Mother Talkers

Men are happier than you

Mon Oct 15, 2007 at 08:14:49 AM PDT

David Leonhardt of The New York Times examines a study that came out last year, showing a growing happiness gap between men and women since the 1960s.  In the 1970s, women reported being slightly happier than men, however, since then, women's happiness has been on the decline.  Men now report being happier than women.  Why?

What has changed — and what seems to be the most likely explanation for the happiness trends — is that women now have a much longer to-do list than they once did (including helping their aging parents). They can’t possibly get it all done, and many end up feeling as if they are somehow falling short ...

Betsey Stevenson, an economist at the University of Pennsylvania, explains it this way, that women were happier three decades ago becauuse they had "narrower ambitions," and compared themselves only to other women.  Stevenson recollects a conversation with a student:

Her mother’s goals in life, the student said, were to have a beautiful garden, a well-kept house and well-adjusted children who did well in school. "I sort of want all those things, too," the student said, as Ms. Stevenson recalled, "but I also want to have a great career and have an impact on the broader world."

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Leonhardt sums it up.  Basically, despite all the great gains, despite all the hard work by the feminists, this data shows, "just how incomplete the gender revolution has been. Although women have flooded into the work force, American society hasn’t fully come to grips with the change. The United States still doesn’t have universal preschool, and, in contrast to other industrialized countries, there is no guaranteed paid leave for new parents."

As we've talked about before, the pressures on mothers these days are clearly through the roof, along with the pressure to be a fabulous homemaker, all while maintaining a career.  No wonder the polls come out so unhappy!  Even for me, as an at-home mother, I often feel like I am trying to do too much; I take care of two young children all day yet feel guilty when my house looks like crap at the end of the day and dinner is less than gourmet.

What do you think MTers?  Do you think that women wanting to do everything, be the best at everything is the recipe for women's unhappiness?  Do you think that women, pre-1970s were happier?

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