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International Adoption Agencies Hurting

Mon May 12, 2008 at 09:04:58 AM PDT

What a terrible predicament for the families swindled in this story. At least 15 percent of international adoption agencies have shut down due to declining business and a tightening of federal regulations, according to the New York Times.

Even worse, some agencies that know they are in dire financial straits have swindled prospective adoptive families of tens of thousands of dollars, according to the Times.

For couples like Susan and Jim Paulson of Lafayette, Colo., what began as an aching desire to have another child turned quickly into a nightmare.

In 2006, with their son Quinn, 2, dying from a degenerative neurological disorder, the Paulsons decided to adopt a third child. Their first-born, a boy, now 6, would be lonely without his brother, they reasoned. And so would they.

After contacting Lisa Novak, the director, along with her husband, of the Claar Foundation, a Boulder adoption agency, the Paulsons paid roughly $11,000 in processing fees and waited for the arrival of a baby girl from Nepal.

But after the adoption collapsed amid political turmoil in Nepal last May, the Paulsons said they asked for some of their money back but never received a response from Ms. Novak. She was arrested on March 26 on charges of defrauding families of tens of thousands of dollars by promising adoptions but never completing them.

The story ends on a heartbreaking note: Quinn Paulson dies and his big brother is left wondering when his baby sister will come home.

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International adoptions in the United States have fallen for a variety of reasons. Russia and China tightened their standards while Vietnam and Guatemala implemented a hiatus due to corruption in the system. The Hague Convention went into effect on April 1 and has had an impact on international adoptions in the United States.

The convention requires that to become accredited, international adoption agencies must comply with uniform standards that include training for prospective parents, establishing staff qualifications and transparent bookkeeping. But the standards apply only to agencies that bring children to the United States from countries that agreed to abide by the convention, more than 70 in all.

Surely, the downturn in the economy doesn't help either.

Tags: International Adoption Agencies, New York Times, swindled, Hague Convention, money, Guatemala, Nepal, Vietnam (all tags)

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  • Really sad (0 / 0)

    I have friends in their late-30s who struggled to get pregnant with IVF.  They have a son who's two, and would love another child, but used up what their insurance will allow for fertility and can't afford it on their own.  What's sadder is they would love to adopt, but they can't afford that either.  

    I don't know their preferences on age, nationality, etc., or if they've thoroughly checked their options.  But when you hear of adoption costing $25,000 and up, it is out of reach for people like them.  They both have blue collar jobs and work really hard. They could afford to modestly raise two children, but not if one means a up-front cost in the thousands. And yet there are thousands of children out there who need a family. What a terrible situation.

    • Foster care system? (0 / 0)

      I know someone who adopted that way, a newborn, and it cost them virtually nothing.

      I also know several people who have gone the international route, and while most of the families have had a perfectly fine experience, I do know someone whose experience was extremely negative.  The child they had settled on from eastern Europe, who was billed by the agency as being perfectly healthy, turned out to have extremely severe problems.  The child is now in a long term care facility because they were unable to cope.  Very sad situation.

      • It happens (0 / 0)

        The woman who sewed my wedding dress told me they gave up custody of the daughter they adopted from Russia when she was about four.  I think they had her three or four years, but got to the point that they actually feared for themselves and their other children.  She would wake up in the night and the girl would be standing over her, and say things like, "I'm sorry you woke up; I was figuring out how to kill you."

        When she told me, it had been a few years since they gave her up, and she was still really broken-hearted about it.  I suppose you could have a biological child with severe problems, but since they didn't know what had happened to her before they got her, they didn't know how to help her.  

      • My son's teacher did this (0 / 0)

        She fostered an infant and then adopted him when he was about 9 mos.  The whole class got to celebrate with her and her husband.  DS said that one day his teacher was grouchy because "baby baby" had kept her awake all night and he related that the whole class was extra good that day to help.  Very charming those 5th graders...(sometimes!).

  • Have to chime in (0 / 0)

    None of this is new.  Even 10 years ago, there were Hauge treaties.  You have to do your due dilligence as it relates to "agencies".  Almost anyone can become an "agency".  Also, with so much fear of agencies out there, people have a tendency to use "independents" and "coordinators".  Steer clear of those, IMHO.
    We used an agency that was placing children in my community at that time.  I was able to speak with other parents, see their documentation, etc.

