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  • I'm a SAHM (0 / 0)

    and I am 7 months pregnant. I really need my husband to help out more during this stage because physically there's a lot I can't do. When stuff crops up he will pitch in, good. Right?

    Meanwhile, his work has messed up his vacation days, tried TWICE to schedule him to be at week-long conferences in June, and his coworkers (90% of whom are males with children) are "jokingly" complaining about picking up the slack while he plans to stay home with the baby and me.

    Its driving me crazy. So yeah, my problem isn't with my husband's attitude but others regarding my SAHM condition. They assume I can just do all of this myself I guess or that my husband has no other real role in our lives except to bring home the money.

    by Suzanne77 on Wed May 07, 2008 at 07:26:16 AM PDT

    • This kills (0 / 0)

      DH's employer is still "paying him back" for being out for 8 weeks when Julian was born and the whole surgery mess happened.  Not that they are saying it explicitly, but he's been out in the field for whole week segments for 3 weeks in a row (home at midnight on Friday and leaving 4am on Mondays.

      He was supposed to be trading off every other week wit a coworker, but the guy decided to go on a 2 week cruise instead, and DH was told he, of all people, would understand this guy's need to relax  "And for him, it's only 2 weeks."

      ::sigh::

      What do you mean, uh-oh? Toddler & baby pictures

      by round peg inna square hole on Wed May 07, 2008 at 08:42:16 AM PDT

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      • ack!! (0 / 0)

        When Jess was born, DH was an internal auditor with a job that had massive travel committments. He was able to arrange to have 4 weeks off when Jess was born, but his first assignment after paternity leave (which wasn't leave at all but rather all of his accumulated vacation time)? Four-straight-weeks in Nigeria. It was even supposed to be a five week assignment, but it got chopped back to four when he got there. We were very WTF? when DH got that news.

        by Rachel on Wed May 07, 2008 at 02:24:48 PM PDT

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        • Oh, God! (0 / 0)

          That's awful!

          My sympathies

          What do you mean, uh-oh? Toddler & baby pictures

          by round peg inna square hole on Thu May 08, 2008 at 03:27:19 PM PDT

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          • thank goodness (0 / 0)

            my parents came over. They arrived 10 days after Anthony left, and staggered their visit so that I had someone around for the rest of the time DH was away.

            However, it must be said that I was on my own with only one baby; I could basically live around Jess's schedule. I couldn't imagine doing it with two like you!

            But yeah, it was pretty sucky. We were so glad when he finished that job! So I empathise a lot with what you two are going through!

            by Rachel on Thu May 08, 2008 at 04:07:28 PM PDT

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      • Honestly? (0 / 0)

        Newborn surgery is equal to a cruise?  WTF?  

        I'm totally gobsmacked.  

        Motherhood is nature's way of saying "So you like sex, eh?"

        by lonestar canuck on Thu May 08, 2008 at 06:12:17 AM PDT

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        • Apparently. (0 / 0)

          AND, DH gave his employer 8 months notice on the fact that he was going to take some time off after baby, so it wasn't that they didn't know he was going to be gone.  

          AND, when he'd been home for one week and we found out Jules was having surgery, we called in and let them know THAT day.  WEEKS in advance.

          AND when they needed him for fill-in emergency stuff, he came in (for four days altogether).  While on leave.

          WTF people?

          What do you mean, uh-oh? Toddler & baby pictures

          by round peg inna square hole on Thu May 08, 2008 at 03:30:55 PM PDT

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          • that's just awful (0 / 0)

            I mean, there's something seriously wrong with people's thinking at that point. You and DH did all you could to give reasonable notice (and with all the notice you gave on Julian's surgery, I'd say you really did the job right). And somebody says cruise equals newborn surgery? OMFG. That's just wrong.

            by Rachel on Thu May 08, 2008 at 04:09:04 PM PDT

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