Mother Talkers

Let Them Talk

Tue Apr 01, 2008 at 09:16:28 AM PDT

Cross-posted at Fussbucket

One of my favorite things to do is to listen to my four-year old son Sage talk to himself when he's busy doing something. He totally uninhibited, talking about what he's doing or pretending he's hanging out with some of his imaginary friends. Often it happens when he's concentrating, like building train tracks, or coloring, or doing a puzzle.

A new study shows that not only is this chattering pretty damn cute, it's useful. According to this article in Science Daily, parents should encourage pre-schoolers to talk to themselves.

Parents should not worry when their pre-schoolers talk to themselves; in fact, they should encourage it, says Adam Winsler, an associate professor of psychology at George Mason University. His recent study published in Early Childhood Research Quarterly showed that 5-year-olds do better on motor tasks when they talk to themselves out loud (either spontaneously or when told to do so by an adult) than when they are silent.

"Young children often talk to themselves as they go about their daily activities, and parents and teachers shouldn’t think of this as weird or bad," says Winsler. "On the contrary, they should listen to the private speech of kids. It's a fantastic window into the minds of children."

In the study, "'Should I let them talk?': Private speech and task performance among preschool children with and without behavior problems," 78 percent of the children performed either the same or better on the performance task when speaking to themselves than when they were silent, the article says.

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The study also showed that children with behavioral problems (such as those diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD) tend to talk to themselves more often than children without signs of behavior problems. "Given that kids with behavior concerns need more direction and control from adults, teachers may unnecessarily ask children to be quiet in classrooms out of fear that such speech coming from difficult-to-manage kids will lead to problem behavior," says Winsler. "Yet non-disruptive private speech would actually help these children as they develop."

Winsler says that private speech is very common and perfectly normal among children between the ages of 2 and 5. As children begin talking to themselves, their communication skills with the outside world improve. "This is when language comes inside," says Winsler. "As these two communication processes merge, children use private speech in the transition period. It's a critical period for children, and defines us as human beings."

Winsler also conducted the first-ever study looking at private speech in children with autism. He found that high-functioning autistic children talk to themselves often and in the same ways that non-autistic children do. Talking aloud also improved their performance on tasks. " The study, "Private Speech and Executive Functioning among High-Functioning Children with Autistic Spectrum Disorders," was  published in the Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders.

When I was a teacher of 25 first-graders, I quickly realized that there was no way I was going to be able to keep them all quiet. And when I thought about it, why should I? Would I like it if I had to sit and be quiet for six hours and listen to my teacher do all the talking? Nope. So I moved their desks into clusters instead of rows and let them talk while they were doing seat work.

And actually, some of my best memories are of conversations I overheard as I moved through the room. What do you think? Do your kids talk to themselves?

Tags: autism, child development and speech, kids talking to themselves (all tags)

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  • Whew! (0 / 0)

    Ari won't shut up. I've been sick so lately I've found myself nodding impatiently and going uh-huh a lot. But he also talks a lot to himself and I tend to feel guilty as in maybe I am not interacting enough with him. Glad to hear it is not only normal, but actually good for him. LOL!

  • What if (0 / 0)

    you're still doing it at 38? Is that a problem? ;)

  • Sam talks to himself (0 / 0)

    but Sally does not and never has. She play acts with her Polly Pockets and what not, but he actually has conversations with himself. It's very cute. Sometimes, if I think he's talking to me and I say, "What did you say?" he gets mad and says, "Mommy, I'm talking to mine self!" He's very private about it and stops if he thinks anyone is trying to listen to him.

    • I meant to add (0 / 0)

      that Sam shows some OCD tendencies but I'm told that kids with chronic medical conditions tend to as it helps them make sense of their often senseless worlds.  I do not at all consider him to have a behavioral problem, but this line did catch my eye...

      The study also showed that children with behavioral problems (such as those diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, or ADHD) tend to talk to themselves more often than children without signs of behavior problems.

      and his OCD stuff may be why he talks to himself and his sister does not.

  • I still talk to myself. (0 / 0)

    And all of my kids seem to keep running commentary going.  My boys, aged 15, 17 and 20, seriously talk to themselves in the bathroom all the time...I hear them.  My daughter likes to come into my bedroom to use my husband's computer (its the fastest!) and sometimes, I have to tell you to just be quiet, otherwise, she'll chatter the whole time, and if not chattering, she'll be making some other kind of sound effect.  

    My son, at 17, is a great kid.  He's never been a discipline problem in school, but as recently as last year, a couple of teachers commented that he really did just need to be more quiet in class...yep...he would keep his running commentary going.  

  • DS just started this (0 / 0)

    DS, 2, just started doing this. It is still mostly babble, but he'll make car/train/silly noises as well as babble when he plays by himself. And the playing on his own is a new thing too. I agree its cute to listen too. As the article mentioned, I have noticed that his communication skills are improving. So are the two infact related? Its all so interesting to watch.

  • Um (0 / 0)

    I do better on motor tasks if I talk to myself.  Does this mean I'm developmentally stuck in preschool?

    My kid talks like mad, but we don't mostly understand him yet.

  • My daughter played a game of Sorry! (0 / 0)

    with herself last week. She played all four colors, and one of the colors was cheating. The other colors had quite a talking to about it. :-) :-) :-)

    It was adorable.

  • love it (0 / 0)

    Love hearing Maya talk to herself as she's playing with her choo-choos. I love it when she sings and hums to herself, too. It never even occurred to me to ask her to stop.

    • me neither! (0 / 0)

      Jess talks to herself, to her dolls, monologues and dialogues. It never seriously occurred to me that there would be a reason to stop. And usually it's so amusing!

      • right (0 / 0)

        it never occurred to me to ask my son to stop, but i did think about kids in school and how they are often asked to be quiet a lot of the time. maybe teachers should view talking as just as important as listening.

        • depends on the age and the circumstance (0 / 0)

          as with everything, right?! I think that as kids get older, it's fine to talk about needing quiet time out of respect for everyone, and such, but yeah, there are times when talking it out is necessary. I don't have any memories of my primary school teachers being OTT about having quiet classrooms. Of course, there was a lot of group work when I was in first, second and third grade, so maybe that was the way to manage talking and working?

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