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Weekend Open Thread

Fri May 09, 2008 at 05:24:11 AM PDT

The death toll in Burma after a vicious cyclone hit the country this past weekend could reach 60,000, the number of people reported dead or missing, according to the Washington Post.

Because the country is headed by an incompetent, despotic regime, the people are not easily receiving aid. MoveOn.org passed around a link to donate to Burmese monks, who in turn, have been giving food and shelter to the country's poorest people.

These People Scare Me: I was recently perusing the responses to New York Times Magazine's green edition, when I came across this gem:

(Michael) Pollan asserts as self-evident that a small carbon footprint is always a moral good. But suppose a child is very sick and the nearest hospital is 50 miles away. You can ride a horse and the child might die, or take a helicopter and ensure the child lives. In that case, using more fossil fuel is clearly a moral good. Offering this same sort of choice, if played out less dramatically, is why the green movement may fail.

Pollan is asking for human beings to deliberately make their own lives harsher, duller, perhaps even shorter for the sake of an abstraction. Whatever your belief in the merits of cutting carbon emissions, it’s easy to see why this neo-Romantic argument may not win many converts.

Especially inane, though, is Wendell Berry’s suggestion that “specialization” has been bad for humanity. Division of labor has allowed man to rise from savannas and caves to cities, to feed multitudes and to cure deadly disease. Specialization is precisely what will produce the experts who will ultimately figure out how to make cheap energy without fossil fuels. That process, not some Arcadian fantasy that all humanity will voluntarily regress to a semi-industrial state, is the way to a cleaner world.

HAMPTON STEVENS

Kansas City, Kan.

Okay.

Other Strange Encounters: Here is another one of those quirky Berkeley Parents Network letters, although I bet this woman's situation is not as uncommon as we'd like to think:

My husband recently had a one night stand with a woman with whom he previously (about 2 years ago) had a longer-term affair. The one night stand resulted in a pregnancy, and they've decided to keep the baby. The woman lives in another city so he will be parenting from afar - we also have a child together. We started marriage counseling a couple of weeks ago and, at least right now, we both think we'd like to stay together. We definitely have issues outside of this one that we need to work on, and are both committed to doing so. I'm honestly not that hung up on the affair at this point - it's the realization that there will be another child in his life, with another woman, and that child will likely be incorporated into our family in some way, shape, and form in the future. Plus, the fact that the child will be in another city means he will probably spend time away from us, which is hard to handle. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? This is all very fresh and new and I know my feelings will change over time (because they already have a million times in about 3 weeks!) but I need a little long-term perspective on how this situation might ever really work...thanks!
anon

Whew. This woman sounded remarkably calm for what her husband did. Can't wait for the responses...

Leaving Foster Care: The Washington Post followed around this remarkable young woman as she was leaving the foster care system. At 21-years-old, Marie Willis is learning to live on her own, and is handling it with such aplomb.

What else is in the news? What is on your minds today? Have a good weekend all!

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Tags: open thread, Burma, Washington Post, aid, cyclone, New York Times Magazine, Michael Pollan, Berkeley Parents Network, foster care, Sean Penn (all tags)

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  • Dealing with a classmate who has scabies! (0 / 0)

    In April, one of the girls in DD's grade showed up to school with mayonnaise residue in her hair.  We wondered if they were trying a home remedy for lice, so we asked the teacher to send the girl to the school health clerk (no actual nurses here). The report back to us was they saw "something" but it was inconclusive.  Weeks pass, and the kid's hair is always wet in the morning.  On Wednesday the teacher asked, don't you have a blow drier, it's pretty chilly to have wet hair in the morning.  The girl replied, "The bugs were biting me so we washed my hair right before school!"

    Bugs.  Biting her.  Yikes!

    One of my friends had had enough of the speculation so she called the afflicted girl's dad.  The diagnosis is scabies  and she started treatment this past Tuesday.  That means she was at school with untreated scabies since mid April.

    Prior to my friend calling him, the dad was planning to keep this a secret so as not to "stigmatize" his little girl.  So it means that if some other child started itching, he was okay with them going weeks and weeks, wondering about some unexplained rash.  Knowledge is power, man, if scabies is goin' around, parents need to know so they can get their child medical treatment as soon as it starts!  This is not a virus, it's a parasite.  

