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Baby Name Remorse

Wed Jan 09, 2008 at 10:55:08 AM PDT

Baby names are something on my mind these days as I have reached the 25th week of my pregnancy. Though, I have to admit, DH and I have had names for babypear picked out since before it was confirmed I was pregnant. All of our names begin with J, so it was a no brainer that this one will be a J name too. So once we found out that #2 is a boy, we both looked at each other and said, well I guess it’s a Justin and not a Jane. We also had no trouble naming DS. We really skipped the baby name books and surfed the Internet a little, but we made no real decisions until after we knew that DS was a boy. However, I know that not all parents take this easy going approach to naming their children. My friend just emailed me this article from CNN about baby name remorse.

Apparently there are parents out there that change their children’s' names after they are born. Here is just one example:

Pauline and Jeffrey Eadie, of Cleveland, had gathered the family together to watch home movies of their two older children as babies. In one movie, Jack, now 5, was looking skeptically at his then-newborn sister, now 3. "In the video, I was saying, 'Jack, go to the baby, go hug her,'" says Pauline. "And then at some point I said, 'Go kiss Emma.'"

Unaware that her name had been changed when she was a newborn, Pauline Eadie's daughter, Caroline, looked at her and asked 'Who's Emma?'"

I am sure that if you dug through Caroline's baby things there are even a few "Emma" personalized items! How do you explain that to a 3 year old? Parents said that the name Emma just didn't feel right and so they then changed it. There are even parents out there that are changing their kids names when they are as old as 4!

In her first few years, 6-year-old Sophie Sauber's parents, Rob Sauber and Suzanne Ramljak, of Connecticut, were overwhelmed by the number of Sophies they encountered daily. Four out of 13 kids in their daughter's preschool class were named Sophie, and other parents were constantly yelling it at the mall. When Sophie was almost 4, they asked how she'd feel about being called Isadora, a name they'd considered before she was born.

"She understood our reasoning and liked the name. We weren't going to force her," says Ramljak. One day, after a trial period of a couple of months, she introduced herself as Isadora. "It was like, 'That's her name now!'"

Wow. Glad my parents didn't do that. As one of the zillions of Jennifers born in the 70's, I too had to deal with not being the only one with the name in my class. Yes, there were times I was annoyed by it, but honestly, by the time I was in High School, I really didn't care.

We didn't look at the popularity rankings for the names we chose for the boys. Yes, Jack is super popular, but his given name is actually Johnathan. We figured that as a 30 something professional he might not want to be called Jack. If DS decides later in life to legally change his name, then that will be his choice. It’s not something we'd do now, especially seeing that he has just started to develop a sense of self and who he is. Its really cute to see an almost 2 yo proudly point to himself and say, "Jack!" DH and I beam with pride.

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  • we talked about this (0 / 0)

    http://www.mothertalkers.com/...

    on New Year's Day. But would love to hear more comments from those who were out doing something and missed it.

  • Debating this in the delivery room (0 / 0)

    when the MD said 'Oh no....not another "xxx"'

    clinched the decision.... a couple old family names got used.  Rather happy about the end result.  Not too unusual and not too common.

    His older brother is named for two grandfathers (being a III, I was determined to end THAT insanity).  However to give him his own identy he's laways been called by his initials.  Had to make the school put it down on his permanent record to get them to go along but it worked.

    Irony is there are at least two other kids called by the same set of initials in our not all that large school system.... one a few years ahead, another a few years back... goes to show you, nothing is unique.

  • I Was Talked Out of a Name By the Delivery Nurse (0 / 0)

    Along about the time I was cleaned up and hanging out with the little guy, the subject of his name came up.  

    Now, I knew what he was going to be named, because we had picked it out a long time ago.  A standard name, not spelled cute, and one of my favorite men's names, notwithstanding that when it is paired to my polysyllabic last name it sounds like a chest of drawers tumbling down a flight of stairs.  Fortunately it nicknames to a single syllable.

    Still flushed with that immediate post-birth energy, I said to the nurse, "I want to name him Bruce Springsteen Polysyllabic."  

    She blanched.  "Bruce?  You want to name him BRUCE?"

    I said, "Why not?  On any given day I'm happier with what he has to say than I am with my husband."

    She said, "But I named my DOG Bruce Springsteen."

    So I dutifully wrote down my son's real name.  And now when I tell him the story, he says, "thanks, Mom.  Even the math team would be beating me up at least once a week for that name."

    Meanwhile, my daughter's 11th grade  is littered with Jennifers, Britneys and, for some reason, Amandas.  

  • My son (0 / 0)

    His name is Kindred and I have believed since 10 years before he was born that that was supposed to be his name.  So we first decided to name him James Kindred and call him Kindred but that was us being chicken so a month before he was born we changed to Kindred James (by that time he'd recieved two items with James Kindred on it).  I love his name, I love him and I think it fits.  It's a word, not a name but I think he'll be fine through his life and if not he can always go by James or Kin (close to Ken)

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