Tuesday Open Thread

Happy Tuesday!

How was your holiday weekend? Ours was busy and fun. Date night on Friday, joined friends for a birthday dinner on Saturday, DD’s figure skating competition on Sunday, and yet another birthday dinner with our niece on Monday.

But Sunday was the highlight. My little girl glided and jumped and twirled her little heart out on the ice. There were three girls in her event, and she took first place. She has come so far since her very first parent-and-me skating class, and her huge tantrum and breakdown after her 4th place showing at her second competition. I am glad she stuck with it. She has learned determination and perseverance. And best of all, she really seems to have fun out there. She even flashed a smile during her performance.

And when did she get so tall and graceful? Ack.

What are you up to today? What’s on your mind? Chat away!

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  1. WTF WordPress? This whole comment-eating thing is becoming an issue.

    She’s beautiful. You must be so. freaking. proud. I can’t believe how big she’s getting!

    Put on my Wonder Woman underoos this morning. DH and I are meeting with the Middle School today about Harry’s math placement. We’ve been fighting this battle all year to no avail and I”m done- they’re going to fix it now. I spent the morning practicing my SoD in the mirror and murmuring “Interesting. Now, when will he start in the new class again?” I think I may need to practice some other responses though.

    They’re going to say that (after they told us to “wait and see” in November), it is too late to move him now- that he couldn’t possibly catch up. Fact is, he doesn’t need to catch up- he already knows the stuff mostly. They’re also going to say he needs to test into the class, in spite of the fact that no one else had to test in.

    I know it seems like such an elitist, first-world problem (“Oh my poor snowflake isn’t being challenged! Call the waaambulance!”) but he took this placement of an indictment of his ability and math is really the way he views the world. It’s how he processes everything. Telling him his math skills need remediation (the message he took from not continuing in advanced math when he moved from elementary to middle school) is like telling him that the way he sees the world is wrong. If there was a reason for his placement beyond “Mom and Dad didn’t go in and pitch a fit over the summer” I’d be able to make sense of it, but there really wasn’t.

    So…yeah. Lucky underwear today. And lipstick. Wish me luck.

  2. WTF WordPress? This whole comment-eating thing is becoming an issue.

    She’s beautiful. You must be so. freaking. proud. I can’t believe how big she’s getting!

    Put on my Wonder Woman underoos this morning. DH and I are meeting with the Middle School today about Harry’s math placement. We’ve been fighting this battle all year to no avail and I”m done- they’re going to fix it now. I spent the morning practicing my SoD in the mirror and murmuring “Interesting. Now, when will he start in the new class again?” I think I may need to practice some other responses though.

    They’re going to say that (after they told us to “wait and see” in November), it is too late to move him now- that he couldn’t possibly catch up. Fact is, he doesn’t need to catch up- he already knows the stuff mostly. They’re also going to say he needs to test into the class, in spite of the fact that no one else had to test in.

    I know it seems like such an elitist, first-world problem (“Oh my poor snowflake isn’t being challenged! Call the waaambulance!”) but he took this placement of an indictment of his ability and math is really the way he views the world. It’s how he processes everything. Telling him his math skills need remediation (the message he took from not continuing in advanced math when he moved from elementary to middle school) is like telling him that the way he sees the world is wrong. If there was a reason for his placement beyond “Mom and Dad didn’t go in and pitch a fit over the summer” I’d be able to make sense of it, but there really wasn’t.

    So…yeah. Lucky underwear today. And lipstick. Wish me luck.

      • That made me smile. Dead. To. Me. :)

        Good luck with the meeting today. We will be having one for Mira next week I think. Negotiating the first 504 (is that the right number?) plan.

        My Mom always embarrassed me as a kid because she was such a loud, in your face, bad ass. But now, I try to bottle those memories as I get ready to meet with people at school. I’m sending you “Susie’s bad ass school meeting” vibes. May they combine with the SOD and your practiced lines to get them all to quickly move forward for H.

        • I’m not sure there’s a bright clear line but as a general rule 504 is for medical/physical disability accommodations, IEP is educational. IEP is a bigger deal and puts more burden on the teacher to teach differently. My son is covered under 504, but in his case it mostly guarantees things like the right to exempt himself from PE or to take extended bathroom breaks.

