UPDATE: As I mentioned on my post, I had to open an account to navigate through the site. In the hour it's been since I've opened the account, I've received four "winks". Based on what, I wonder? I didn't post a picture or any identifying information. All I can say is, EW. - Gloria

Last weekend as I was driving my kids home from the movies, I drove past this billboard. I was disturbed by the blatant message, out in the open, on this billboard on Sunset Boulevard.

But I was also intrigued...What was it? I decided to come home and investigate. I went online and found that it's a dating site specifically tailored for people that are in serious relationships and are looking for someone or something to satisfy that itch. Their tagline even reads, "When Monogamy Becomes Monotony." I couldn't really look in the site unless I registered, so I did. Then I looked through some of the bios left by people. The majority had no photo attached. I mean, how could they? They could get, God forbid, BUSTED. Then I started thinking about that Rupert Holmes song, and I shook my head in judgment.

I was tired of my lady, we'd been together too long.
Like a worn-out recording of a favorite song
So while she lay there sleeping, I read the paper in bed
And in the personal columns, there was this letter I read:

"If you like Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain
If you're not into yoga, if you have half a brain
If you'd like making love at midnight, in the dunes on the Cape
then I'm the love that you've looked for, write to me and escape."

Of course, we all know that at the end of the song he ended up responding to HER personal ad, and they "laughed for a moment"...I don't know 'bout you, but I wouldn't be laughing!

As I navigated through the site, I found the testimonials. It's amazing how far people go to justify what they're doing.

I just wanted to thank you for your service. I have met my soul mate here. We are both trapped in loveless marriages that we can't leave for numerous reasons. However thanks to you we have found the joy that was lost so long ago. Thank you for making us feel alive again.

So, they're "trapped" in loveless marriages that they "can't get out of for numerous reasons"? They didn't go into detail on what these reasons were, but I've always been from the school of thinking that says, if you're unhappy, GET OUT! If you found your soul mate, don't let him go! I believe that when you've found the ONE person you feel you're meant to spend the rest of your life with, you should celebrate that relationship. Not hide it. It just seems so sad to me.

This comment also left me feeling a bit sad (for all the people involved):

... I have met 3 woman from A.M....all completely different and in different circumstances. Be careful what you ask for, you might just get it!!!

I know that deciding to cheat on your partner is a choice. You can CHOOSE to continue that "emotional affair" with that co-worker, friend, neighbor, or you can limit contact before things get out of hand. But THIS is different. This is setting out TO CHEAT. Knowing full well what you want, what you're doing and what the potential consequences could be. It's building the fire AND playing with it. My question is why? If your marriage has "lost that loving feeling", why not try and re-connect with your partner? If the love is completely lost, why not get out and give yourself and your partner a chance at finding true and lasting love? Not "love" with an expiration date.

What do you think? Do you think this site is providing a needed service? Or is it socially irresponsible?

Ok, so first a quick recap of the Imus/Corzine story.  Imus insults the Rutgers women's basketball team.  Team agrees to meet with Imus at Governor's mansion.  Corzine gets in a car wreck on the way there, landing in ICU with many injuries.  

Then it turns out that Corzine wasn't wearing his seatbelt.  Then we learn more from the SUV's black box; that the SUV was going 91 mph in a 65 mph zone on a very dangerous highway.

Here's the latest twist in this saga.  The trooper-driver had been receiving multiple communications before the crash from the scorned cop-husband of a woman with whom he had been having an affair.  How did he receive some of these messages?  Via his Blackberry of course.

And just to get the internet involved, how did we find out about this?  The scorned husband Mathis, who is also a cop, posted this information on a forum on NJ.com, which is the website for most of NJ's newspapers, under his real name.

New details emerged yesterday in a pair of online postings written by Mathis. A 22-year police veteran, Mathis authored the postings in a Statehouse forum on NJ.com, a Web portal for The Star-Ledger and its sister newspapers. He later confirmed in a phone call that the postings were his.

Mathis, 40, wrote that he discovered a month ago that his wife, 36-year-old Susan Mathis, was having a 2 1/2-year affair and that they are now in the process of divorcing.

He said he confronted Rasinski for the first time in a phone call April 10, two days before the crash, and then exchanged text messages with him April 11 and the morning of April 12.

Just minutes before the crash, as Corzine's two-vehicle motorcade sped northward on the Parkway in Atlantic County around 6 p.m., Mathis sent an e-mail to Rasinski, the officer wrote.

State Police investigators are seeking to determine whether Rasinski saw that e-mail, perhaps through the use of a BlackBerry. Attached to the e-mail was a Mathis family photo, a law enforcement official with knowledge of the case said.

Ok, so many things to talk about with this story.  First of all, something that has always baffled  me.  When someone is caught cheating, why do the scorned lovers go after the other person?

Second of all, internet forums.  Why would you go on a forum and tell all of your dirty laundry to the whole state?

Third, Blackberrys.  Here's my opinion on them; I wish they had never been invented.