Weekend Open Thread

It’s the weekend, y’all!

Let’s talk Oscars and movie awards season in general.

I have seen three Best Picture nominees so far: Zero Dark Thirty, Argo and Silver Linings Playbook. I will make it a point to see Lincoln and Les Miz before the Oscars, and possibly Django Unchained.

I’m shocked that Kathryn Bigelow and Ben Affleck didn’t get nominated for Best Director. So their movies were Best Picture contenders, but I guess the films… just directed themselves? I thoroughly enjoyed both films, they had me on the edge of my seat. Gripping storytelling, stellar acting. I thought Silver Linings Playbook was sweet and I adored Jennifer Lawrence’s performance especially.

Last night DH and I watched a movie that wasn’t nominated but that we thoroughly enjoyed: This Is 40. I laughed out loud and cringed in recognition and rooted for them. The weird part were the eerie similarities between the couple in the movie and DH and me: from the cycling hobby to the beer they drank to the Sprinkles cupcakes they scarf to the weekend away in Laguna Beach. The 8-year-old daughter character even bore a certain resemblance to our DD, especially in her demeanor. Thankfully, we like each other much more than the couple in the movie like each other, but it was still very fun to watch. Melissa McCarthy’s outtakes during the end credits were almost worth the price of admission on their own.

Which movies have you watched lately? Which would you like to watch? Which would you tell people not to waste their money on? Who will be watching the Golden Globes tomorrow night (Tina Fey and Amy Poehler hosting, HOLLA!).

What else is on your mind? Chat away!

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  1. We’ve been doing pretty well in our Oscar movie -a thon — Lincoln, Argo, Silver linings Playbook, and Les Miz (sigh) — also Moonrise Kingdom, which got a screenplay nod — I normally fall asleep in Wes Anderson movies but I LOVED this one. We also saw Perks of Being a Wallflower which was SO overlooked– what a shattering movie. we’re going to try to rent Beasts of the Southern Wild next week and also get to Zero Dark Thirty if we can. Kelly wants to see The Impossible but I don’t think I have that in me. I also very much want to watch “Hot to Survive a Plague ” which is up for Best Documentary – andis about the early days of the AIDS epidemic and the founding of ACT UP

    of course I spent most of Silver lInings Playbook trying to figure out if Jackie Weaver was really Sally Struthers… Sally spends alot of time in Ogunquit doing shows at the Playhouse so i’ve seen her alot and Jackie Weaver sounded JUST like her!

    My picks
    Supporting Actress- Hathaway
    Supporting Actor – Walz (the academy loves him.. although Arkin could be the wild card)
    Actress- Chastain
    Actor- Day lewis(duh)
    Film- Lincoln
    Director- spielberg

    • Alan Arkin was funny in Argo, and so was Tommy Lee Jones in Lincoln although he didn’t really act much in it. Philip Seymour Hoffman was really good in the Master. He’s good in everything.

    • I think How to Survive a Plague is the only one I’ve seen (via Netflix). I was so very clueless at the time… now I work in the fight against HIV, I know a lot more now. DH knew Spencer Cox briefly in the ’80s. Worth the time.
      I still want to see Lincoln and Les Miz onscreen.

      • i used to see Spencer comment on my friend Ellen’s FB page all the time andI just thought he was her funny sarcastic friend Spencer.. until he died and I realized what a huge deal he really was

    • I think How to Survive a Plague is the only one I’ve seen (via Netflix). I was so very clueless at the time… now I work in the fight against HIV, I know a lot more now. DH knew Spencer Cox briefly in the ’80s. Worth the time.
      I still want to see Lincoln and Les Miz onscreen.

  2. I’ve seen Les Miz and Argo, which is two more nominated movies than I’ve usually seen. I think we’re going to wait for Lincoln on dvd, but Silver Linings may be something we see in the theater.

    We’re planning to see The Hobbit next weekend; hoping it’s still on at the imax theater, since I’ve never seen anything there.

    And Ben Affleck was robbed.

    • I’d reverse that and see Lincoln in the theater– silver linings is an intimate film.. .but Lincoln’s editing, set dressing, sound design etc. deserve to be seen in the theater

  3. My brother in law’s MIL is driving me nuts with the house hunting stuff on Facebook. Her comments are so helpful…not. She just doesn’t get why we like living where we are. My mother in law is bad enough with it but she doesn’t get into it on FB. I don’t need others random mother in laws telling me I am making bad decisions. One is enough, thanx! Lol.

