of normalcy and encouraging her to move toward that is a great gift. Tell stories of your own marriage that she will (hopefully) compare to her own. Invite her into your non abusive home to see a regular marriage at work.

I know several people who were abused as kids. All of them say the only way they were able to escape the cycle was having a window into a normal life--non abusive grandparents, for example. This was what allowed them to realize: "My home life isn't right. I can leave it and have a different kind of life."