    Anyone here ever have anything similar happen?  

    • Stigmatizing her? (0 / 0)

      What about the trauma of going to school itchy and uncomfortable with a parasite? She could have scratched sores on her head and skin, gotten an infection, spread the thing to others...grrrr!

      What is the treatment for scabies? Had he taken her to the doctor?

      When I was a preschool teacher I found out very quickly that certain parents would dose their kids with cold medecine and send them to school. Sure enough 3 hours later the kid's fever is spiking, nose is oozing green and they were coughing up mucous.

      One mother defended herself with, "Well, I had a HAIR appointment!" Ah, yes. Reason #101 why I no longer teach!

      • She went to the doctor (0 / 0)

        and got the medicated body cream on Tuesday of this week but the "Bugs biting my head" comment was on Wednesday morning.  The teacher sent her home that day and said they had to have a note from the doctor clearing her to come back to school, and she was there today.

        We don't think the school is going to send notes home - like they would do with lice.  They're protecting the family's privacy.  It's only because my friend called the girl's dad and asked for an explanation that we know anything.

        Perhaps it's not extremely contagious.  It just sounds really awful. And the fact that she came to school untreated for weeks is very sad for all involved.

        • Skin contact, clothing, fabrics, or other items. (0 / 0)

          IIRC, it's relatively easy to spread. But the treatment kills it in a couple of hours - if she started treatment Tuesday, she ought to no longer have been infectious the next day. I'd certainly be on the lookout for it if she'd been at school with it so long without treatment.

          "You're never more alone than when you're alone in a crowd."

          by Expat Briton on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:09:32 PM PDT

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          • Oh, also IIRC.. (0 / 0)

            ..the treatment itself can cause itching skin, it may have been that that the girl was complaining about. If it wasn't a bad infection (and bad ones are visible), with any luck it won't have gone far.

            "You're never more alone than when you're alone in a crowd."

            by Expat Briton on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:11:25 PM PDT

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        • It's incredible that they waited (0 / 0)

          to see a doctor about it.  My sister had scabies from camp one time and it took maybe one treatment with a medicated solution to clear it up - they let the child suffer for weeks?   Ugh.  

          "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

          by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:29:59 PM PDT

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  • I think it's fascinating (0 / 0)

    that there are people who think that their happiness is a direct linear function of how much petroleum they consume. They seem to honestly believe, for example, that having an inefficient refrigerator and air conditioner somehow makes them happier.

    I've had online arguments with some of them, and I really want them to experience a passive solar house - beautiful, incredibly comfortable, and far more efficient.

    • There is an isalnd here (0 / 0)

      called No-Name Key. Its entirely off the grid, all solar. Its not some hippy commune either, all the houses are big (for the Keys) and have lots of property (rare for the Keys).

      Most of the cars are Priuses and such but the scattered Lexuses are also telling... its a luxe life they are living out there!

    • I don't even understand (0 / 0)

      the premise of the woman writing that letter.  She's probably one of those who would insist upon making torture legal because there just might be a "ticking bomb" and the only way to find where its at is to torture the person who placed it.  Too many, ifs, ifs, ifs...

      No one that I know is suggesting that sick children be transported to hospitals via horse drawn cart.  This can't be equated with asking people to set their thermostats down a few degrees or to driving fuel efficient vehicles.

      • Indeed (0 / 0)

        One could argue that using less fuel in Humvees saves it for use in rescue helicopters.

        It's like saying that being frugal with money is dangerous and terrible, because it will keep you from taking your child to the ER.

  • part (0 / 0)

    To the part about the response the NY Times Magazine green issue (which I did not read)..

    I kind of agree with this part...

    Especially inane, though, is Wendell Berry’s suggestion that "specialization" has been bad for humanity. Division of labor has allowed man to rise from savannas and caves to cities, to feed multitudes and to cure deadly disease. Specialization is precisely what will produce the experts who will ultimately figure out how to make cheap energy without fossil fuels. That process, not some Arcadian fantasy that all humanity will voluntarily regress to a semi-industrial state, is the way to a cleaner world.

