about others' perceptions.  really, anyone who really pays attention to relationships has noticed.  people who don't, just think "shy".  but aunts, my best friends, our favorite sitter (who dc ADORES) and my mom have all noticed and commented on similar insights.  it's part of what makes me sad... people who love dc and want relationships with her too, also find it challenging to connect.  teachers generally rave about how smart and well behaved dc is, only commenting on activity and distractibility levels (and not really concerned, but more watching at this point).  and dc really does do well with peers, but the mama bear in me worries this won't be the case in a few years... but tjb22's comments down[post give me new hope for that.