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  • this is the reason I hypenated (0 / 0)

    I knew I would at times be addressed as Mrs. kidsandspouse's last name, and I knew it would really, really bug me if that were not actually my last name.  So since I'm hypenated, it's totally fine when people call me that.  And I just use my regular maiden name professionally (isn't there a better term than maiden name?  I forget.)

    by Treena on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:49:49 PM PDT

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    • The preschool (0 / 0)

      is the only place where it happens and it has such a tone of "you loser who didn't change her name" to it when this one teacher says it that I come out of there two feet off the ground and ready to do battle over the choice that I made.  

      Funny thing is that I've talked to more women who regretted changing their names than women who wished they had - don't know if I just bring out that in women or what.

      I childproofed my house but they got back in somehow.

      by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:54:30 PM PDT

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      • Meh (0 / 0)

        I kept my name, husband kept his. Most people cope. Sometimes people call me Ms. Daughter's Last Name and I just don't worry about it. Mostly people call me 'Daughter's Mother'. :-) Admittedly I'm in California.

        Women who kept their maiden names aren't terribly common in my community, but what IS common is young women (quite a bit younger than me) on their second marriage and second set of kids. So they still end up with names not matching.

        by shenanigans on Fri May 09, 2008 at 02:19:25 PM PDT

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    • Your "family name" I think (0 / 0)

      Compared to your "married name"?

      I'm not sure either.

      RachelD

      by RachelD on Fri May 09, 2008 at 02:53:56 PM PDT

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