    I think growing all of your own food and making your own clothes and baking all of your bread and living off the grid is interesting, but we need to work on real solutions for everyone, because there is no way we are all going to go back to that, and I'm not even sure we could.  Or that we would want to.

    • I'm not sure everyone doing so (0 / 0)

      wouldn't create other environmental problems.  However, I'm more than happy to let the willing be our incubators...maybe these are the people who will come up with workable solutions that satisfies our need for time and efficiency.

      • I think we need a mix (0 / 0)

        One thing that we need especially is an understanding of the value of how much other people do for us and how much we depend upon them. There's nothing like growing a garden - at least once - to get an appreciation for how wonderful it is to be able to go to to the market and buy any produce you want any time you want for a token amount of money.

        But I also think there's value in doing what you can when you can. For example, if you're going to have a garden and landscaping, why not make it edible instead of just lawn?

        • I'm very practical. (0 / 0)

          I always think along those lines.  I do think there's many lessons we could all learn by living in less material/consumeristic ways.  Being thrifty used to be considered an admirable trait...and often, it takes less work, not more.  I'd be happy if we could get more people on that page.

    • ITA (0 / 0)

      I have health problems that prevent me from working the land, churning the butter, sewing the clothes, hauling water, etc.  But I am able to contribute in other ways due to my education and experience.

      I just brought my husband home from a successful surgery.  Thank goodness the surgeon spent years and years in increasingly specialized training, including a spine fellowship.  

      I like Wendell Berry a lot and when I was healthier I used to fantasize about his chosen lifestyle.  But even then, halfway through the fantasy I'd be all, Every day?  Not just like a dude ranch experience?  I don't think so.

      • So glad everything is going well (0 / 0)

        with your husband.  Hope you take some time to relax this weekend.

        • thanks (0 / 0)

          I'm feeling pretty trashed.  It wasn't exactly a deluxe hospital experience -- two nights sleeping on the floor (on a comforter).  They wouldn't let me inflate my air mattress.  But you know what? We got out of there with no complications, no staph, no MRSA, no sepsis, and I am eternally grateful.  Not that I was worried LOL!

          I definitely plan to relax.  I saw my cardio today and my NCS sx are back to the same as when I started :(  I am hoping it's due to recent stress and not long-term.

          I hope you are hanging in there with your SonIL's health and trying to tamper your impatience in waiting for your first grandbaby!

          • We're doing all right... (0 / 0)

            Spent the day at my parents' today, so tomorrow, I'm doing absolutely nothing.  

            Can you possibly manage to take a couple of days off this coming week?  Sometimes, just a few days can really make a difference.  If you're not feeling better, maybe your cardiologist can temporarily up the dosage of your medication.  We do what we can to get through.

            I'm glad it went well for your husband.  I wish him a continued uneventful recovery.  Glad  you found a surgeon that you could both be comfortable with.  Sometimes, we find these doctors in the least likely of places!

            • sigh.... (0 / 0)

              I have a busy work coming up at work and was sort of counting on the recovery being easier than it has been so far.  We just got back from Urgent Care because he had a temp of 99.5.  I know it doesn't constitute a fever, but he was running around 98.3 the whole time we were in the hospital and the wound is puffy and a little red.  I guess you could say I'm paranoid about post-op infections.  Then while we were there he remembered his urine looked a little red just before we left the house, and sure enough there's a "moderate" amount.  So we're going back at 6 a.m. Tuesday, before I go to work, for a follow-up. All the surgeons we interviewed really made it sound like a very simple recovery, now we're told DH can't drive for 4 weeks.  Gah.  

              And I was feeling sorry for a single mom who was having a really hard time taking time off work to bring her kid into the office, so I offered to go to her house Tuesday evening and eyeball him.  I am regretting that, now.  

              Waaaa Waaaa Waaaa.... that's enough whining for now!

              Thanks for the good wishes.  I hope you enjoy a very relaxing Mother's Day doing nothing but resting and basking in your children's love :)

              • take care of yourself, Mamacita! (0 / 0)

                Wish I lived in the neighborhood... would love to do something like cook y'alls a dinner or four for the next week.

