Mother Talkers

Weekend Open Thread

Fri May 16, 2008 at 06:05:17 AM PDT

Author and activist Alice Walker is still publicly feuding with her daughter, Rebecca. Well, Rebecca keeps talking about it to the press, this time with the Sunday Times of London.

“My mother did a lot of leaving to go to her writing retreat, which was over 100 miles away — so she’d go there and leave me a little bit of money, leave me in the care of a neighbour,” recalls Rebecca, now 38.

“When I was pregnant at 14, I think it was because I was so lonely that I was reaching out through my sexuality. My mother’s a crusader for daughters around the world, but couldn’t see that her own daughter was having a difficult time. It was me having to psycho-emotionally tiptoe around her, rather than her taking care of me.”

Walker is furious with Rebecca for making such sentiments public, and mother and daughter are estranged with little hope of reconciliation. Rebecca has a three-year-old son, Tenzin, whom her mother has never seen. Their last meaningful exchange, during Rebecca’s pregnancy, ended in Walker sending a terse e-mail in which she resigned from “the job” of being her mother, and told her that in any case their relationship had been “inconsequential” for years.

The depth of her anger was such that she refused to budge even when Rebecca had a difficult birth and Tenzin’s life hung in the balance in a special-care baby unit. “My father called her to tell her what was happening. He couldn’t imagine that she wouldn’t run right over . . . In some ways, I wanted her to — but in other ways, I didn’t. I knew she wouldn’t be able to be there for me in the way I wanted. It would be problematic.”

Ouch.

In-Home Care Costs Shoot Through the Roof: The costs of in-home care for an elderly patient has risen by 17 percent since 2004 to $76,460 a year, according to the Alzheimer's Association. As the organization recently pointed out in its newsletter, many Americans are woefully unprepared to deal with skyrocketing costs and a dwindling number of options to care for their elderly family members.

Ford Recalls Pick-Up Trucks: In case you missed it, Ford has recalled its F-150 pickup truck and Lincoln Mark LT because of a faulty hose tied to the trucks' brakes, according to the Associated Press. The recall affects more than 600,000 customers in the United States and another 50,000 in Canada.

Immoral and Unconscionable: The military junta that controls Burma continues to bar foreign aid, including that from nearby Thailand, according to the Associated Press. Yet, the death toll in the country from a vicious cyclone is about to reach 127,000. Sick.

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Update on Fallout of China Earthquake: Chinese officials continue to uncover victims of a deadly earthquake that claimed the lives of 20,000 people and has buried tens of thousands of others, according to the Associated Press. As CNN pointed out, the Chinese government has acted judiciously, but the Chinese people are still in dire need of food, medical attention and water.

Big Pharma Taking Over: More than half of insured Americans are taking prescription drugs for chronic health problems, according to the Associated Press.

The most widely used drugs are those to lower high blood pressure and cholesterol — problems often linked to heart disease, obesity and diabetes...

Experts say the data reflect not just worsening public health but better medicines for chronic conditions and more aggressive treatment by doctors. For example, more people are now taking blood pressure and cholesterol-lowering medicines because they need them, said Dr. Daniel W. Jones, president of the American Heart Association.

In addition, there is the pharmaceutical industry’s relentless advertising. With those factors unlikely to change, doctors say the proportion of Americans on chronic medications can only grow.

I am spending my weekend with Erika, Papi Blez, and Maya -- who came up from Orange County -- and my Markos and Eli who are back from El Salvador. The reunion was sweet. A tired Eli simply laid her head on my shoulder as I squeezed her for a long time. In just the short amount of time she was gone, she has learned new things: She now walks holding only one of my hands, can eat a piece of fruit without making a mess and is copying everything I do. Yesterday I clipped her nails and she took the clipper away from me so she could try to do it herself. Yes, she is Miss Independent.

What else is in the news? What is up with you? Have a good weekend all!

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