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UPDATED: Newborn surgery, shock and heartache

Wed Dec 12, 2007 at 09:42:06 AM PDT

UPDATE at the bottom.

Thank you for all your comments and congratulations!  We got some bad news yesterday, though.

We took him to his 1st check up, worried about a tearduct infection and mild jaundice.  We instead wound up at Children's Hospital of Oakland, where 2 CAT scans and an Xray confirmed that Julian has Craniosynostosis.  Basically, it means: some or all of the sutures in the skull of an infant or child close too early, causing problems with normal brain and skull growth.

Two of his sutures are closed, and it'll require some surgery.  What kind is still to be determined, but since it was caught SO early, it may be only an endoscopic procedure and then a helmet.  The other option involves saws, and I don't want to think about it.  I can't believe the things they're going to have to do to my sweet little newborn son.

Anyway, that's what the weird horn on his head is.  Not molding from the birth, but this.

We don't know anything more than that (what kind, when the surgery is, whether he's affected permanently or not) but I'll let you all know when I do (probably later today we'll be told when we can go see the neurosurgeon).  This is kind of a huge and horrible shock, and I find myself either pretending it doesn't exist, or weeping uncontrollably.    Keep him, and us, in your thoughts & prayers please.

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12/13/07 Update:

We met with the Neurosurgeon and the Craniofacial surgery team at Children's Hospital of Oakland today.  

The bad news:

They determined that 4 out of the six sutures in Julian's head are sealed shut, and that he will require skull surgery to remove chunks of bone from the top of his head and his forehead.  This many sutures closed usually indicates a serious genetic syndrome, and they're going to require extensive genetic testing.  They want to do the surgery in late January/early February to make sure his brain doesn't get squeezed.  It will require an ear-to-ear headband cut, 2 units of blood and many hours of surgery.  He may also require another surgery at 9 or 10 months of age to correct any lingering deformities in his forehead and face.  

The good news:

His brain is fine. Right now, we have a bone issue, not a brain issue.  Barring any complications in surgery, he will not be affected mentally.  He may or may not need a helmet, depending on the exact surgery route determined to be best by the surgical team.  The main surgeon, Dr. Sun, graduated from the Columbia University College Of Physicians And Surgeons with an MD and has been in the profession for 16 years.  He is one of only 300 pediatric neurosurgeons in the United States, and is the Barry Bonds of pediatric neurosurgery, according to some of his reviews.  He heads up pediatric neurosurgery at UCSF...and more importantly, is who my ped said she'd want to see her son.  Julian shows no markers for any of the syndromes that have craniosynostosis as a symptom, and his exams have shown a perfectly healthy baby other than this problem.  AND, we get a good six weeks of snuggle time before they operate...something that would have been impossible had my pediatrician not caught this so quickly.

Non surgery related good news includes:

Other than than, he's sleeping and eating like a champ, will take expressed breastmilk in a bottle (VERY important since he'll be in the ICU for a while after all of this has been done) without complaint, and is more and more alert every day, sweet boy.  His sister loves him (and fed him a bottle today all by herself while I took my mom to the airport).  And, what with having the baby and being too freaked out to eat much more than the veggies hubby keeps handing me, I'm already down to less than 1lb over my pre-pregnancy weight.  Hubby's company has been VERY helpful and understanding about his leave being longer than planned.  We've scheduled his baptism to be done by the same priest who did my daughter's.

Tags: surgery, birth, babies (all tags)

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  • You are in my prayers today (0 / 0)

    What a terrible thing to have to deal with when all you want to do is enjoy your sweet little guy.  I'm so grateful for you that it was caught early; after ten weeks in a NICU, I'm a HUGE fan of modern medicine!  I'll tell you what they told us: it's always harder on the parents than it is on the baby.  And pediatric nurses in particular are the most devoted people on the planet.  You will be well-supported.

    DS is 16 months old, and we are still on a low-scale lookout for problems because his head is really big.  He's in 3T or 4T hats; many clothes his size are a real struggle to get over his noggin. His head always has been at the top of the charts for size, and he's had two ultrasounds to check that it isn't fluid retention, which came out clear, but it's one of those low-grade worries we have to keep on our minds until he's older.