                Sorry to hear that DH is spiking a fever, but hope it can be contained. Hope you make it through the week without exhausting yourself. Watch out for yourself!

              • Oh....its always something, isn't it? (0 / 0)

                Urinary infections post-op are fairly common...and at least you caught it pretty early.  And you gotta love the criteria used by the medical profession...."simple" can mean something very different than what we understand it to mean.  Rather like the neurosurgeon telling my husband and I that his mother was "fine" and "doing well" a week past surgery despite the fact that she was in a coma and on a ventilator.  

                And you deserve to whine a little! Consider it your Mother's Day gift to yourself.  I really haven't whined today, but then again, this is the first time I've even been up!  

      • Glad! (0 / 0)

        Glad to hear the surgery went well!  Great news!

        And yeah, I think specialization is a good thing too.

      • so glad to hear DH's surgery was successful! (0 / 0)

        I wish him (and you) a healthy and speedy recovery. I'm so glad to hear the news!

      • So good to hear (0 / 0)

        your husband's surgery went well. I hope you can all get some rest now and get well soon!

      • Glad the surgery (0 / 0)

        was successful. Hope the recovery will go smoothly.

  • Wow (0 / 0)

    Michelle Duggar is pregnant again with her 18th child...her youngest is 9 months old.

    http://ap.google.com/...

    Why am I always amazed when this woman is pregnant again?  I should be used to it by now!

  • Ugh (0 / 0)

    Woke up at 4:41 am to hear the Little Boy calling for me.  Seems as if we have our first stomach bug as parents.  Luckily DH arrived on scene first and started the clean up.  I was in charge of clean sheets.  

    Poor guy is not doing that much better today. He's got a bucket and a nest on the couch and is alternating between sleeping and being sick.  Also very snuggly with us.  

    We're hoping it passes soon, as he has a scheduled visit with his mom tomorrow.  I think I'l be making calls this afternoon to give everyone a heads-up, as I am not taking a sick kid in the car for a visit if he's not 100% tomorrow.

  • GPA? (0 / 0)

    When you calculate your GPA do you use all of your grades from university or are you allowed to drop off the lowest?   I'm trying to figure out how my Canadian grades translate into American grades and I know when I applied to teacher's college they only too the top 30 marks (or something) allowing me to drop off those terrible Geography and Biology marks from first year.  

    Also, should I go to law school?  

    "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

    by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:41:26 PM PDT

    • I've never heard of (0 / 0)

      being allowed to drop some of the grades.  Maybe it depends on who's asking for it?

      • Seriously? (0 / 0)

        That might blow that dream.

        "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

        by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:46:51 PM PDT

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        • When I went (0 / 0)

          my LSAT was more important than my grades. My undergrad grades were good but not outstanding. My LSAT was 96th percentile, though.

          No real advice here, I am thinking of returning to work but not necessarily in law. I enjoyed a lot of what I did, but I've enjoyed other things I've done outside the law.

          • Been thinking about you (0 / 0)

            I may ask to pick your brain about this choice later if that's okay?  

            I don't think I want to return to teaching (although it is probably the best mom job out there) so the law school thing came up - it's the first time my husband has been supportive of me going back to school at all.  I think I could definietly do it and I've got a year to prepare everything so if I work really hard on the application I might be able to get in.   One of my worries is that my degrees are pretty old (and foreign) so I don't know how that stacks up to the fresh young things trying to get in these days - I don't have boatloads of volunteer work since I've been mothering for the past 10 years!  

            "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

            by lonestar canuck on Sat May 10, 2008 at 08:24:33 AM PDT

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            • My hubby went to law school (0 / 0)

              with an older guy from England. The guy was in his 50's? And his degrees were old and foreign... There shouldn't be too big of a problem. My DH also had some bad early college grades but was able to score high enough on LSAT to get into a wide varitey of schools.

              I would highly recommend a good LSAT prep course too.

