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Homework for Parents?

Thu Oct 04, 2007 at 08:57:15 AM PDT

Should parents be required to revisit their high school years? My initial reaction reveals my uber-geeky nature: "Sounds fun!" But I might feel differently if actually forced to do this...-Erika

Today's New York Times had an interesting article about a teacher who assigns homework to the parents of his high school English students. They are expected to write essays on the same topics their kids are studying. If they don't comply, their kid's grade suffers.

The point, he said, is to keep parents involved in their children's ' education well into high school. Studies have shown that parental involvement improves the quality of the education a student receives, but teenagers seldom invite that involvement. So, Mr. Frye said, he decided to help out.

''Parents complain about never getting to see their kids' work,'' he said. ''Now they have to.''

Some parents, he added, seem happy to revisit their high school years.

''There was one parent last year who would write pages and pages of stuff. It was great, so good to read,'' said Mr. Frye, who graduated from Montclair High in 1994.

Others are more resistant. ''When my daughter told me about the homework, I looked at her and said, 'You've got to be kidding me. I graduated. I'm done,''' said Lydia Bishop, a local real estate broker whose daughter Vanessa was in Mr. Frye's class last year. ''I did it very resentfully, but I did it.''

My first (and second and third, and probably last) reaction is No F-Ing Way. Not in high school. Grade school, sure. But high school? I am so over writing bullshit essays for power-tripping teachers. I don’t want some teacher, who knows nothing about me or my family, presume to "improve my relationship" with my child through their homework. I also think high school is a time when kids learn how to forge independent relationships and build self-confidence, and requiring regular intervention of parents diminishes this.

My friends all seemed to think it was a great idea (none of us have high school aged kids yet). One commented that she wished her parents would have helped her more and been more involved in her school work.

When I asked my mom for help with my homework, I always got lower grades. She over-thought EVERYTHING. I only ever asked for help with English (she was clueless in math and science) and never asked her help past first quarter, 10th grade, when I caught on to the fact that I was better at playing the game than she was.

So, MTers, am I out of the mainstream here? Should I happily revisit ninth grade English (and can I add I really didn't like English classes, despite my love of reading and writing)? What would you think if given an assignments like this from your kid's high school teacher?  Did your parents help you with homework?

Tags: high school, homework, parenting (all tags)

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