Mother Talkers

Weekend Open Thread

Sat Aug 25, 2007 at 07:10:48 AM PDT

Despite PerezHilton’s news story that Cuban President Fidel Castro is dead, the Florida press sez he is probably still alive.

When I read Perez’s piece, I went to Granma, the Cuban newspaper, to see if Fidel had recently posted one of his famous hours-long speeches. He hadn’t. In fact, there was only this story about how 2,000 journalists worldwide gathered in Havana for the unveiling of a book on interviews with him. Hmm.

But I also know this “Castro is dead!” hysteria all too well. Like Perez, I am Cuban. Growing up in Miami, I can't begin to count how many times I have heard:

--“Castro has cancer!”

--“Castro gave a speech for only 10 hours versus 14 hours. He must have cancer!”

--“Castro hasn’t been out in days. He must be dead from cancer!”

The cancer rumor was rampant. It didn't matter. Each rumor was enough to send my family and I to Univision for hours at a time. I will believe it when I see CNN cover his (open casket) funeral.

A scare story: More women in the U.S. are dying in childbirth, according to an MSN article, which included the picture of a healthy, pregnant mom with her two sons. (The mother died a month later in childbirth.)

But once you read the story, you will realize that the actual death rate has risen by one a year from 12 per 100,000 births to 13 per 100,000 births. The article blames the rise in C-sections for the death due to blood loss and other complications related to the surgery. But the article goes on to say that states such as California and Montana have changed the way deaths are reported. Also, African-American women appear at greater risk due to high blood pressure and poor prenatal care. Obese women are also at greater risk for maternal death.

As for the woman in the picture, she actually died a day after delivering her baby vaginally. She died of a heart attack following massive blood loss. The doctor, who was not found legally responsible for her death, says he never conducted an autopsy -- a decision he now regrets.

I don’t doubt that c-sections -- or any surgery for that matter -- carry greater risks. And while 12 to 13 is statistically relevant, it seems to be a small number when you take into consideration all the other risk factors and the different ways deaths are reported. The headline was so much more frightening than the actual story.

Another health story: Women who are overweight are more likely to quit breastfeeding than their normal-weight sisters, according to Reuters. The study was conducted in Denmark where breastfeeding is nearly universal and the women receive plenty of social support.

Among women who were morbidly obese (body mass index of 40 or greater), 14.4 percent had stopped exclusive breast-feeding by the time their child was a week old, compared with 3.5 percent of normal-weight women. Throughout the course of the study, the likelihood of stopping breast-feeding rose with BMI.

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U.S. studies have also shown that heavier women are less likely to nurse their infants.

A good Cary Tennis column: Here is a letter that may resonate with this community. “A Bad Son” wrote Tennis to say that he didn’t like his parents and “dreads” seeing them because they are Republicans. They are not estranged, but he is wondering if he can change his “bad attitude” towards them.

While I may disagree with some of my parents’ beliefs or lifestyle choices, I agree with Tennis that it is possible to find common ground with family. Sometimes, the disagreement arises because children are too much like their parents. Tennis pointed this out to Bad Son:

As you do this, consider your own political beliefs, and what they feel like, and how they fit into your social world. You say you have no Republican friends. So does that mean that you feel particularly strongly about agreement as a component of friendship? Do you have any friends you like just because they are funny, or because you have been through things together and you admire how they handled certain tough situations? If not, I might suggest that you and your father are alike in this way: That you are both a little narrow in your choice of friends. If he is narrow and you are narrow, then it is not likely for there to be much common ground. But you would have common ground in the style and manner in which you have processed your experiences: Your experiences have led you to affiliate almost exclusively with non-Republicans; his experience has been different, and yet he has processed it in the same way, and reached the same conclusion: stay away from anybody who does not agree with him.

Can you think of a difference in viewpoint that would make you stop talking to your parents?

Finally, a weekend to do nothing! Because of all the traveling, we have literally not had a weekend to ourselves and have held on to the same two Netflix movies for close to two months. We will watch them today. What's up all?

Tags: PerezHilton, Fidel Castro, Cary Tennis, breastfeeding, maternal death, childbirth (all tags)

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