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My Social Activism Work for this week

Fri Feb 23, 2007 at 08:19:46 AM PDT

I serve on the board of directors of my state's women's lobby and was asked to provide testimony on a bill proposing the formation of a task force on work and family. Here's what I submitted. (I couldn't be there in person because ironically I was working!) Thought some of you might be interested. I've taken out specifics for anonymity's sake...
Members of the Committee, please accept this written testimony urging you to pass House Bill XXX recommending the formation of a task force on work and family. I can think of few issues more critical to the fabric of life in our state than this one. I am a divorced mother of a seven year old girl. I hold a senior level management position at the XXXXX where I earn a decent, if modest salary and enjoy health insurance and other benefits. I have chosen to work in the not for profit sector, even though salary levels are not comparable to work in the business world, for the past seventeen years as I believe strongly in giving back to my community and enjoy the work I do to support our states' artistic and cultural community. I am one of the lucky ones. I have a supportive co-parenting relationship with my ex husband who shares custody of our daughter for half of each week and who provides me with some child support. I have been able to purchase a modest condominium, (primarily because it was impossible to rent an apartment in my home city of Manchester for less than what my mortgage ended up being). To look at me from the outside it would be easy to wonder what if any struggles I actually had compared to single mothers without access to adequate daycare, healthcare and who struggle to make ends meet without child support. Yet I live day to day and week to week "white knuckling" to make ends meet, to provide a decent home for my daughter, to keep the heat on, to keep the lights on, to insure the car that drives her to school each day, to scramble for care during those dreaded weeks when school is over but daycamp hasn't started. To figure out how to come in late to work each day during school breaks when daycamp starts at 9am and the office opens at 8:30. To pray that it doesn't snow, your child doesn't get sick, the old appliances hold out for another year, and the water heater doesn't start leaking because life is so precariously balanced that any one thing going wrong can set you back weeks or months. The day I received my new property tax bill for the city of XXX I cried. I felt utterly abandoned by my city. How can I keep providing for my child, working full time and keep pace with a city that thinks I have a spare $500 sitting around to pay this tax increase and yet there is never a corresponding rise in the level of services. I rejoice at warmer days that mean the heat can get turned down lower than the 60 degrees I keep it at night. I don't shop. I don't move my car during the day because I can't afford the extra gas. Every spare dime is for my daughter and every week brings another $6 field trip here, $12 hot lunch order there, $125 vacation day camp bill here and my stomach sinks as I try to figure out what will go off the table so she can participate. And again. I'm one of the lucky ones. My ex husband shares these expenses with me and I can scrape by so many many mothers do not have that luxury and have to scramble to make do on even less. But this increasing pinch on the time and resources of working parents is becoming a stranglehold. This testimony is to urge you to look deeper at the issues facing working moms, single moms, single dads and families throughout this state and take critical steps to address what can be done to address their needs. Families are the bedrock of our state and our children are its future leaders. Please act to establish this task force so that we ensure that our state stays livable for families of all sizes and income levels and that our children grow up secure, healthy and knowing that Our state is there for them. Investing in our families and children is the wisest investment in the future we can make.

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  • That is awesome, MKate! (0 / 0)

    What an eloquent statement in support of the task force. I would hope that they will be willing to move forward. I hope they understand that you felt strongly enough about this to take precious time to write the letter!

    Please keep us posted!

    RachelD

    • thanks! I had really wanted to do (0 / 0)

      it in person. In my homestate it's very hands on politics and I only work a few blocks from the state house - but we had a show at the theater last night and a different one loading in today and it was just too crazy to get out of here. I hope it worked!
  • Point (0 / 0)

    That is a great letter.  I like your point that you, compared to a lot of single moms, are fortunate that you have many things, and yet it is still this hard to get by.
  • Really compelling (0 / 0)

    I'm alternately sad & mad, maybe because of the same reason.  I still simply cannot believe that we cannot figure out how to do better in this country.
  • Wow (0 / 0)

    I could have written that letter! Thank you so much for doing a perfect job communicating the financial stresses of single parents. Yeah, on the outside I may seem OK, and like you I am blessed with a supportive ex, but that does not mean that I don't watch every penny and wonder what I would do when something goes wrong.
  • Thanks! (0 / 0)

    You have spoken so well for families.  I am not a single mom, but we're just getting by while my husband is in school. It is so difficult to take care of our daughter and work and or go to school school. I hate the weeks that her school is closed and his school isn't and I am still working.

    We definitely can do better. I'm inspired to do some activisim of my own.

    Nice work.

  • Good job, Katie! (0 / 0)

    And congrats for writing such an articulate letter.

    My parents commute, work full-time and take care of two elderly women. I know that the property taxes in NH are killing them. My mom works at Shaws with numerous single mothers who would certainly appreciate your advocacy work.

    Thank you for taking the time to do this!

  • Nice job (0 / 0)

    Echoing what others have said here: what a beautiful way to describe a very ugly side of raising children. I can tell you feel deeply about these issues and I hope that they really pay attention. Mothers everywhere should be grateful.

    Since the house is on fire - let us warm ourselves.

    by michgs on Fri Feb 23, 2007 at 02:49:23 PM PDT

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