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    I had no idea I could (possibly) file a contempt motion on my own.  I will certainly have to keep that in mind (esp since he is supposed to have the house refinanced and my name off of it by 5 Feb and hasn't even started yet).  Wow.  That is such good advice.  Thank you.

    I'm really frustrated with myself for not getting everything totally detailed in the original decree.  It's so incredibly vague that it's laughable in retrospect.  I think at the time I was so fed up with the fact it took me 18 months to get the divorce finalized that I didn't pay enough attention.  Tomorrow, I just want to let him know that a detailed plan is going to have to happen asap and we will have to stick to it.

    After the advice I've gotten on here, I think we should just discuss and work out what we can, then take that to the mediator and go from there.  It's just that honestly, if I don't make it painfully clear to him that I am serious, and that all my "Ms Nice" has run out, he will continue to try and take advantage of me, use DS as a weapon, and be a jerk.

    i don't know why i'm thinking he won't show up on time- i think i'm projecting my experiences w/ my ex onto you and your ex-

    Um, yeah, maybe we did all marry the same guy?  I am totally expecting him to be late.  He has a 30 minute window after which all bets are off.  

    by Inky on Fri Dec 28, 2007 at 06:17:49 PM PDT

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    • when you do it yourself, it's called "pro se" (0 / 0)

      i think if you can afford a good attorney it's better to  use one, but if you can't afford one and your only choice is to do it yourself or not do it at all, you have to do it yourself.

      i live in ct, so i went to the state's website which had the downloadable forms

      the people at the courthouse can't give you advice, but they can give you forms.  

      and anything that's been filed w/ the court regarding your divorce you can get a copy of- but i remember having to pay for the copies

      when i had problems w/ my ex not paying child support i went through child support enforcement, and that didn't cost me anything.  i hope you don't have a problem like that, though.

      the lady who helped me w/ the child support told me a lot of lawyers who should just refer their potential clients to child support enforcement don't, and that really upset me

      when he stopped paying child support i thought he was trying to antagonize me into stopping his visitation so he would have ammo against me, so of course i didn't interfere w/ visitation at all.

      it's important for you to always do what's right, even when he doesn't.  besides having the peace of mind that comes w/ doing the right thing, you don't give him anything to ever use against you- in court, or in your son's memory

      by thankgodforairamerica on Fri Dec 28, 2007 at 06:54:34 PM PDT

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