It's such a hard juggling act, especially for a single mom like you.

Thank goodness your ex is local at least.  I sure hope Liza feels better soon!  

there were many a time that i questioned how good i was or wasn't at being the mom i envisioned that i should be --- i stopped working outside the home for money when my son was born, but that doesn't always equate to stopping the kind of thinking that goes along with feeling like somehow you're letting everyone down, including yourself.  sigh.

when kids are sick, everything tends to get just that much edgier --- illness is hard to predict - how sick, how long, etc., so we all just do the best we can - the proverbial crap shoot.

i hope as i am typing this, you are  past your critical mass point and you and liza are feeling better :>)  

surely one of the oldest cliches is tried and true and that is:

This too shall pass.

Alex has had a headache off and on since Saturday. No fever, but also a scratchy throat and congested cough. Clearly a mild cold. Motrin controls the headache and the other symptoms don't bother him much at all. So I sent him to school yesterday - only to get the call from the nurses office before lunch. He is back today after we had a discussion about whether he should stay home or not. The issue is not that I have anything huge going on at work - and I can work from home. But, I have a breast biopsy scheduled for tomorrow afternoon. Then I already had put in to take Thurs and Fri off since it is semester break for his school. On top of that his dad is out of town so it really is all on me! He agreed that I needed to come to the office today and we figured the latest we could give him some meds and how long they would last and he said he would be ok. Why THIS week does he get sick??

I hope your daughter is on the mend and things are calming down for everyone.  Life tends to be like that doesn't it, everything hits all at once.

There is never a convenient time for them to get sick, is there?  It seems always to be in the way of some major event.

Good luck!  Hope she feels better soon.

isn't it?  I've been doing this for 22 years, and while I can't imagine not having my children, sometimes I just feel overwhelmed with always having to make what feels like one judgment call after the next.  

I tip my hat to you Katie. You are a good mother.

I hope Liza feels better. PLease don't beat yourself up: I can't tell you how many times I have sent Ari sick to a playdate or school -- unintentionally -- or not found out he was sick until his routine doctor's appointment. He had two ear infections -- I didn't know about -- diagnosed that way. I felt so AWFUL.

But at the end, we can only do the best that we can. (Or so my logical self says, even though I still get ridden with guilt.) Good for your ex helping out! Liza sounds like a lucky little girl with two wonderful parents.

I'm sorry I'm not a next-door neighbor who can keep Liza company while you work...  It'd be nice if we had better support networks nearby, wouldn't it??

Let us know how your day went -  I'm hoping you arrived at your session with the Supreme Court just in time!

And as a nurse I can honestly say you did everything just fine :-)

Sorry to hear your coworker is such a shark. Yuck.

We need more family friendly workplaces!!

we don't all live in the same neighborhood, geographically?! I woulda kept an eye on Liza, too...

I think there's a reason that the Hindu goddess, Shiva, has eight arms - it's what we moms all really want, right?!? I remember thinking that after Jess was born that a third arm would be really, really handy.

Hope the young lady's feeling better, and the Tums with a tequila chaser did the trick.

I hope you got a minute's peace to savor your experience with the New Hampshire Supreme Court. When you have a second (ha), drop us a post and tell us about it. And I hope Liza goes to school tomorrow, too!

RachelD

Thanks for all your nice comments above -- it made me better reading them and I smiled thinking of how awesome it would be if we all lived within arms reach! . Liza has strep and is on antibiotics and feeling pretty crummy...I'm xing every finger I have she can go to school tomorrow but don't have my hopes up -- the antibiotics mess up her tummy too unfortunately -- plus it's mid term week so she missed her midterm math test today, she has grammar tomorrow, vocab Thursday and spelling Friday -- of all weeks to be out! (yes..midterms in 2nd grade -- ah Catholic school LOL) plus she had her heart set on auditioning for a production of "the Jungle Book" at her acting school tomorrow night -- sigh -- never rains yadda yadda. Well I did make it to my session with the Supreme court ok and that was definitely a once in a lifetime chance -- so kudos to my ex dh for stepping in and doign the doctor visit/pharmacy run for Liza so I could do that. We had three hours with the five justices and it was just an unbelievable opportunity -- they really talked to us about their liveso n the court, not just the process -- about how their social lives shrunk out of necssity as they can never tell when they'll be at a gathering with someone arguing a case in front of them or who one of their rulings may have offended -- the chief justice spoke openly aobut the legislature in NH and how it's anger at one if his rulings nearly cost him his position on the bench -- it was fascinating. I'll try to organize my thoughts and post more later again, thanks for making me smile and breathe a little in the midst of the crisis......now where is that tequila...?

about your child being sick!  Don't you love this time of year?  

My daughter got the stomach flu on Thursday while we had a friend over/playdate and I was just praying that she'd be over it by her birthday party.  I must have done 5 loads of laundry that night.  I basically held her on my lap, as she's too young to get the idea of throwing up in the toilet.  Every time I took her in there, she would panic and want to get out.  Finally I gave up and we used old towels.  We spent the day on the couch.  Everything stops when your child is ill.

Not only is Alex battling a cold, but he has a previously scheduled batting lesson with his baseball coach and a little league practice this afternoon. Luckily this all occurs on the field attached to his school. My biopsy is scheduled for 2:00pm. So, I will be at the doctor's office while he is on the baseball field. IOW - not reachable! His dad is overseas. Who do the coaches call if he is really sick or gets hurt?! Argh. Of course I think of this as I am driving him to school this morning. Way to think ahead mom. So I scribbled cell phone numbers on an envelope for him. Mine - which I will have on silent mode but can check periodically except during the actual procedure of course - and his brothers as I at least remembered that Nick has the day off today and could get to Alex in a pinch.

He and I will be off the next two days as it is semester break for them and I planned to stay home with him. I think we will both be very happy to have a pajama day on the couch after this maddening week!