          • H has a 504 for his Dyspraxia. It *does* require the teachers to make some modifications because of his fine motor and organizational issues, but it’s not as big a deal as an IEP would have been. Interestingly enough, his 504 was one of the reasons they excluded him from advanced math. Totally illegal, but “he’s not very organized and it’s hard to read his writing” were the only reasons given.

            • Yes, my son’s 504 requires modifications if necessary, though so far that hasn’t actually happened in class. For example a test might have to be given orally if he can’t hold a pencil. But the education plan, content, and work requirements (unless specifically modified) are the same as for the rest of the class. My younger son on the other hand could end up with an IEP at some point in the future if his reading difficulties cause him to fall behind his classmates. Though nobody seems to have a clear idea of what that should look like.

    • Imagine me being the one standing in the corner, nodding intently every time you speak, and occasionally shuffling the Bag O’ Doorknobs O’ Justice when the admin make a particularly stupid comment.

    • Thanks! It was slightly an out-of-body experience watching her on the ice. Hard to believe she was once a chubby, helpless newborn in my arms. Now she can physically do things I will never be able to do, like jump in ice skates. And she’s only 8! Wowza.

      Good luck at the meeting, will be sending you my strongest mama vibes. Please let us know how it goes.

    • Yeah, WordPress seems to be getting worse by the day. If it weren’t for the folks who don’t do FB, I’d be ready to just do all my chatting there.

      Anyway. Get em, snarky and DH. We’re all with you in spirit with the doorknobs. They are not holding our boy back.

      • Well, we got something accomplished. He won’t get into the other class because it would require a total revamping of his schedule and that would pull him out of some classes he loves. They agreed to have him do an assessment that would surface the gaps in his knowledge and then he’ll spend the rest of the year filling in those gaps. What that means for next year is still unsure- he won’t go into the 7th grade advanced math section because he will have finished that curriculum this year, so he may end up in the advanced 8th grade class or in an online program. They kept telling us that he’d still have to test into Algebra at the high school – it took forever to get them to understand that this wasn’t about getting him ahead, it was about rebuilding his self-image where math was concerned. I think he’ll be happy with the result- not as happy as he would have been if they’d just moved him in October when we first asked them to, but he’ll be happy.

        They also didn’t mean to, but they totally admitted that they violated the law in keeping him out of the advanced program. We also caught them in 2 or 3 lies about how the whole thing had come about. We didn’t point out the lies, but we have both of those things tucked away for future reference.

          • Turns out he’s still very disappointed. He just can’t understand that moving him into the other class wouldn’t work for him because he already knows the content they’re going to be doing in the 4th quarter. He’s got it in his head that that’s “Advanced Math” and anything other than that is “Not Advanced Math.” He’s positively binary about it. DH just went to talk to him about it some more. He and I agree that the move would be a colossal pain for very little benefit, but helping kiddo understand…that’s a harder job.

            He’s also getting more and more interested in computer programming, which I’d be psyched about except that he seems mostly interested in learning how to hack other systems. So far it’s just his game system and the Lego robotics thing he got for Christmas- and he hasn’t done either successfully- but I don’t love that this is where he’s choosing to put his energy. It’s not exactly boosting cars, but it’s got my mama radar buzzing a bit.

            • Oh dear. That’s scary and funny all at the same time. Hopefully he will see systems as a puzzle and will use his powers for good to defeat ill intentioned hackers. Like, apparently, the Chinese army.

            • What if you promise him to ask the advanced math teacher for a copy of each test after she gives it, so he can take the tests without taking the class? Of course she may not give them out, and H may not want to take them anyway, but that’s not the point. If you offer to try to get these for him perhaps that will reassure him of your confidence that he doesn’t need the class at all.

              Coincidentally, this weekend my SIL introduced us to a PBS program they like, and the episode we watched featured a master hacker showing how cars can be stolen via the computer. And yes my son was intrigued.

            • If what you’re talking about by “hacking” is “getting a system to do something that it’s physically capable of, but has software installed to stop it from doing so” then it’s not the sort of hacking you need to worry about. Computer folks do it all the time (I keep having to talk Expat out of doing it to my cell phone), I’d say it’s more akin to putting a spoiler or deluxe stereo system or fancy tires on your car than hotwiring one.

