Baby Name Remorse
Wed Jan 09, 2008 at 10:55:08 AM PDT
Baby names are something on my mind these days as I have reached the 25th week of my pregnancy. Though, I have to admit, DH and I have had names for babypear picked out since before it was confirmed I was pregnant. All of our names begin with J, so it was a no brainer that this one will be a J name too. So once we found out that #2 is a boy, we both looked at each other and said, well I guess it’s a Justin and not a Jane. We also had no trouble naming DS. We really skipped the baby name books and surfed the Internet a little, but we made no real decisions until after we knew that DS was a boy. However, I know that not all parents take this easy going approach to naming their children. My friend just emailed me this article from CNN about baby name remorse.
Apparently there are parents out there that change their children’s' names after they are born. Here is just one example:
Pauline and Jeffrey Eadie, of Cleveland, had gathered the family together to watch home movies of their two older children as babies. In one movie, Jack, now 5, was looking skeptically at his then-newborn sister, now 3. "In the video, I was saying, 'Jack, go to the baby, go hug her,'" says Pauline. "And then at some point I said, 'Go kiss Emma.'"
Unaware that her name had been changed when she was a newborn, Pauline Eadie's daughter, Caroline, looked at her and asked 'Who's Emma?'"
I am sure that if you dug through Caroline's baby things there are even a few "Emma" personalized items! How do you explain that to a 3 year old? Parents said that the name Emma just didn't feel right and so they then changed it. There are even parents out there that are changing their kids names when they are as old as 4!
In her first few years, 6-year-old Sophie Sauber's parents, Rob Sauber and Suzanne Ramljak, of Connecticut, were overwhelmed by the number of Sophies they encountered daily. Four out of 13 kids in their daughter's preschool class were named Sophie, and other parents were constantly yelling it at the mall. When Sophie was almost 4, they asked how she'd feel about being called Isadora, a name they'd considered before she was born.
"She understood our reasoning and liked the name. We weren't going to force her," says Ramljak. One day, after a trial period of a couple of months, she introduced herself as Isadora. "It was like, 'That's her name now!'"
Wow. Glad my parents didn't do that. As one of the zillions of Jennifers born in the 70's, I too had to deal with not being the only one with the name in my class. Yes, there were times I was annoyed by it, but honestly, by the time I was in High School, I really didn't care.
We didn't look at the popularity rankings for the names we chose for the boys. Yes, Jack is super popular, but his given name is actually Johnathan. We figured that as a 30 something professional he might not want to be called Jack. If DS decides later in life to legally change his name, then that will be his choice. It’s not something we'd do now, especially seeing that he has just started to develop a sense of self and who he is. Its really cute to see an almost 2 yo proudly point to himself and say, "Jack!" DH and I beam with pride.
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