    • Was she the self identified 70 year old with the gift of wisdom? Ha! Or the person with the shorter response who just said, “voice of experience.” Whatever.

      I just went and jumped in to support your plans while gently calling her (and the other city haters) alarmist. I wonder if that’ll be controversial?

      • She is the 70 year old.

        Thank you, you are awesome.

        And having dh around in the mornings and evenings, plus not cranky about the commute, is priceless. He grew up in the same suburb bil’s mil lives, and it is lovely but also snobby and 100% white. He actually really loved growing up there, and he waffles between staying in the city and moving to the burbs. He thinks she’s silly, but it doesn’t take much convincing for him to want to leave…really the only reason he’s willing to stay in the city is the commute. He gets positively ragey if he has to drive at all.

        • Oh and the funny thing? The “voice of experience” is my old old neighbor from when we lived in the worst neighborhood. She thinks Sheraden is bad but she’s living in Babylon, comparatively!

  4. Anyone seen life of Pi? We’re going to the movies tonight. I want to see Jack Reacher but dh wants to see life of Pi. I’m sure it’s great and I liked the book and all but i would rather see an action movie.

  5. I’ve seen Argo and Lincoln. I might see Silver Linings Playbook although the trailer didn’t make it seem quite up to awards level. Both Argo and Lincoln were good. I generally have liked Tarantino although I haven’t seen many of his films, only Pulp Fiction and Jackie Brown, but I am not sure about Django, The reactions to it make me a little unsure whether I would want to see it. I am not interested in Les Miz although my MIL would slap me if she heard that. Like Katie I also liked Moonlight Kingdom. Oh, and I saw The Master which got I think three acting nominations. That was a very weird movie. I liked a couple of his other ones but The Master was too long and just … odd.

    • Oh, and I saw Anna Karenina which got nominated for a couple of minor things. It did have beautiful costumes and cinematography. It was still a much better book than movie though.

  6. We came thisfreakingclose to having all of our children out at sleepovers tonight. But the oldest has declared that she has too much homework and has to study for midterms and can’t really afford to go to a sleepover tonight. It was a terrible parenting moment for us…trying to convince her to forget about her studies and go to the sleepover so we could have the house to ourselves for one freaking night but knowing that she’s right and that she’s doing the right thing (although we could have done without the stressmeltdown after).

    Man. Being a parent sucks, sometimes.

    • You win over the dad of one of my dd’s friends. Finals start tomorrow, dd and her friend have precalc, which the friend has to pass to pass the class. The dad announced this morning that they’re going to the beach today, since it’s 75 degrees. Oh, and she was swimming at the conference meet last night with dd, so that blew 5+ hours of study time. Way to go, dad.

  7. My son is switching to home based treatment with a visiting nurse next week – yay! – but it’s been taking time to reassemble the health care pieces and he didn’t get his dose on his regular day. The 5 day delay is hitting him unusually hard with an extra helping of pain and fatigue, and he’s so cold sensitive he can’t handle the dairy aisle at the grocery store. It’s a beautiful day but playing outside is out of the question. So we invited a bunch of his friends over, and the boys are being allowed or even encouraged to sit on their butts and play video games to their hearts content. They are in there yelling and shouting and generally whooping it up, and it’s the happiest he’s been in days. Parents who virtuously drone on about how they strictly limit video games can suck it. I love video games.

  8. We’ve had quite the setback on the potty training front. Alex has taken to holding his poop for days, then pooping in his underwear. Only two accidents in his undies so far but I’m at a loss as to what to do. He just had an accident. I had literally had him sitting on the potty five minutes prior, for a good chunk of time, reading a book. No poop, he insisted. Five minutes later he’s in his room reading a book, I go to my room, and suddenly he materializes with poop. Getting very frustrated. This is clearly a control thing but UGH. Advice?

    • Hmmm. My kid was the opposite, she’s always poop in the potty but pee on the dining or living room floor. BUT I think Alex is more typical. I had one friend whose daughter did NOT want to poop on the potty. Their agreement was that she’d wear underwear and always pee in the potty, but would come and ask for a diaper when she had to poop. They’s put it on and she’d go do her thing and then report back to her mom for a change. Do you think Alex definitely has the awareness and control for something like this? Not ideal, clearly, but it could be a good middle step until he feels more comfortable pooping in the potty. Some kids find that frightening for some reason. It’s a lot less messy and takes the accident out of it, and yet still teaches awareness and control.