    Extra hugs to you all & kisses from my Gus to your Julian.  

    • Thanks. (0 / 0)

      MIL sews, so we're sending down all of his cute clothes to have her put snaps up the back.  I'm just horrified, and can't believe that they're going to hurt my baby.  :(

      Like you said though, way harder on me than on him...he'll probably be all done with this before his first birthday, but I'm soooo torn up.

  • Catching it early (0 / 0)

    is very good. Hang in there!

  • I am so sorry.... (0 / 0)

    and I know that it won't make you feel any better, but I've known two babies who've had to undergo similar surgery....one more than 25 years ago.  Just try to remember that it can be corrected and he will be fine.  And you know, its probably OK to pretend a little bit to you get used to the idea...

  • Oh my... (0 / 0)

    I'm so sorry to hear that.  Like the others have said, it's a blessing that you caught it early.  You are in my thoughts, round peg.

    Hugs,
    Hilary

    "If it's not Scottish, it's crap!" ~Mike Meyers

    by 1plain1peanut on Wed Dec 12, 2007 at 10:19:39 AM PDT

  • You and your family are in my prayers, C! (0 / 0)

    I don't want to think about surgery on a newborn either. But it sounds like it is correctable? I hope so!

  • Oh (0 / 0)

    Oh round peg, my heart aches for you.  If there is any consolation at all, as everyone said above, you can whisper a small thank you that this was caught early and you have access to the best care and all that can be done will be done to right this for your darling baby boy.

    I will be thinking of you all.  Hang in there and please keep us posted.  

  • Thinking of you... (0 / 0)

    I'm very sorry to hear of this but so glad to know you are in good hands with your pediatrician.  People who take care of children in the medical field are fantastic - and I speak as a health care provider.

    Take good care of yourself...

  • I'm so very (0 / 0)

    sorry that your family will have to deal with this.  Hugs and prayers sent your way for a wonderful outcome.

    Lesley

  • What an awful shock (0 / 0)

    {{{Cyber hugs}}}

    How painful as a mother.  Hopefully your sadness and worries won't stop you from enjoying him

    • Enjoyment (0 / 0)

      It's a bittersweet enjoyment in situations like this. Plus, you cling like mad to the baby because of the fear of losing him. I've been there (and we still struggle with  long term longevity issues with our 3 yo DS) and know how hard it is because there is so much love and it's very painful to witness your child going through surgery, recovery, and the aftermath of any major medical issue.

      My heart is heavy for round peg and her family right now.

  • I am so sorry (0 / 0)

    I am sure you are so scared and sad. Let yourself have all the feelings but meanwhile learn everything you can about what is happening and going to happen with your son. You and your DH are his only advocate - I don't care how good of an institution you are in! My DS has chronic medical problems and we learned after 3 months in the hospital that we are the only ones he can count on. Don't be afraid to ask stupid questions. If you don't understand or don't get an answer you are comfortable with, ask again and again and again. We 'fired' residents, switched him off of one service because we didn't like the care he was getting, befriended all of the smart nurses, had care meetings (you, social worker, specialists, surgeons, etc. in the same room discussing the care plan, projected outcomes, etc.), and even got the Chief Medical Officer involved when we weren't happy with some stuff!

    Since it sounds like you'll be in the hospital for a while, hook up with the social worker to get the ins and outs of the facility (visiting hours, when to pump, where to store it, etc. ) and to see if she/he can direct you to any online or other resources that deal with your son's issues. Try yahoo groups, too.

    Best of luck to you.

  • I'm sorry (0 / 0)

    Watching your new little baby have medical problems is so unbelievably difficult. It makes the heart ache. It is a good thing though, as everyone said, that they were able to catch it early. And I'm glad you have a great ped.

    You and your dear baby will be in my thoughts.

  • You and your family (0 / 0)

    are in my thoughts and prayers..