            • old is good (0 / 0)

              Old people make better students - we're presumed more serious and committed than the fresh young things, and in theory we know what we're about.  It's a positive for professional schools.  And based on the lamentations I've been hearing from faculty friends lately, foreign's probably a point in your favor too.

      • me either (0 / 0)

        The only way I can imagine some grades being dropped is if they're not relevant to the next course of study - like say, maybe if you're going for graduate school in literature they don't care about that lousy physics grade.

      • I've had some do it two ways... (0 / 0)

        First for all your grades and then second with just your major.  Another is first for all grades and then second with only Sophomore year and up. So maybe there's flexibility.

        If there's no detail, I'd expect that they want all the grades, but if you're submitting a resume or something, then you can differentiate.

        Also, from doing admissions as a student rep a few times, we did frequently look at the transcripts and if grades were off in areas that were less relevant for the program then we'd be less concerned.

        As for law school...  I know it's not for me but I also know others who love it. Good luck with that decision!

    • Law school! (0 / 0)

      That's exciting!

      I don't think schools drop grades here.  Although they may not take a few into account depending what they are.  But I think you would calculate your GPA with all the grades in there.

      • It would be another year (0 / 0)

        #3 starts kindergarten this fall but it's only half days.  So fall 2009 he's in school full time and I might get a life.  I'm playing with a bunch of ideas but law school seems to be the only one that makes my husband's eyes light up.  I think he's thinking I'll make a gabillion dollars at it and he can retire early....

        I'm worried that my 15 year old marks are way too low though - I can study my heart out for the LSAT but the drinking I did at 19 may come back to haunt me!

        "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

        by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 04:10:24 PM PDT

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        • take a sample LSAT (0 / 0)

          and see how you do.  If you ace it, the grades might not matter as much.

          I would talk to a LOT of lawyers before going to law school.  I've talked to many who liked school but couldn't stand practicing, and then there's all that debt.  Of course, there are happy lawyers, too!

    • Law School (0 / 0)

      Many peeps have told me to go to law school (perhaps because I am argumentative?) but I resist. I have no respect for precedent (upon which most law is written), no respect for judges (or any authority for that matter), and don't want to take the LSAT (I have no logic skills).

      You should do a list of pros and cons and see where you fall. I just can't fathom kissing a judge's ass - ever or for any reason -  even if it was to win a case. That said, one does not have to practice law or be a trial lawyer, but still, I don't see myself getting through law school with my attitude.

      Good luck in deciding and in messing with your GPA!

      • The thing is (0 / 0)

        that if I wanted to go back to teaching New York State expects me to get a master's...well, if I have to go back to school anyway I think I'll go in a different direction.  

        I lean towards the non-messy kind of law though.  Stuff like wills, immigration, houses etc.  I couldn't handle anything where I'm likely to get my heart broken.  

        "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

        by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 04:13:44 PM PDT

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        • different kinds of law (0 / 0)

          We just got our wills together and we worked with an estate lawyer who seemed to really enjoy her job. My DH is an environmental lawyer and he works for the government. Loves his job. He's rarely (as in once or twice) been before a judge. My sense is, if you want to make gabillions of dollars, you'll work all the time and you probably won't love your job. If you're willing to settle for a reasonable salary, you might find an area of the law and a practice that is very rewarding. Also, you should consider the burden of school loans. I don't know if you're planning on taking them, but they're steep and they can really inhibit your choices out of school.

          • My husband's dream (0 / 0)

            is that I make a gabillion dollars...

            I think I may be missing something on the cost stuff though - looking at the tuition, it's fairly steep but it's not adding up to a huge debt at the end.  What else am I missing?  I'm looking only at State schools though - no Harvard for me!

            "As God is my witness, I thought turkeys could fly"

            by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 07:31:18 PM PDT

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    • There should be (0 / 0)

      an Office of Overseas Skill Recognition or some similar thing. I had to go through it when I got to Oz. They did some seriously weird mumbo jumbo to calculate my Australian equivalents.

      From memory, you don't drop the lowest, but the Australian schools only use the last three years of your degree (since degrees here are only three years).

