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    are not learning disabled, though they act like it some times and can't seem to get it together BUT my experience was very similar.

    No phone until 14:  brother (only 2 years younger) gets one at 12. Before me. Brother 7 years younger? He got to chat on the internet (thus relieving the need for a phone) around 10.

    Curfew: when I came home from college I had an earlier curfew than my younger brother. Sexism seemed to be an issue here, but it goes on and on...

    the WORST was the car. THE CAR my brother got at 16 WHILE I WAS STILL RIDING THE DAMN BUS MY SENIOR YEAR OF HIGH SCHOOL. The car I had to "borrow" from my brother when I had to go to WORK (as I was the only one with a job before the age of 20) and ride without a radio because HE purchased his own radio, replaced the one in the car and since it was "his" he got to remove the face plate when I had the car. The car that finally, after getting "tired of my whining!" my dad went out and bought brother a different car for him to use... so I could drive myself to college second half of freshman year. Yeah. I'm Bitter :)

    My parents being less-strict with my brothers didn't help them. They indulged them more and they've both grown up entitled and selfish and at 29 and 22, still live off my parents. Their lack of rules and discipline I think were not a good choice. Bros didn't need to have the freedom without maturity they both got.

    by lilianna28 on Fri Apr 18, 2008 at 06:13:18 AM PDT

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      the car thing is awful! i'd be bitter too :)

      But, same here-- at 30 I'm supporting a family and have been for a while (on my own in all ways since 16), and at 22 and 26 my bros still live off our parents. I'm starting to worry about their retirement. Last week, my mom went and CLEANED by brother's HOUSE for him so he could have a housewarming party (this is the younger brother, not the middle one who is going through so much heartbreak right now). Bro22 and his gf sat on the porch and drank coffee while my mother did this. SO wrong.

      The boys just don't grow up. My DH is the same way. I often wonder if the older brother/ younger sister pair might be better, or might balance out more gracefully in the end.

      if you wobba cypress trees then I will wobba you

      by thais on Sat Apr 19, 2008 at 11:31:26 AM PDT

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        I have the SAME concerns. Not so much about whether my parents can afford retirement with this royal brotherly treatment - they can - but if they can do things they want to do, or if taking perpetual care of a kid is holding them back.

        by lilianna28 on Sun Apr 20, 2008 at 04:52:34 PM PDT

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        • talked about this with my mom (0 / 0)

          she seems to think she'd hit a pattern of living a long time ago that she doesn't want to change much now. Stay on the farm, don't take vacations. They live creative enough lives, but no traveling. Truth is, she presses more care on the bros than they need, almost as a way of keeping them close at hand.

          I guess I'm saying everyone is in cahoots creating their own dependencies.

          if you wobba cypress trees then I will wobba you

          by thais on Sun Apr 20, 2008 at 06:26:16 PM PDT

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