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Harry and the Box

Tue Apr 29, 2008 at 05:56:07 PM PDT

I write for (part of) my living.  Typically I write personal and narrative essays and the like, on educational themes.  Today, though, I've had this burning need to get this other thing on paper.  Normally, I'd have gotten it down and started sending it to my normal publishers, but this is different and I wouldn't even know where to begin publishing it and I'd like some feedback on it and well...my experience has been that, if I don't get these things out in the world when they come to me then they evaporate and I  see them elsewhere later on.  It may sound crazy, but I really believe that God or Allah or some other thing whispers these ideas in my ear sometimes, and that there's a "do this or I'm going to get someone else to do it" urgency to it.  So here it is.  Hopefully, I'll be able to sleep tonight.

I have to admit- it's wicked scary to do this this way.  

Harry and the Box

Once upon a time, there was a box.  And in that box, were all the things that people think that other people are supposed to be.  There are boxes marked "Moms" and "Dads" and "Women" and "Men"...there are a lot of boxes, but this story is just about one of them.  This box was marked "Little Boy" and inside of it were things like "rough and tumble" and "good at sports" and "not afraid of anything" and other things like that.

There was also a little boy. His name was Harry.  He knew lots of things, like how to build a Monster Truck Race Car Space Ship out of Legos and how to dam a puddle so that the water changed course and how nice it was to snuggle and how beautiful the sunrise could be...

But he didn’t know about the box.

Harry started school.  He learned about spiders and circle time and how to put just the right spaces between his words when he wrote them.  He learned about numbers and penguins and panda bears...

And he learned about the box.  

When Harry looked in the box, he saw lots of things he could do.  He liked to wrestle and play soccer.  He liked to run and swing on the swings and dig in the dirt.  But he saw lots of things that he didn’t do well yet.  He couldn’t ride his bike without training wheels, and he couldn’t catch his baseball in his glove and he couldn’t always hit the ball when his dad pitched it to him and he was afraid of the dark sometimes.

But there were lots of things he could do that weren’t in the box at all.  He could be a good friend to the new kid in school, even when other people thought that kid was weird.  He could make up really real stories about flying through space and sailing on pirate ships.  He could build with his blocks and play his drums...but still.  What if his mom and dad and his friends wouldn't like anymore because he didn't fit into the box? He was sad because the box was everything little boys were supposed to be- and he just didn't fit.

Then Harry noticed that his friends didn’t all fit the box.  Ella could hit the ball every time and she was a girl and he didn't that that hitting the ball was in the "Little Girl" box. Juan couldn’t ride his bike without training wheels and Sean didn’t even like sports.  So he decided (with his mom and his dad and his sister and Ella and Juan and Sean) to make their own boxes.  In Harry’s box, he put his Legos and his space shuttle and his made-up stories and his drums...and he left off one side.

Because Harry figured that there’d be lots of stuff to add to it.

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  • I don't know why... (0 / 0)

    But I'm feeling teary after reading that. Illustrate it nicely and send me a copy for my kids, please. :)

  • Awww (0 / 0)

    I like that.  Thumbs up.

  • I think this would make (0 / 0)

    a really great children's book -- and with illustrations it would come even more alive.  Nice work.  What else do you write and where do you publish?

    I freelance write - not for a living - but because I enjoy it and sometimes also feel compelled to do so.  I've published in local newspapers, a couple of magazines, and have an essay in a recently published anthology of women's writing.

    Thanks for posting up your story.

  • That's beautiful (0 / 0)

    Love the lesson there.

  • Very cute (0 / 0)

    I can totally see this as a children's book.  

  • Very nice story. (0 / 0)

    I like it, and I think my 5-year old would like it, too, especially if there were good pictures. What are you planning for it?

  • To be honest (0 / 0)

    I have no idea.  I usually publish in places like Education Week and Phi Delta Kappan- education journals.  I'm working with someone in a non-profit publishing house one a book about rural schools, but don't feel like it would be their thing...and don't eve know who to begin talking with otherwise.

    So for now, it lives here...

    But thanks for the feedback.  

  • This is beautiful!!! (0 / 0)

    I love this lesson.  Please keep all of us here at MT in mind when it's published, so we can pre-order.  I think I need several copies.  (For my own and my sister's and my cousin's kids.)  

    Really well done.

  • Based on my initial investigations (0 / 0)

    publishing this would be more work than just about anything I've done.  Don't think I have the time to read the 6,000 books that one apparently has to read in order to unearth the mystery that is "publishing a 200 word story for kids."  I have to say, I'm less intimidated by writing my dissertation...

    • If it wasn't hard (0 / 0)

      then everyone would do it. It is a good story with a positive message and one that boys and girls need to hear. WIth the right illustrator it could easily become a classic.

      We so often fail to recognize our own genius. Just go for it!!!

      (Did that sound bossy? I am trying for encouraging.)

  • I'm pretty fragile (0 / 0)

    about this- which is surprising because I'm not usually fragile where my work is concerned.  It's just that everything I read about submitting a children's manuscript for publication is all "don't think that you have a prayer because we don't publish anything really that doesn't come from an established author and we're pretty sure you'll suck so don't get your hopes up at all.  But if you want to send us something so that we can spit on it and send it back in your SASE, we're happy to do that. Have a nice day, you miserable excuse for an author."

    Which is surprising coming from people who publish children's lit, don't you think?

    But I've found one place that I'm going to send it- Barefoot Books,in Cambridge.  They seem friendlier- or at least less "hey, you suck!" on their website.

    :::big deep breath:::

    • I don't mean to beat you up when you're fragile (0 / 0)

      I really like your story. I think its super charming. And getting rejected is a TOTAL badge of honor! I have friends who have written for YEARS and have never submitted anything for publication!

      I myself have only been published in my school's literary magazine, and this was only AFTER a visiting poet laureate called one of my stories, "a little work of genius"... okay? I am hard on you because I am busy kicking my own ass right now too! I need to take more chances, and as usual, I find it easier to give my own advice to someone else. See, I am a total hypocrite! But an honest one!

      Go, Laura, GO! Yay!!!

      PS I also know two published children's book illustrators, if you need them!

  • Please, Please, TRY!!! (0 / 0)

    Even if a publishing company chooses not to publish it, I've heard of people self publishing.  I have to admit complete ignorance as far as what that entails, but you really should try.  Your story is truly lovely, and it would be a shame not to share it with the rest of the world.  You know, no pressure or anything ;)

  • Thank you (0 / 0)

    for the encouragement and the kind words.  I sent it off yesterday and figure that the 6 month wait they promise between submission and anything will give me time to get a little distance on it.

    Again- thanks!

    • Realizing that the worst (0 / 0)

      thing anyone can say is "No" and that isn't that bad! So then you have permission to send it somewhere else. It isn't the end of the world, or even the end of the submission process. But yeah, for now you have 6 months to relax, realizing you took the first step, the step that most never take! YAY!

  • don't know if you're still around (0 / 0)

    If the children's book doesn't work out, maybe try submitting this to a magazine like Wonder Time. It would make a lovely accompaniment to a photo essay...you could even take the photos yourself!

  • Hey Laura (0 / 0)

    There is a book I'd recommend called "The Everything Guide to Writing Children's Books" by Lesley Bolton.

    Its a good basic overview of the process, I thought it was neat.

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