      • that would be awesome (0 / 0)

        now I'm interested in a PhD. My first year wasn't bad by any means (hey, I had a scholarship to earn), but my last three years were really great. Who-hoo!

        • A phd here is totally easy. (0 / 0)

          Honestly. It's three years, paid, tax free. And you just do research and write it up. If you treat it like a job and put in the hours, it's completely easy. Mind you, I've been told that I'm odd and fairly organized and determined.

          But no classes, no examinations, no thesis defense. Seriously. Why not do it?

          • are you kidding? (0 / 0)

            Mine was scheduled to take 7 years, and that was AFTER a master's in the same general subject area.

            I'm curious how you get a good all-around grounding in your field without coursework.  My diss was pretty specific and there's a whole loy of other important stuff I wouldn't have learned if I hadn't done coursework that covered it in depth.

            No exams?  No defense?  That is amazing!

            • It's a very different system. (0 / 0)

              Starting with the undergraduate degree. They see the American BS or BA as "fluffy" here (not my opinion, I think it turns out well rounded people). The Australian unis are more like the British ones (I think), in that you ONLY study your subject area. So if you are doing a biology degree, you're not going to take anything that isn't directly related to Biology. No languages, no literature, no history. When you graduate, you are very well grounded in your subject area...far more than an American college graduate. Then you do an honours year (if you're good enough...and only a few people are). That's a year of a very intense and serious research project, that is written up and published. I've seen honour's theses that are more comprehensive than some master's. Depending on how many publications you have at this point, you may either do a master's (that's most common), or go to a PhD. Either way, in science, that doesn't involve classes normally. There are a few masters by coursework degrees...but it's not usual in science at least. The PhD is just a three year, intense research project.

              So...even though it seems like the PhD is easy here (and it is), the road to get to it is pretty intense. If you add to that the fact that uni here is very nearly free, and master's and PhD's are paid employment...the government does not allow people that aren't serious and capable to even attempt it. There is no getting around the requirements. You won't find someone in a PhD program that doesn't belong there and deserve to be there.

              Having said all of that...I'm glad I've got my US degree, and I'd rather my children did it that way. You have to decide what degree you'll take when you're about 14 in Oz. And you don't get to experiment with anything else. I like my languages, history, and literature. I'm glad that I took large chunks of calculus and physics. But my students are often very impressive...if a bit one dimensional.

              • so interesting (0 / 0)

                Thanks for explaining the different systems.  I can imagine there are kids who know early what they want to study and the system works well for them.  For the ones who use university time to explore, the U.S. version probably makes more sense.  Lots of exposure to different subjects and ideas.  I loved that part of my undergrad.  Although these days, it's so hard for students to get the classes they want in time to graduate in 4 years, some students probably feel like they're held hostage to "Comparative Literature" or "World Religions"  or some other survey course.  I was able to finish in 3 because I did a year of community college concurrent with my senior year of H.S.

                • Increasingly, undergraduate programs (0 / 0)

                  are becoming much more specialized.  Especially those in the science, medical and technical fields.  There's room for a few electives, but the operative word here is "few"...its very easy to understand how we have so many college graduates who are what many would consider culturally limited.

              • interesting point re US v Australian (0 / 0)

                Aussieyank is, per usual, 100% right on! But it's funny about the perception of US degrees - people think they're fluffy until they (or their children as uni students, etc) suddenly decide that their previously chosen degree isn't what they want. Then they start appreciating! DH's nephew is in a 5-year law/commerce degree program, and at the end of his first year decided he didn't want commerce but would prefer economics. The bureaucracy involved in switching degrees was just horrendous; he ended up sticking where he was but is definitely not satisfied. The other nephew is in year 12 (a hs senior) and hadn't the foggiest idea what he wants to do - he's very strong in maths and sciences, but loves filmmaking and writing. There's no way to do both, or to get into uni, take a few classes and then decide. Again, I feel bad forhim.

                • yikes (0 / 0)

                  I definitely was not sorted out well enough at 17 or 18 to make that kind of commitment.

