, anniversaries, Valentines and Christmas gifts to have that every year.
A lot of women suggested the day off or a day at the spa. That sounds about right to me. Here are other suggestions:
A Shutterfly.com album! I do one each year (the first from the day our son was born to his first birthday, then first birthday up to second birthday, etc.) and they are awesome albums! You can do a small album with some of your favorite pictures. Or go all out with a big album with all of your favorite pictures. The site is very user friendly and the quality of the pictures/album is wonderful. With that, I also vote for a complete day off for you BOTH. (Maybe the day before Mother’s Day) But you still do things to spoil her. Schedule a mani/pedi for her. Spend the day together. Have a nice dinner. Good luck. I am sure that she will love anything that you do for her!
….You are great in my book just for asking and admitting you went wrong last year. Breakfast in bed, bubble bath with candles and champaign, special dinner out (or cooking a meal for your wife)…Your a good husband….
The best mothers days I’ve had where when my husband and boys took me to do something I loved, like hiking. If your wife doesn’t enjoy hiking, what is great is to make a nice picnic lunch and go to a nearby park with your family (grandparents too, if they are close by), and enjoy the day with your wife and little one. A lot of people go to restaurants but I can’t see how going to a crowded restaurant, and trying to have a meal with a one-year old, could be any fun! Go to the park, bring a nice lunch and a video camera, and let the good times roll!
All these suggestions sound good, too. I love the last one and thought maybe I will ask DH and the kids to take me to a baseball game since I haven’t been to one in a couple of years. What do you want for Mother’s Day?
Now onto suggestions for fathers. Father’s Day, by the way, is on June 20.
First, a couple of things about this thread. One was the double-standard and blatant stereotyping on behalf of some of the mothers who commented. Because the mother who wrote in was not married to the baby’s father, some of the women asked, “How about a marriage proposal?” “Commitment!” One commenter even suggested that this mom was a single “welfare mom.” Oy vey. My feeling is she did not go into the dynamics of their relationship — don’t know and don’t care — and that was not her question. She wanted to know what to get the father, who apparently is an involved father.
Anyways, here were the suggestions:
We always end the day with a trip to Baskin Robbins for an ice cream cone. The beginning of the say were always something different each year. I made a photo album of our Father’s Day experiences.
- Picnic in the park, fly kites.
- Hike park trails.
- buy a motorized airplane at a hobby shop, spend day at park playing with it.
Those are some of the things we did then ice cream. Have fun!
….I don’t know about activities he would enjoy, but for my husband’s first father’s day I made him a t-shirt that had our son’s initial on the front and “#1 Dad” on the back. I thought it would end up as a joke gift, but my husband LOVES it and pulled it out to wear again on his second father’s day
….Why don’t you get some pictures made of him and the baby? A special reminder of his first father’s day. Also maybe you can take the baby somewhere they can interact with each other like a playground or some fun kiddie place that has stuff for small babies. I think he would just enjoy spending the day with you both myself.
Okay, I will stop there. Am I missing something? Don’t fathers want the day off, too? Or, are we simply assuming that women do more work, therefore fathers shouldn’t get the day off? For me, DH works his ass off AND is an involved father. Typically, I give him the day off. He goes for a long bike ride, I make him breakfast, lunch and dinner while the kids give him home-made cards, and I put the kids down to bed so he could watch TV. There have been father’s days that he has opted for the baseball game or something to do with the family. But I give him the choice as it is HIS day. What do you plan to do or give to the father of your children?
What else is in the news? What’s up with you?