      • Hm. I do think he has the awareness and control for that, actually. The strange thing is when we started “formally” potty training him last Monday night, it was purely due to his initiative! He was the one who suddenly announced he wanted to poop on the potty, then proceeded to do it twice that night. He stayed dry all day today, but pooped twice in his underwear. He even woke up dry after his nap. IDK what the frick is going on with him, but if tomorrow is another poop day like today was, I might try the diaper-before-a-poop technique.

        I am so frustrated right now. We took the kids to Dairy Queen tonight to celebrate Maya passing her Reading Counts goal, and he pooped right there, in the mall. He does it, then comes over to me to tell me, “I have poop.” We had just taken him to the potty after dinner at a restaurant, where he peed but no poop. Ugh and Ack.

        • I was always kind of ashamed of myself about how angry Lucy’s accidents used to make me, but it was always because she would deny that she had to go even when she was going right there on the floor! Huge control issues. Before potty training, I read all about it and how you aren’t supposed to get mad or punish accidents. But damn! Whoever wrote that never tried to potty train anyone, or at least never a strong willed kid!

          Hang in there, mama! We also used boring training pants for a long while until accidents were less frequent and then rewarded with the cool princess and elmo and wonder pet panties. Her toddler room teacher used to say, “princesses don’t like being pooped and peed on!” LOL! I bet Woody and Buzz and Superman don’t like being pooped on, either!

          • I started thinking of underpants like diapers, and that helped with the annoyance factor. Like, if she stayed dry most of the day and pooped in a pair of unders once, it was still cheaper and less waste than buying diapers. If I was at home, I’d even sometimes cut them off and throw them right into the trash!

    • TMI alert- major poop discussion here!

      This may sound counterintuitive, but have you tried Miralax? M went through something like this- turned out that in the process of trying NOT to poop except in the potty, she was holding it too long and then getting constipated. What we thought were accidents were actually leaks around a pooh plug that she couldn’t pass. Our pediatrician had us give her regular doses of Miralx for a few weeks so she could get things moving again and then she was on a maintenance dose for several years. It made a huge difference.

      Good luck!

      • This changed everything for us. We had been trying to potty train forever, and DS never wet himself (still has never wet the bed), but would end up with all these poop accidents. I kept saying he couldn’t be constipated, look how often he poops in his pants! But they were never full bowel movements.

        The Miralax potty trained my son, and I’m so grateful! He now only gets it once every week or so and can take care of his business whenever he needs to without our interference.

    • Sympathies! My only advice would be to give him a few more days. I think sometimes the potty training thing is exciting at first and they do really well but may have a relapse when they realize the whole thing is a regular thing. I use gerber training underwear because they are thicker and contain the refuse better.

      good luck!

    • Ds has at lot of poop accidents this summer at age 5!!! He just didn’t want to stop playing, plus he gets constipated so when he does poop, it’s not fun. School schedule has made him much more regular.

      At Alex’s age, I say don’t make a big deal about it but take away the undies and put him back in diaper for a while. He can earn the undies back by pooping on the potty. For us, those huggies easy ups work well so she can go potty if she wants to but they’re absorbent if she doesn’t. But, my approach to potty training is completely lazy and half assed. I know she can do it but until preschool forces the underwear issue, I’m going the easy clean up route. Ymmv.

  9. I have seen…nothing. Not one movie in a theater this year. In fact, I don’t think I’ve seen anything from LAST year’s Oscar’s on Netflix this year. I was talking to a friend about this recently, about how when I have kid-free time going to the movies is never on my list of things I want to do. Which is really strange because before kids (before DH, really), I would see everything. Every weekend pretty much featured a movie. It’s how I grew up — my mom (being single) took me to the movies all the time. I saw “The Verdict” in the theater at 6 years old. So why don’t I want to go to the movies anymore? We talked about how it’s because TV has gotten to be so much better — I don’t have cable, but will buy great series on iTunes or watch old seasons on Netflix. Going to a great movie is almost disappointing because after 2 hours, it’s over. So I’ve been enjoying shows like Homeland, Downton Abbey, Hell on Wheels, Friday Night Lights, Game of Thrones, etc.

    The Golden Globes is on my DVR for tonight, though, but only because I can’t wait for some Tine/Amy time!