                  • no kidding! (0 / 0)

                    I thought I was ready and committed at 18, which is why I went for journalism. Now, with 14+ years of writing under my belt (I started writing for my town's weekly paper when I was 17), I have come to conclude that journalism is best learned vocationally with internships and I should've only minored in journalism, if needed. Thank god I did a double major in political science, which at least got me some liberal arts and statistics classes.

                    Not that I'm dissatisfied with my degrees, but I think I would have been better served with an economics/political science double major and a journalism minor. That only comes with years of experience, though.

          • yeah (0 / 0)

            I was talking with the woman who ran Jess's Montessori playgroup; she's doing her PhD in education and she was telling me about the process. No doctoral defense! That's awesome!

            I'll have to think about doing the PhD. Two reasons why I hesitate - my masters in London didn't have any sort of research process classes attached to it, so I'm not sure if I'm qualified. Secondly, I have to really feel like I'm going to enjoy it and benefit from it. At the moment, I'm not the slightest bit motivated, but in 5 or 10 years, who knows?

        • that's cool! (0 / 0)

          what would you study?

  • Utterly disgusted. (0 / 0)

    There are not enough adequate words to express how horrified, disgusted, appalled, etc. I am by the junta's refusal to accept aid for the cyclone survivors.  I thought that regime was as bad as could be, but this is stunning in its utter disregard for other human beings.  Than Shwe (the head general) sits right next to Mao Zedong, Josef Stalin, Adolf Hitler and Pol Pot in my mind--the only difference is the numbers, they all had the same level of inhumanity, paranoia and meglomania.

    The saddest part is the people are too oppressed, hungry and desperate to rise up again.  I'm so sad for them.

    And to add insult to injury, CNN was reporting earlier today that the Myanmar embassy in Bangkok, where several NGOs were trying to get visas to send in relief teams, was closed on Friday FOR A HOLIDAY.  How do you live with yourself working for this regime?  And they're holding their sham constitutional convention Saturday just as planned.   ARGH!

    • I gave $ to the Monks (0 / 0)

      The Burmese Monks are working inside the country but outside of the government.

    • There is some aid being allowed in. (0 / 0)

      I think the media in the US is spinning this a little bit...although I could be wrong. I know that Mediciens sans Frontieres is there (my friend has gone). I know that the Sisters of Mercy are there (another friend has gone), and I know that the Australians have sent help and been allowed in. Granted...given the scale of this disaster, it's probably not enough. But I'm not sure what would be enough.

      The constitutional referendum is only being held in areas that weren't hit by the disaster. I agree that it's still silly...but they aren't expecting people in crisis to do anything.

      Don't get me wrong. That government is seriously messed up. And they've done (and are doing) an awful lot of crappy things (to put it mildly). But I can't stand seeing the truth shadowed by the media. It really bugs me.

      • My understanding... (0 / 0)

        ...is that organizations with staff already established in country, like the Red Cross and Save the Children, are being successful in getting some aid in.  I have seen no reports of additional aid workers being let in.  Only one shipment of US aid has been allowed in, and of course there was the fiasco with the impounding the World Food Programme aid because the junta didn't want UN personnel distributing the food.

        As for the referendum in unaffected areas, is this really the best place for the government to focus its attention right now?  Of course not, not if this was a decent government answerable to its people.  And of course, the areas hit by the cyclone are having their referendum vote rescheduled for  May 24.  Marvelous.  I'm sure the people of Irrawaddy Delta will feel up to ratifying a sham constitution to legitimize a bloody dictatorship a mere 15 days after this horridness.  If they're eating by then.

        • snort... (0 / 0)

          Oh yes. I'm sure they'll care whether or not the general has his power cemented when they've lost everything...

          I'm not an expert...far from it. I'm pretty clueless these days about international politics (I just don't have the energy...). So I've really got no idea. It's just when the media says "no international aid workers have been allowed in" (and I heard a BBC report in the car just now that said that as well), it grates on me. I know my friends are there. And I'm worried about them. Not having their presence recognized worries me too. If no one acknowledge that they're there, no one will notice if they disappear.

          But I'm sure you're right. MSF and the Sisters of Mercy have probably been there for awhile and are just sending extra aid.

    • remember when Bush (0 / 0)

      rejected international aid after Katrina?

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