  • thinking of you... (0 / 0)

    ...and praying for Baby Julian!

  • Thinking of you (0 / 0)

    Sending big hugs your way and kisses to your precious baby.

  • I'll add my prayers (0 / 0)

    to those of everyone else. I can't imagine how difficult this must be but other MTers have experienced similar situations and I'm sure their advice will be helpful to you.

    Lots of positive thoughts & prayers coming your way.

    Lisa

  • so sorry to hear this (0 / 0)

    i hope the problem can be resolved with minimal surgery. i'll be thinking of you and your family.

  • {{{Julian/Mommy/Daddy/Big Sis}}}} (0 / 0)

    I'm so sorry to hear about this but so grateful that you have a good pediatrician who recognized this problem right away and that you have a good children's hospital as well.

    You are all in our thoughts here on the east coast, darling!

  • thank god (0 / 0)

    your pediatrician caught this. Focus on the upside scenario; your doctor would warn you if she felt it was more serious.

    Big hugs to you from us.

  • Hugs to you (0 / 0)

    and your family.....you are all in our prayers.

  • just adding my thoughts and prayers (0 / 0)

    We hope everything works out well. Be strong, and know there are a lot of here rooting for your family!

  • Oh, I'm so sorry. (0 / 0)

    What a stressful situation!  I'm sending many healthy vibes to Baby Julian.  I'm so sorry you have to deal with this?

  • Stay strong (0 / 0)

    Babies are resilient. I'm so glad they caught this early. Hang in there.

  • Round Peg and Family (0 / 0)

    We're keeping you in our good thoughts and prayers.  

  • I'm thinking about you and your family... (0 / 0)

    I know this probably won't help, but my first love had this and aside from some youthful embarrassment (he was 21 when we met and no longer shy about it) about the scar or "bumps" on his head (only visible because he was in the military and had super short hair) he was totally fine and he is over 30, so it was awhile ago and the surgery can only have improved since then.  I only say this to point out how great modern medicine really is when it is needed. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.  Hang in there.

  • peaceful thoughts (0 / 0)

    I hope you and yours can be in a bubble together until the surgery is safely over.    Please let us know how things go and if there's anything you need.

    XOXO

  • Thoughts and prayers sent your way (0 / 0)

    Thank goodness that your pediatrician caught this.  I guess the upside is that it was discovered early.  Still I can only imagine the worries that you must have and the thought of what your child has to deal with.  Big (((hugs))) to you and your family!

  • Thinking about you (0 / 0)

    Oh Round Peg, what a shock.
    However small a consolation, catching it so early is the good news. I hope that in the meantime you got some more clarity on procedures etc. And as others have said, ignoring for a bit the news sometimes helps to put it all in its right place.

    Take care!

  • Adding my thoughts and hugs (0 / 0)

    Sending you wishes that the surgery goes smoothly, and it ends up being one of those baby stories shared over many happy celebrations.

    (((HUGS))) for all of you!

  • Take care (0 / 0)

    It sounds scary, but just keep going forward. Our thoughts are with you!
  • So sad for you (0 / 0)

    Just want to echo everyone and say you and Julian are in my thoughts and prayers.

  • keeping you in my thoughts (0 / 0)

    Stay positive. You'll get through this. It sounds like you have an excellent pediatrician and take comfort in a strong support system.

    I have a friend who is a social worker at CHO if you need any help or advice, just let me know. She's really wonderful.

  • just read your post... (0 / 0)

    and thinking of you and the family. hugs to you all.

  • know a success story (0 / 0)

    I usually just lurk but I wanted to offer support since I know a child who had this condition who had successful surgery at 10 mos old and is now completely normal at age 3.  The squeezing and all of that stuff would not usually happen until much later.  There are doctors with a lot of expertise in this.  Hang in there, my thoughts are with you.

  • Been sending out small prayers every day (0 / 0)

    since first reading your post.  My heart goes out to you and your family and most especially your dear sweet boy.  Please keep us all updated on his progress.

  • lovelovelove (0 / 0)

    bright and shining, healing white light around you all.