  10. So, I have been going around and around about how to deal with DS1′s school slackerdom. He is doing ok in most classes now but still not doing well in a couple. Part of the problem is it has started to become a scenario where I worry so I encourage him to do more / study more, and then he wants to push back against my telling him what to do. Then the situation becomes self defeating, since it should be about him and not me. Trying to help by nagging him to study or whatever ends up backfiring since he needs to learn that he can and needs to do it himself. So I am trying to stop that and relax and be zen about it, but I know he has a test tomorrow and it is not easy for me to sit there and watch him do nothing to prepare for it. We’ll see what happens.

    Part of the problem in trying to figure out what to do is there really is conflicting advice out there about how to handle it. Sometimes the same source – but certainly different people – will say both to get more involved (set schedules, read their planner nightly, hire tutors, etc) and less involved (let them fail). Even the school sends conflicting messages – they say to contact them if the kid has a low grade, but when I did that they really didn’t have anything helpful to say about it. So I don’t know if they just want to know that there is somebody at home who is noticing, or what.

    • No advice, but have you read Teach Your Children Well? I still haven’t finished it, but I often find useful parallels in some of her examples that give me insight on how to handle something with my 6th grader.

        • Everything, really – it’s the first book I’ve read on raising adolescents. She’s a child psychologist who found her practice flooded with affluent cutters, anorexics, depressives, drug addicts, etc, which led to her first book: The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids. I’ll probably read that one as well, but TYCW, which was a followup to the first book, seems more suited to where we are now. Her philosophy is very compatible with my child rearing style, but I really know nothing about what is coming up ahead so it’s very helpful to me to have someone walk me through it.

          I don’t know if you’re going to find it at the library, though. The author is speaking here (next month I think) and tickets sold out immediately, before I could snag one. So I suspect the library copies are waitlisted.

      • Here’s an excerpt from Teach Your Children Well that illustrates why I like it – she takes everyday interactions and reframes them from a developmental perspective. I find it’s a little easier to keep my patience when I see things from that angle.

        “Honey, hand me that glass please,” then “Sure, Mom” was an easy transaction for many years. In early adolescence that transaction may look more like this:
        MOM: Honey—
        JESSICA: [Interrupts.] Stop calling me honey, I hate that name. Why won’t you stop?
        MOM: Okay, sorry—
        JESSICA: [Interrupts.] If you’re sorry, then why don’t you stop?
        MOM: Let’s start over. Could you hand me that glass—
        JESSICA: [Interrupts.] You’re just as close as I am, why don’t you get it yourself?
        MOM: Well, I’m cooking right now and—
        JESSICA: [Interrupts.] I’m not your slave, you know. About this point Mom either loses her temper or sighs in disbelief and frustration and gets the glass herself. But what’s really going on here? This is not a conversation about a glass; rather it is a conversation (or more accurately a series of interruptions) about who calls the shots, who’s in charge. Mom was perfectly happy with her prior relationship with Jessica, generally one of closeness and collaboration with Mom in charge. Jessica, on the other hand, is fighting to redefine that relationship so that it is no longer characterized by mother’s authority and daughter’s compliance. But the middle schooler’s lack of experience defining herself in a new way makes her attempts almost unbearably irritating and, if we can keep just a thread of goodwill, also rather poignant.

    • I struggle a bit with my DS, too. DD was so intense and self motivated, we never had to think about it. DS has made me realize how different kids can be, which is why the advice can be so contradictory. When he was in elem school, DS had some friends whose parents were high pressure. I always said that a “3″ was fine…that’s grade level work. Well, I think I did too good a job at that….he continues to think just doing “ok” is fine. But next year is HS and I want him to have good habits. …. So we push a bit, and let him push back, but I don’t let him think that pushing back will get us to give up. He yells and pouts, sometimes I yell too, mostly DH works with him as much as possible. I did have a meeting with his Math teacher (his lowest grade) and he was there,too ( his school is big on kids taking responsibility for their learning). It was hard for him to mouth off to me in front of her, and vice versa! It’s a tough dance – the teen who wants to be independent but needs to ask for help, the mom who wants to encourage but has to sometimes back off. No clear advice from me…just reassurance that we are walking the same road.

      • Thanks! It’s not easy. I wish I could try a few things simultaneously on parallel paths and then jump forward in time and see what worked best.

    • I think the advice conflicts because no one has a foolproof approach for this stuff. Each kid is different, the parent-child dynamic is unique, and the kid is a moving target as he grows and changes. It’s not infancy or early childhood anymore; it’s the big leagues.

