I'm a SAHM Mom(and I don't see that changing any time in the near future since number 3 will be here in July)and while I love it and love my kids,it's not necessarily something I ever imagined for me. I am blessed to be able to have this time with my kids but have at times "mourned" the loss of the other me. In the end I found it most helpful to realize that whatever it is I am (or am not) doing at any given time be it a day,week,decade,etc. does not define me. That I'm a SAHM NOW doesn't mean I can't or won't ever contribute outside the home again. I'm still a person with friends,hobbies,interests and ideas. I don't have to give those parts of my life up but right now,I'm doing what's best for my family so some of the priorities shift for. Hang in there,it isn't an easy transition but it can be and is,in my case,rewarding.