    Adoption is free.  Even in other countries.  You pay for things like homestudies and social worker fees.  Many agencies charge "referral fees".  We adopted newborn twins and paid way less than the numbers I've seen and heard bandied about.  We flew 1st class, stayed in high end hotels, you get the picture...and still didn't pay that. yikes.

    Our girls are from Russia.  There are some disrupted adoptions from Russia.  I am happy to report that those "Russian and East European" children are no less likely to disrupt than our own, American born, foster children.  All children are individuals and so are their circumstances.  Any adoption should be treated like a "special needs" adoption.  Institutions are not great.  "Foster Care" in some countries means privatized institutions.  I don't need to remind most of you that the U.S. foster system suffers.  If a child were in an ideal situation, they wouldn't be available and in need of a family.  There have been volumes written on parenting hurt children.  Some children come with more wounds/scars and some come with less.  If someone is looking for a perfect product, and many adoptive parents are doing just that, parenting (adoptive or biological children) may not be a wise choice.

    I read the linked article and, although it is indeed very sad, sounds no different than the stories I've been reading for over a decade now.  

    It sounds like a couple of you know people who made it through the system without being properly prepared by their "agencies".  They were obviously paired with children who had needs greater than their abilities to provide.  

    • Prepared (0 / 0)

      In the situation I mentioned above, I think, unfortunately, it went way beyond not being "properly prepared" by the agency, to actually being deceived that this was a perfectly healthy and OK child.

      Of course there are no guarantees in having children, whether adoptive or born.  But agencies have to be honest with the prospective parents about the children they are representing.

      • They can't (0 / 0)

        Simply put, mental illness doesn't show on the outside.  Autism cannot be predicted.  If it's a matter of physical health, many health issues resolve themselves, or appear to be developmental delays at various ages.  The agency needed to prepare them for how to parent an emotionally hurt, injured or frail child.  THey need to accurately report to the best of their ability.  No agency, international or U.S. based has figured out exactly how to do this without occassional mistakes.  The biggest mistake is placing a child with a high level of special needs with a parent who is unwilling or (more often) unable to help that child (due to lack of information, education or resources)

        Each child is referred with paperwork, sometimes videos and photos.  Parents take these to medical experts in the field of International Adoption Medicine.  I know someone who took theirs to a plastic surgeon.  They were told that the kids in the photo were severely disabled and would never live independently.  I also know the person who eventually adopted those kids (guess who?) because she took the referral info to the proper doctor.  Agencies can only control so much.  

        • It's one thing if they don't know. (0 / 0)

          This was a situation where they clearly did know there were major issues.

          • I hear these stories (0 / 0)

            and they usually turn out to be urban legend.  I recently had a back and forth with a woman who was actually referencing my children as "the hopelessly defective children" in just such a story.

            I bring it up because so many prospective parents hear these vague references and wind up being too afraid to adopt children who will otherwise die.  It's a tragedy of immense proportions.

            • This happens to be (0 / 0)

              a colleague of mine. It is not an urban legend.  It has been a very painful experience for him and his family.

              I'm glad you had a good experience with your agency, but that doesn't mean that everyone has a good experience.  I'm not trying to dissuade people from adopting, just describing something that happened to someone I know.

              • I don't disbelieve you (0 / 0)

                And I know plenty of people who struggle to raise The Hurt Child.  You have to assume that certain types of risks are associated with adoption and be ready.  On the other hand, I had an opportunity to say "no, thank you" to things like Downs Syndrome and other conditions that I felt inadequate parenting.  I didn't have that luxury with my birth children.

                My point is

                (1) adoption agencies aren't all agencies to begin with; they are often 1-2 individuals without any extra knowledge, skills or abilities in area of child welfare.