      One image that has stayed with me from my developmental psych studies is that of a funnel. When kids are born, they’re all more or less the same; they cluster at the small end of the funnel. As they (we) grow and change they diverge; one size that used to pretty much fit all no longer does. Variability is no longer confidently pegged to age.

      You and I have talked about this stuff before, and there are similarities between our kids, so I probably don’t have anything new or helpful to offer. I will reiterate that your son is smart and he is surrounded by smart kids and caring adults. Chances are very good that he knows exactly what the expectations are, and he knows what he needs to do to meet them (give or take some poor planning and organization, which is still within the normal range for teenage boys).

      I worried that mine didn’t truly *get* the implications of blowing off school, and where there is worry there is nagging and uncertainty and misery. I made a lot of ridiculous resolutions to escape that painful mix. Fortunately I broke them right away; unfortunately, I quickly adopted new, equally stupid ones.

      Looking back, I would have repeated myself a lot less because contrary to all appearances, he heard pretty much every word I said. He was harder on himself than I was on him — while giving every indication of being quite blithe about everything.

      I also notice, working with teachers, that it’s often the ones without kids (or, honestly, the Tea Partiers) who give quick, judgmental prescriptions (Aren’t you checking his planner? Have you checked the website for the HW assignments?). Truth is, they have no understanding of situations in which “reminding” or “checking” are toxic behaviors that leave kids feeling untrustworthy and uncomfortably dominated. These are the same teachers who treat kids like widgets in the classroom and toss off hurtful opinions publicly. For them, one size does fit all — and it’s not usually a size remotely related to any living adolescent child. More like a bright, people-pleasing 7 year old who lives for the gold stars and awards assemblies.

      Obv everyone is going to manage these situations in their own way. Some parents tell their kids, “You will hate me for a few years, but you will thank me later.” I found that brand of hand to hand combat was not useful in our home. Moreover, I found it kind of presumptuous to suggest I knew better about his life (goals, dreams, abilities) than he did. Naturally there are things we objectively know more about than they do, like the odds of getting into a good college with Ds in algebra or whatever, and it’s taxing to hold onto that knowledge; it would be so nice to download it into THEIR brains, let them wrestle with it. What I found, and continue to find, is there are some things they aren’t ready or able to contemplate until they are, and there is not a thing we can do to make them ready, and they may have some regrets. (?! After all we did to smooth the way, to share our wisdom, to give them roots and wings and whatever the hell else we tried to do ?!)

      My northstar was preserving the relationship — including mutual trust, caring, and respect. In my case, that meant getting comfortable with frightening ideas like academic failure, or foregoing college. It wasn’t easy. Getting friendly with the worst-case scenario — while also conveying that I knew he could be conventionally successful if he wanted to — was my saving pursuit. It was still mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting, pretty much everyday. He’s been gone since Aug and I feel I’m *beginning* to recover now. For gawd’s sake, eat your Wheaties.

      • Thanks. I am continuing to work on it, and have definitely considered and tried to relax about alternative scenarios. He did eventually come and start to do a little work at 8:15. That seemed to go pretty well, and he got done around 9 and started playing on his phone. Then when 10 rolled around and I told him it was time to put the phone away he had a meltdown. So I wonder whether that was partly blowing off steam from some stress associated with moving toward taking responsibility for it himself. There is definitely a push-pull in how he feels about it. It is going to be a process.

        • Yes — they push, and when we don’t hold the line at exactly the point they’re expecting to feel it, they can get scared, angry, wigged out, etc. Lots of it is unconscious which makes it super fun to try to talk about.

      • “My northstar was preserving the relationship — including mutual trust, caring, and respect. In my case, that meant getting comfortable with frightening ideas like academic failure, or foregoing college. It wasn’t easy. Getting friendly with the worst-case scenario — while also conveying that I knew he could be conventionally successful if he wanted to — was my saving pursuit. It was still mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting, pretty much everyday.”

        I’m glad you wrote that. My oldest is getting to be a tween and is doing some, thankfully fairly mild, behaviors where he tests the waters or addresses what he perceives as my shortcomings. Usually the best way to deal with him is to stay calm and in some cases point out that if he is using a tone he wouldn’t like taken on him or words that would be hurtful to him, then he should reconsider how he is speaking. I’m not perfect though. DH and I both literally laughed in his face when he told us that we were being harsh with him for making him turn off his video game while he completed his homework or something along those lines.

