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New Parent Nightmares... Literally!

Thu Sep 13, 2007 at 09:17:22 AM PDT


I’ve always been one for strange dreams and nightmares.  I’ve heard that dreams are the mind’s way of processing the day’s events.  Stress can sure come out in a dream.  So, it should be no surprise that three out of four moms reported having nightmares about their babies.  

New parents reported having dreams about floating babies, babies falling out windows, and miscarriages.  I had a few miscarriage dreams, though I have never actually experienced miscarriage myself.  

For me, my most intense dreams occurred during pregnancy.  To this day I still remember one I had while pregnant with Madeline.  She was already born and talking, and throwing things all over the place while having some sort of temper tantrum.  She ran out the front door and into traffic.  Of course I couldn’t move in the dream... paralyzed like my legs were made of lead.  I woke up shaken, sweating, and terrified in the middle of the night and it took me at least an hour to fall back asleep again.  

I guess it’s just the stress of parenthood making it’s way into your subconscious.  What gets me is how REAL the dreams seem.  Maybe it’s due to interrupted sleep patterns during pregnancy and once the baby’s born?

Apparently, birth mothers aren’t the only ones to experience nerve rattling dreams.  Fathers and adoptive mothers have the same kind of nightmares...

In the five months since her son was born, Erin of Concord, Calif., has yet to have a baby-related nightmare, but her husband frequently has them.
“One night ... I asked him to close the window, and he gathered up our comforter like he was carrying a baby, picked it up and walked to the window with it," writes Erin of Concord, Calif. "After closing the window, he laid the comforter back down and fell asleep."

My children are 4 ½ and 7 and I still have the occasional child related nightmare.  My husband does too.  Let’s face it... they are the most important things in our lives.  I guess it’s only natural to have a stress dream about them from time to time.  

How ‘bout you, MotherTalkers?  Have you ever had a strange dream about your baby?  You aren’t alone!

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