Making friends
Wed May 30, 2007 at 02:42:04 PM PDT
I don't make friends easily. While people always like me right off the bat, I don't seem to cultivate real friendships. The ones I've had over the years have faded away as our lives drifted apart. Now I live with my BFF and I'm friends with his other BFF & his awesome wife, known here as cgisele12 (who sadly lives halfway across the US from us), and I have been "adopted" by my BFF's family who live locally (my family is scattered across the US). But that's it. And I'm fine with that.
I know I want better for my DS. I want to teach him the value of true friendships, and help him develop those friendships (unlike my mom who always undermined my friendships, saying, they don't really like you, etc.-- yes, she had problems). DS is only two now but I'm already thinking about it.
My main problem is, I don't want to socialize with anyone. I don't even really care if I leave the house that much. And while this online community is a godsend, I'm not that excited about being around moms in person.
I'm probably jumping the gun. It won't be long at all before he's in some school environment making his own friends, and if he were invited to a party I'd be happy to go along and make small talk. But for right now, should I be worried that he calls Kipper and the Berenstain Bears his "friends"? Or inanimate objects? He's a real people person, always has been. At age 2, am I doing him a disservice by not taking him out to meet other people? We have a playground in our neighborhood but for some reason when we go we're the only ones there (new neighborhood, still under half built). For those of you who have helped me with my neighbor woes, this is why I was so concerned I'd tanked the only friendships he'd made.
What do y'all think? Am I worrying too soon, or am I right to worry? Should I be doing something? And if so, what, considering I'm not that keen on socializing myself? I don't want him to turn out like me, I don't want to set a bad example, but...
Well, moms, bring it!