  3. If there is one thing that will make you glad you are not 22 any more, it is reading Jezebel.

    Labiaplasty is apparently a thing now, because some women feel that their labia are not as pretty as a p0rn star’s, and they need to have surgery to, uh, compete in the marketplace. There are actually doctors removing the inner ones entirely, or reshaping them to be more attractive. I don’t know how common a thing this is, but there were commenters in the thread saying they were considering it (although most others were telling them not to).

    I think we can safely say that if you are being dumped for having insufficiently attractive labia, that person is probably not someone you want to be with in the first place.

  4. SNOWMAGEDDON HEADING THIS WAY! EVERYBODY PANIC! EVEN THOUGH WE LIVE IN THE MIDWEST AND DEAL WITH SNOW ALL THE TIME, THIS WILL CAUSE CHAOS!
    Actually, I’m excited. Looks like we’ll probably have a snow day Thursday and I can use my snowshoes again. I’m hoping the timing is such that everyone can go back to school and work on Friday, though. And I will admit to running to the grocery store this morning, as I won’t have any other time to get there before THE SNOWFLAKES OF DOOM ARRIVE AND WE WILL ALL SURELY STARVE!

    • I wonder if we’re due for anything? I have to admit that, after the ice storm we had a few weeks back where everyone was locked down for at least a week, I get the need to stock up on supplies pre-storm. I mock the French Toast Club, but I get it.

  5. Erika, she’s gorgeous! My DD did ice skating for several years – not competitively, just something we did with school friends, but she had one friend who did compete, so we got a taste of what that involves. I’m very impressed with M that she did it, and was so poised!

  6. Both my boss and my assistant are out today, so I am getting all the questions and calls they would normally field. On the plus side – this is what I’m supposed to do – eventually my boss will pass all questions to me. On the down side – YIKES – I am being asked all sorts of things that I don’t know the answer to!!

      • It’s going better. I am getting a better handle on my boss – how she operates, etc. – and I think she’s getting a better handle on me. I’m still not sure what the parameters are in terms of approving any expenditures (either in salary or in services for consumers), but otherwise I think I”m making progress.

        Today I had a conversation with someone in payroll who said “well, you need a supervisor’s signature” and I said “well….I AM the supervisor”. I had to say that 2 or 3 times before he believed me. LOL

        • I swear, payroll is the final battle. Always is.

          I’m really glad to hear that, otherwise – hope that you both are able to progress from this point into a really healthy, supportive, mutually beneficial professional relationship!

      • Oh, and, here’s a funny story about “corporate culture”. One of hte first things I did when I got the job was to facebook stalk the key players…..I mean, I might be old, but I get the socialmediastuff. The CEO has most things on his FB set to private, but one thing that is not private is an album of pictures of him at a party (at his house, I think) – a fundraiser for LGBT for Obama. A particularly cute younger man is always near or touching CEO, so I assume it’s his partner. At the same time, I notice a higher-than-chance number of gay men in the organization. Not a biggie, but an interesting change in culture from where I was before.

        So, today, I got an email about “hey, who’s going to Charlie’s show?” and someone came into my office to see if I got the message. Charlie is “Gary’s Husband” and “we’re all going” to support him in his cabaret show tomorrow.

        Yup – gone are the “golf outings” or “lets go get drunk” bonding experiences. At this new place we “bond” over “sassy caberet”! I think I”m going to like it here!

  7. My long weekend sucked. I got food poisoning, the dog ran away, and our car wouldn’t start. On the other hand, I didn’t get the awful flu, a lovely young couple took in our dog and we got him back the next day, and the car’s problem can be fixed easily and once we get $$. And it’s drivable till then.

    Also, I’m behind on my training for the 1/2 marathon I’m doing in May. (Thanks, food poisoning.) I’ll catch up but grrr.

    And work is really busy.

  8. My long weekend sucked. I got food poisoning, the dog ran away, and our car wouldn’t start. On the other hand, I didn’t get the awful flu, a lovely young couple took in our dog and we got him back the next day, and the car’s problem can be fixed easily and once we get $$. And it’s drivable till then.

    Also, I’m behind on my training for the 1/2 marathon I’m doing in May. (Thanks, food poisoning.) I’ll catch up but grrr.

    And work is really busy.

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