    We cannot defend freedom abroad by deserting it at home. - E.R. Murrow

    by lorin on Thu Dec 13, 2007 at 06:20:55 PM PDT

  • Been thinking about you, round peg (0 / 0)

    You and Julian are in my thoughts for a speedy recovery after his surgery. Thank you for the update. I'm glad that you have these six weeks to prepare and to just be together.

    Take care of yourself, too.

    RachelD

  • update/more good thoughts (0 / 0)

    Okay, I read up on the doctor and I will DEFINITELY want to put him on my Chinese New Year card list! Your precious baby is certainly in good hands.

    Still, this is a rough thing to go through in a holiday season, and I just want you to know we are keeping you and your family in our thoughts.

  • My best thoughts to you. (0 / 0)

    Bless you all.

    Thanks for reading! Expat Chef http://expatriateskitchen.blogspot.com

    by Expat Chef on Thu Dec 13, 2007 at 08:48:47 PM PDT

  • update... (0 / 0)

    my thoughts and prayers are with you. sounds like you have a great team of docs. that must be a tremendous comfort.

  • hugs to you all (0 / 0)

    I'm so glad you have a wonderful team and that your surgery is timed to allow maximum cuddles. Also glad to hear that Julian is taking expressed breastmilk. Hugs and prayers and envisioning a good outcome.

  • Good to see (0 / 0)

    that you have an excellent surgeon taking this on.  

    (((round peg)))

    "If it's not Scottish, it's crap!" ~Mike Meyers

    by 1plain1peanut on Fri Dec 14, 2007 at 05:57:50 AM PDT

  • By the way (0 / 0)

    Congratulations.  I know it's hard to focus on the celebration of this new little life when there's so much lurking worry, but still- every life should be welcomed with joy. A dear friend has a daughter with hydrocephalus and it drove her nuts that people would offer her condolences rather than congratulations. So congratulations to all three of you.  

  • More good thoughts and prayers (0 / 0)

    coming your way. It sounds like a lot to deal with but it also sounds like you've got the best medical team possible, so I hope that helps you feel more confident and hopeful.

    (((round peg)))

  • I will keep your little guy in my thoughts (0 / 0)

    :)

    http://www.tacomamama.com

    by jenyum on Fri Dec 14, 2007 at 07:22:33 AM PDT

  • update (0 / 0)

    Thanks for the update. I've been thinking of you and your little guy. It sounds like you're being very brave and smart and that Julian will be fine once he's through the surgery. Glad to hear he's taking the bottle. I'll continue to send good thoughts and best wishes your way.

  • I am so sorry (0 / 0)

    I'm keeping you in my thoughts.

  • This may or may not help... (0 / 0)

    but I thought I'd share a positive story with you! My friend's baby sister was born with this same condition. She had sort of a football-shaped head, and they did the same ear-to-ear incision to correct the problem. She's now an 18-year-old, beautiful, young woman. It had never been an issue since.

  • Congratulations on the new addition (0 / 0)

    You inspire me with your strength.  Julian is lucky to have you -- and you are so lucky to have him.  Thinking of the 4 of you often.  

    --R

  • Thanks for the update (0 / 0)

    From what you write, and experiences related in the comments, it sounds like Julian's prospects are really good. That's great to hear!

    Enjoy the time until the surgery, and try to be as rested as you can when it happens.

    Thinking about all four of you.

  • Adding my well and healing wishes (0 / 0)

    to the mix above.  I will hold on to the hope that you find whatever you and your family need every single day.

  • Glad (0 / 0)

    Glad you have six weeks to relax before the surgery and that you are in such good medical hands.  Hang in there  

    : )

  • I can't believe I missed this until today! (0 / 0)

    I want to join with everyone else in saying that I am thinking about you and Julian and will pray for as swift and easy and painless a resolution to this as possible.

    It sounds like he's in good hands, but I know it will be hard to have him in anyone's hands but yours. Peace.

  • more thoughts and prayers (0 / 0)

    headed your way. So very sorry you have to deal with this at what should be only a joyous time

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