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  • How about (0 / 0)

    How about nobody taking anybody else's name? It's a strange custom, imho, changing your name. I don't understand the appeal.

    Kids could have one parent's last name as their middle name, and the other parent's name as the last name.

    It would be really simple that way.

    by RachelD on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:04:42 PM PDT

    • Didn't cost us anything (0 / 0)

      to keep our own names.

      If you want to have the same name then I think picking a new one would be the coolest.  But I'm in a foul mood because when I work at my son's preschool I get called Mrs. Husband'slastname all the time and it rubs me the wrong way.  Probably not good for me to comment on this thread at all.  

      I think I'll go see what's in the beer fridge.

      I childproofed my house but they got back in somehow.

      by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:23:51 PM PDT

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      • this is the reason I hypenated (0 / 0)

        I knew I would at times be addressed as Mrs. kidsandspouse's last name, and I knew it would really, really bug me if that were not actually my last name.  So since I'm hypenated, it's totally fine when people call me that.  And I just use my regular maiden name professionally (isn't there a better term than maiden name?  I forget.)

        by Treena on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:49:49 PM PDT

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        • The preschool (0 / 0)

          is the only place where it happens and it has such a tone of "you loser who didn't change her name" to it when this one teacher says it that I come out of there two feet off the ground and ready to do battle over the choice that I made.  

          Funny thing is that I've talked to more women who regretted changing their names than women who wished they had - don't know if I just bring out that in women or what.

          I childproofed my house but they got back in somehow.

          by lonestar canuck on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:54:30 PM PDT

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          • Meh (0 / 0)

            I kept my name, husband kept his. Most people cope. Sometimes people call me Ms. Daughter's Last Name and I just don't worry about it. Mostly people call me 'Daughter's Mother'. :-) Admittedly I'm in California.

            Women who kept their maiden names aren't terribly common in my community, but what IS common is young women (quite a bit younger than me) on their second marriage and second set of kids. So they still end up with names not matching.

            by shenanigans on Fri May 09, 2008 at 02:19:25 PM PDT

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        • Your "family name" I think (0 / 0)

          Compared to your "married name"?

          I'm not sure either.

          RachelD

          by RachelD on Fri May 09, 2008 at 02:53:56 PM PDT

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    • We kept ours (0 / 0)

      and the kids have my husband's since mine has certain issues.  

      However, it does come up now and then that people are confused that my name and my kids' is not the same, and  certain older family members still don't seem to get it.  I still now and then wonder if I shouldn't have changed it.

      Katherine

      by pat of butter in a sea of grits on Fri May 09, 2008 at 01:42:16 PM PDT

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