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Campus Watch: Coed Dorm Rooms

Sun May 04, 2008 at 07:31:14 AM PDT

When it came to the opposite sex, my Cuban father was super strict, not allowing us to even receive phone calls from boys. I was disappointed to discover that the floor of my college dorm room was coed, giving my father more reason to blast my decision to live on campus rather than at home.

I am just glad coed rooms, something popping up in college campuses today, were not available when I was a student in the '90s. From the Associated Press:

At least two dozen schools, including Brown University, the University of Pennsylvania, Oberlin College, Clark University and the California Institute of Technology, allow some or all students to share a room with anyone they choose, including someone of the opposite sex. This spring, as students sign up for next year's room, more schools are following suit, including Stanford University.

As shocking as it sounds to some parents, some students and schools say it's not about sex.

Instead, they say the demand is mostly from heterosexual students who want to live with close friends who happen to be of the opposite sex. Some gay students who feel more comfortable rooming with someone of the opposite sex are also taking advantage of the option.

While schools tend to discourage romantically involved couples from rooming together, it is allowed in some college campuses.

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Couples do sometimes room together, an arrangement known at some schools as "roomcest." Brown explicitly discourages couples from living together on campus, be they gay or straight. But the University of California, Riverside has never had a problem with a roommate couple breaking up midyear, said James C. Smith, assistant director for residence life.

Most schools introduced the couples option in the past three or four years. So far, relatively few students are taking part. At the University of Pennsylvania, which began offering coed rooms in 2005, about 120 out of 10,400 students took advantage of the option this year.

At UC Riverside, which has approximately 6,000 students in campus housing, about 50 have roommates of the opposite sex. The school has had the option since 2005.

This discussion is years away in my household. But would you consider letting your child stay in a coed room?

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