                (2)even the best agencies have only so much information to share and

                (3)our U.S.foster system leaves plenty to be desired (and I know this from years of firsthand experience)

  • changing standards (0 / 0)

    Jess and I are friendly with three parent/child pairs in her Wednesday swim class. All three families have girls adopted from the same orphanage in China (it's funny, but every time I see the girls, I think of Gilbert and Sullivan's Mikkado). Post-adoption, either the orphanage or the Chinese authorities (I'm not quite sure) changd the criteria for adopting families and all three families are now judged as "too old" to adopt again. Sad, really, because they're awesome people and all three girls would really, really like younger siblings.

    On the plus side, all three have maintained relations with the orphanage and the foster families the girls were placed with, so all three have a pretty decent grounding on what their lives were like for the first year after they went to the orphanage. It's really lovely to see.

    • Mikkado is Japnese not Chinese (0 / 0)

      Not all Asians are the same.

      • the song I'm thinking of (0 / 0)

        is called "Three Little Asian Girls". I won't even address your implication that I think all Asians are the same.

      • Well... (0 / 0)

        If you want to get really snippy about it, the Mikado is not Japanese either. It's a satire of British society, using Victorian British (false) notions of Japan.

        The characters' names in the play are not Japanese names, but rather (in many cases) English "baby-talk" or simply dismissive exclamations. For instance, a pretty young thing is named Pitti-Sing; the beautiful heroine is named Yum-Yum; the pompous officials are Pooh-Bah and Pish-Tush; the hero is called Nanki-Poo, baby-talk for "handkerchief"[17] The headsman's name, Ko-Ko, is similar to that of the scheming Ko-Ko-Ri-Ko in Ba-ta-clan by Jacques Offenbach. Gilbert sought authenticity in the production, costumes, and in the movements and gestures of the actors. To that end, Gilbert engaged some of the Japanese at the Knightsbridge village to advise on the production and to coach the actors. "The Directors and Native Inhabitants" of the village were duly thanked in the programme that was distributed on the first night.

        I hardly think that Rachel is in any way racist. And I think that only you took it that way.

  • changing rules in countries (0 / 0)

    China changed their rules and I am now too old and have medical issues that mean no sibling for our son Tai. As far as not knowing medical issues, I also know people who were shown photos of twins from Russia that the agency called 'perfectly healthy' but who a doctor said would require longterm care. This agency also recruited families and took their money for adoptions in an Eastern European country while the program was suspended in country, telling families it would reopen soon, and it never reopened again in the same way. Once they had people's money, they would never give it back, just steer them to another program with new fees, requirements, etc. States vary in how much they really regulate agencies, and it is true that it isn't necessarily hard to become an agency.

    A lot of it I would ascribe to incompetence more than greed. Agencies hook up with people who know or claim to know about a country, and they can be totally dependent on the expertise of someone who is ruthlessly dishonest, well-intentioned, or some combination. You sign with an agency but are at the whim of many factors you can't research or control.

    This isn't to scare people off - really, just something that families need to get behind, is careful attention to adoption agencies and regulations. I think nail salons are better regulated in some places.

  • adoption is as risky as birth (0 / 0)

    There are no guarantees with either one that the child is healthy or will arrive at all.  We adopted from China and our child is perfect.  When you adopt you are entitled to use the Adoption Tax Credit for the year the adoption is finalized.  We were able to use all 10K and put that money towards our loan we took out to pay our adoption fees and travel expenses.  So we only spent about 9K for our adoption.  Our plane tickets were the largest expense in our adoption.  The fees to China were very low and our fees to our agency was about 5K.  It was the US government fees and travel that was the bulk of our money.  Worth it all though and it was much cheaper than IVF would have been for us.  There are also very low interest adoption loans and grants for families in financial need.  Shoahannahs Hope offers such programs.  Ethiopia has a very low cost program right now, less than 10K for everything and it is very fast.  You turn around and get the adoption tax credit and you have spent nothing for the adoption.  

    • living with risk (0 / 0)

      This is true - people have to understand both the consumer side of adoption, the laws and their rights, but there is no guarantee and it takes the same leap of faith as giving birth.

      Having said that, except for the shock of being referred a healthy boy, our son is perfect in health and intelligence and was spoiled rotten for eight months in China before we got him - I still send updates to his now-retired orphanage director, who gets teary-eyed to hear about him.

      The rewards of adoption are huge, for the heart, but not for faint-hearted.

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