        • This is really interesting to me. H’s English grade has fallen to a C-, largely because he isn’t turning stuff in or even doing it. His teacher has offered three times for him to stay after and make it up and he just…won’t. I’ve conveyed a very simple message, I thought- his job is to go to school, do his work, and develop whatever interests he’d like. At the start of the year he had some trouble and we drew up an agreement (he wrote it) saying that a zero (not necessarily an F) would result in the loss of video games. I pulled it out today and he’s perfectly willing to accept the loss of screens- but he’s also made it clear that he simply won’t make up the work.

          I grew up in a strict “no C’s or lower” family, so I’m really struggling here. I need to take this to heart:

          “My northstar was preserving the relationship — including mutual trust, caring, and respect. In my case, that meant getting comfortable with frightening ideas like academic failure, or foregoing college. It wasn’t easy. Getting friendly with the worst-case scenario — while also conveying that I knew he could be conventionally successful if he wanted to — was my saving pursuit. It was still mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausting, pretty much everyday.”

          • My younger son cares, and he tries really hard. My older son just does not care. He is proud when he does well, but he also feels that not doing something he doesn’t want to do is well worth the lower grade received. It has been very hard for me to understand this attitude, since I have always taken great pride in my intelligence and, by extension, my grades. I backed off a lot last year, though, following Infinite R’s advice to privilege the relationship over the grade. I’m not sure where to draw the line. He passed from 7th to 8th, so I suppose it’s a win all around.

            • I texted my sister about it since she went something similar with her boy when he was in middle school. Apparently, knowing that my sister (who he idolizes) was in on the conversation made a big difference. So it’s not that he doesn’t care what people thing- it’s that he doesn’t care what I think.

              Lovely.

              We came to a series of agreements- combination of immediate consequences, a plan of action, and long term consequences if he doesn’t turn it around. I managed to keep my sense of humor, which felt like a victory.

              • What Katie said. He’s not engaged with your sister/his aunt in a power struggle because she’s his aunt. Of course he’s not going to tell you you’re right or you have a point. I would’ve rather drunk lava than admit something like that to my mom when I was 12.

          • I had a really tough time in middle school. Cs and Ds and I was always the smart kid. To this day I can’t tell you why I didn’t do my work. I just, didn’t.

            Teachers who had faith in me told me that high school was the make or break time for my future, and they were willing to recommend me for continued participation in the gifted/honors programs. (They knew my family was poor, that I was underachieving, and that I had a 4-year university as my goal.)

            Long story short: I was class salutatorian and got a full ride to NYU (my top choice school). I tell this #humblebrag to say that this time in school SUCKS for some kids and adults who continue to care through this time really make a difference.

            • That’s good to hear- though I’m not sure H has many adults who care. His counselor called him by the wrong name in an e-mail to me and after talking to H, I’m pretty sure she had a conference with the wrong kid.

              • I couldn’t ask you in yesterday’s thread, because the reply button disappeared, but did you call her on it? “I’m glad Bob’s doing so well, but I was actually concerned about H.” Ugh.

                • DH talked me down a bit- said it happens to him every day. We have a last name that could be a first name, so it’s not outside the realm of possibility. Then again, after talking to H last night, I’m even more convinced that she had lunch with the wrong kid. He was supposed to get pulled from homeroom today to check in, but we’re having a snow day so…

        • Hey, you gotta be you. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with an authentic belly laugh in the face of absurdity / testing. You don’t treat him with disrespect or minimize his concerns as a matter of course but come on, being asked to turn off your video game is not exactly getting 20 lashes, and acting like it is is kind of asking for ridicule. We can keep a straight face for only so long.

  11. By the way, on the John-Cusack-Adorable-Or-Stalker (-Or-Both?) question, I saw Better Off Dead this afternoon – somehow had never seen it before. It opens with a teen John Cusack in his room which is papered basically floor to ceiling with photos of his girlfriend, and he even has her head on all the hangers in his closet. So you can put that one on the list too. It’s a fun movie though!

      • I hated the plot with the ex-girlfriend but everything else going on in that movie really appealed to my lack of maturity. I also enjoyed One Crazy Summer which is similar. In both of those I think humor lied in how ridiculous everything around him was.

        • I do like the “I Want My Eight Dollaaaaars” moments – they’re funny. But … just meh. Mind you, I felt that way about a lot of seminal 80s movies. I never, ever, ever got what was so awesome about The Breakfast Club. To me, it was just freakin’ annoying.

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