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A Hillside of White Crosses

Wed Dec 20, 2006 at 05:48:38 PM PDT

Editor's Note: Here is a San Francisco Chronicle blogger's perspective -- with photo -- of the crosses. Karen, thank you for posting such a beautiful tribute to your family and painful reminder of the cost of war. -Elisa

In the local news is a story about the town of Lafayette and the controversial placing of white crosses on a hillside on private property across from the BART (Bay Area Rapid Transit) station. A sign has been erected there that proclaims the number of American soldiers killed in Iraq.  This testimony can be interpreted by each individual as they choose.  Some say it is a form of protest, some say of honoring, some remain silent.

There is much brouhaha over these crosses.  In fact, I believe the story has made national news.

For me, the green hillside, dotted with the contrasting stark white crosses, is a welcome and necessary, albeit profoundly sad and sobering, reminder.  It reminds me of the cost of armed conflict.  It reminds me that my mother lost her brother to war in WWII at age 21.  It reminds me of my mother's and my father's service in the military.  My dad served as a fighter pilot and my mother a pharmacist mate.   It reminds me of how proud I was of my mother's service to this country, when,  10 years ago,  we were given the American flag in her honor during her memorial service.  I will feel that same pride when our family receives this country's flag upon my father's death for his brave service.  

It reminds me of my mother's journey to Europe to locate her brother's grave in Belgium, 40 years after his death.  She had never been to Europe, had never seen Cutty's grave.  But he was her only sibling, a brother she adored and grieved for the whole of her adult life.  She was determined to visit the white cross that stood at his grave, to honor him in this way.

I cherish my Mom's picture standing as she is, by herself with a bouquet of brilliant red roses in hand, head bowed, honoring the memory of her brother in front of the white cross that marked his grave among thousands of others.  Row after row of white crosses against a vast expanse of green.

These simple white crosses in Lafayette get my attention as well they should.  They commemorate a powerful sacrifice that no one should ever forget or take for granted.  

It is somewhat difficult to accept others' politicizing the white crosses on the hillside in Lafayette, but I understand how it churns up debate.  It is in our own minds, in the way we choose to think, that we begin any journey of peace, of honoring and remembering.  There is no honor in avoiding the knowledge of the cost of war, or of being made to feel it's bad to discuss those losses, or to want them to stop.    

The white crosses on the green hillside are a beautiful testimony -- silent and profoundly moving.

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  • You touched my heart (0 / 0)

    I'll read this again and again.  The thought of your mom having to grieve the brother she lost at such a young age for the rest of her life breaks my heart.  The same loss so many have and will suffer from this war.  Such a terrible waste.
  • oh this is a profound story.. (0 / 0)

    and we pass the crosses frequently. i thought the controversy was good for our community.  it has folks thinking and it is not possible to ignore. we must not hide from the real cost, those that serve and make the supreme sacrifice in this war.

    karen did you notice that the sign has been blacked out?  passed it today and noticed.  i hope they erase it and record the numbers again.

    • i did not see that yet.... (0 / 0)

      but it is the sign's size that is the technical controversy from what i understand....the size is over the ordinance limit, but of course,  the controversy is rooted more deeply in people's views of Iraq, war, Bush...sad, really, that the honoring and memory of the people who have made the ultimate sacrifice get lost in the noise of others' voices who have the privilege to continue to live.

      a good book to read on the subject  is mark twain's "a war prayer."  

  • Post (0 / 0)

    What a beautiful post.

    I can't imagine how all the pro-Bush pro-war people would have a problem with such a display.  Are we to hide the number of Americans who have given their lives?

    • there is something (0 / 0)

      going on in this country that is showing itself in so many areas.  it feels like an outrage of denial.  we see it with the administration,in our communities over local issues and i see it in parents when discussing teen challenges.  i can only think that 911 so disrupted and seeped into  our collective consciousness that we are reacting out of fear. perhaps denial and lashing out in anger are the ways many are still coping.
    • morning NJMom (0 / 0)

      thank you.

      In the news again this morning is a story about these crosses, the sign on the hillside, and its being vandalized recently with black tar to cover the sign's message.  

      In an ironic way, the negative actions are helpful since every photo in the paper, and every  broadcast illuminates the picture of the hillside and keeps the crosses and their symbolism front and center.  It is paramount that knowledge and a reminder of lives lost to armed conflict is kept uppermost in our collective conscience.  

      To do otherwise, imo, reeks of disrespect.  

      • absolutely! (0 / 0)

        i think the controversy is good too.  and i admire the people behind this.  it is causing discussion in our community.  and discussion is just what is needed, not denial of the war's existence and consequences.
  • thanks Elisa for your comment and (0 / 0)

    for giving my diary an honored placement.  the hillside is in the news again.  i drove past earlier this morning and saw two men wearing their rain gear trying to repair the sign from the recent vandalism.  their efforts to keep the memorial intact are admirable.

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