I am so sorry! While my physical issues have never been about infertility we have probably all felt let down by our bodies sometimes and it feels like such a deep, awful betrayal.

There are a lots of ways to become a mother, but I repect and salute your need to care for yourself while you face this particular obstacle. Our best laid plans... I too have mourned the death of some very precious dreams. But I will say that other opportunities presented themselves when I was ready. I hope the same for you.

I am new here myself, but I have enjoyed your posts and comments and I hope to hear from you really soon!!!

Please take care!

And, I too, have enjoyed your wisdom and input on this site.

Please take care of yourself and take all the time you need. We will be here for you...

we had difficulty, but by no means even close to your difficulty here. Holidays will be the worst, this one coming up I'm sure stings. I don't think that you ever get "over" a disappointment, but you find ways to compartmentalize, to heal with it all. There are many paths to parenting, and I hope you and your husband can  come to an agreement regarding which path, if any, is best for you. A vacation from the topic is definitely in order. Good luck and you're in thoughts/ prayers.

you've been a great addition to this community.  Maybe your grief is not self-pity.  Don't judge yourself or minimize your pain.  Take good care of yourself.

I'm so sorry.  

I hope your vacation from the whole thing is healing for your and I hope that you and your husband find peace in the whole thing. And I hope that you are back here again some day.

I'm so sorry for your heartache.

Please know that there are many women here who can relate to your pain, me included.

Obviously I don't know the details of your diagnosis, but I was diagnosed as "infertile" the first time around. I was lucky enough to conceive using drugs; now I am trying to conceive again and the same treatment isn't working. I'm not sure what our next step will be.

Of course I am fortunate to have a beautiful daughter, and I try to focus on that as much as possible. But I can't help but feel like my body is betraying me, like I'm "less than" all the pregnant women I see every. freaking. day. It seems so easy to get pregnant, but for me it has been anything but.

I hope that you have options, whether it be treatment, surgery, adoption...and I know you and your DH will get through this. Hugs to you, and I hope to see you back here some day.

and do the things that make you happy - this is a loss as real as any other for you.  

We'll be sending you good thoughts.

I wish you the best and hope you can find a path that works well for you and your husband.

and empathy.  My dh and I struggled with infertility for 5 years....and then after  surgery and year's recovery (for my husband) we indeed got pregnant.  But the 5 year roller coaster was extremely challenging and difficult to accept on many levels...as someone wrote above, I think many times in life we learn how to live with these very big disappointments or losses - it isn't necessarily a question of getting over something or accepting - it is going on in spite of and perhaps redirecting a focus so that the loss recedes to a place that isn't as searingly painful every day.

I wish for you whatever you need today.  Yesterdays and tomorrows reside only in our minds.  Take good care of yourself and lean on others for support if that is comforting to you.  Hugs.

We had four years of infertility, unknown cause, before conceiving our twins through fertility drugs and IUI. So I know some of what you are going through, although not the full extent.

I know Mother's Day was the worst for me -- I will hold you in my heart this Sunday.

I'm so sorry biology isn't cooperating for you at this time. I've had a few friends struggle with infertility--such a painful and hard-to-explain loss . . .  take care of yourself and know that we'll be thinking of you.

and at a loss for words.

I wish you all the best and hope that you and your DH will find a way to deal with this that works for both of you. Please take good care of yourself and know that you are allways very welcome here.

Sending you hugs as you work through this difficult time.

We will miss having you here. I hope you will back someday. In the meantime, take care of yourself. I will be thinking of you and your husband.

Yeah, these fleshy shells own us. It does suck.

Take care of yourself.

I'm sorry. You'll always be welcome here whether you end up a parent or not.

Good luck.  Sorry this has been so rough.  Hopefully you'll be back soon with good news.

Take care of yourself.  I hope to see you here again.

Your comments and insight will be missed while you're gone. Take care of yourself and know that we'll be right here.

you are brave to post this. I know the pain of infertility and like many other women, was never able to get pregnant. There is plenty of pain and no easy answers. No one size fits all. Yes, parenting, mother sites are hard to endure - and it feels like enduring -- when you are going through this.

Blessings on your journey -- whatever that journey is.

We're like family here, hardlyaclue. We're always here again when you want/need us.

I am so sorry for this diagnosis, and I hope with time you can gain contentment, perspective and new hope. We're waiting for you when you want to come back.

i'm so sorry- you have me in tears.

miracles happen all of the time- they honestly do.  i know you'll be back to tell us about yours.

i don't know you, but i love you.

it's going to be ok.

My friends tend to be like me - older, professional, child delaying types.  Infertility is a common history among the moms I know.  Most needed a break after years of TTC.  I think you're wise to get away for a while.

There are many roads to motherhood for those of us who find the default route blocked.  If down the line you find yourself thinking about adoption, seek out a local adoptive parenting group.  Just get to know some families - that alone may help clarify what you want to do.  

Your future is murky but not set in stone.  Best wishes.

and sad for you. You sound like you are hurting very badly, and I wish I could make it all go away for you.

I haven't had to face infertility, but I have faced other major life-changing disappointments. And I've found that even though life doesn't always work out like we plan or hope, usually something good comes out of the bad. I truly hope that happens for you, too.

Totally understandable why coming here might be painful for you now. We'll miss your viewpoints here, and hope to see you back here someday soon ... with good news.

Thinking of you.

Do take good care of yourself and come back at anytime.

While I haven't experienced infertility I did experience signficant complications with our children during pregnancy and afterwards -- including loss and near loss.  Your comment about feeling angry at your body/self struck a cord with me.  I felt the same way (and still do) about my body's inability to carry to term without significant complications.  

Be gentle with yourself and get the support that you need - wherever you can find it.

As an aside my husband was initially unsure of adoption but our beloved middle child arrived via adoption.  

Best to you...