66 thoughts on “Friday Open Thread

  1. I am (avoiding) marking resit exams. Better get it done today though, because teaching starts next week. I’ll be taking lots of short breaks checking for news here and on FB :-)

  2. H is a finalist in the Middle School geography bee, so I’m going to school to see that today. Plus I finally get to go back to my shrink after a six month hiatus (stupid insurance). Halve a proposal revision and a j

    • Good luck to H! Hope it goes well!

      We just changed our insurance to an option that had better coverage for therapy after fighting all last year about whether or not hiatus was appropriate. Hope you have a nice visit.

    • i hope your son spelled the sh*t out of those mother f*cking words-

      sorry, i couldn’t help it. kevin hart did a bit about his cokehead dad showing up at his spelling bees and cheering like he was at a sporting event. it’s from his “laugh at my pain” special. lots of swearing, so it’s definitely not safe for work.

      • wow- i can’t believe it showed up as an embedded video. i’ve never been able to do that when i tried. i didn’t even try and it happened. wow!

        • awright awright awriiiiiiiiiiiiiiight!

          glad you liked it. the whole show is hilarious. it’s on netflix. also i think kevin hart has a website.

          missed you all too. i come and read a lot- i’ll try to write more. xoxo

            • things are good- how about you?

              i’m working much closer to home. one of my jobs is 3 miles from my house, the other is half way between- on my breaks i work in a factory that’s 1 1/2 miles away from the bus co and my house. i still work far away on sundays.

              the kids are all doing well. the girls are happy. my son is doing great in school, and is still clean and sober. i’m sure he’d say i’m using the wrong terminology for his sobriety. he’s still a pain in the neck. he’s switched his major to psychology.

              i’m still not divorced, but i am still separated. things are good!

      • OMG- That was freaking hilarious.

        Since it was a Geobee though, I’d have to say he named the sh*t out of capitals of those mother*king states.

        Seriously though, the questions were hard (well, except for two that other kids missed- one about the state where Anchorage is and another about the Green Mountain state). He won on a question about a series of islands shared by Argentina and what other nation. He said Chile and the other kid said Venezuela.

  3. For a number of reasons that are complicated and boring, we’ve decided that going to me working on the weekends is best for us for a while, come March. I’m going to try to ask for one weekend a month, Saturday AND Sunday, instead of every other Saturday. I was working 1 day a week but we’ve been slow so I’m going to try to work less. But, here’s the dilemma: do I keep J in daycare which is next to work, but across town? She goes tues fri. It used to be very convenient to take her when I worked weekdays. I’m hesitant to switch though, because we don’t know exactly where we will buy a house and if I will go back to weekdays.

    I’m also thinking of taking call 2 nights a week, to line up with daycare the next day. So if I’m at work all night I can catch a snooze with the baby the next day.

    So I am that mom who stays home but takes her kid to daycare. Half of me feels like a parenting fail, the other half feels like a badass.

    • well, I was that mother yesterday..only way I can recover if I am sick.

      My feelings on the day care…if you think that you may go back to week days and you like the day care and DD1 enjoys it then I would stay with it. I think the long ride only becomes an issue as DD2 becomes older and you want to have a nap schedule. In my experience long car rides scr*# with naps. Or if it’s just too much of a pain to load everyone in the car on those days. Until you know better where you will live I say stick with it.

      • Yes. If she likes it and you’re comfortable with keeping her there rather than going through the stress of finding a different care situation…why mess with it?

      • We are all loaded up anyway; we all get in the car at 8am and the guys go to their respective bus stops. Then on daycare days we head there directly after. I pick them up in reverse order so at least for now it’s not terrible, and I’m going against traffic. Takes about 20 min each way for her. Poor baby hates the carseat tho :(

        Yeah, for now it makes sense to keep her there I suppose. We’ve had a lot of changes lately and I should keep school consistent, for now.

    • Not only was I that mom, we kept our toddler and preschooler in daycare even after we were both out of work. They loved it, we loved it, we had the budget for it, and most importantly if we withdrew them we’d never get them back in once the employment situation was resolved (2 year wait list). It was their island of stability during a time of upheaval and stress. We ended up relocating for the new job, and it worked out great to keep the kids in their happy routine while we packed and readied the house.

      I wouldn’t be too quick to switch daycares, even if it’s a PITA to drive cross town. Everything is temporary right now, and time passes by quickly. It’s not easy to find a good fit, and it will take you time to select a new one. By the time she’s completely settled in a new place you may have a new house elsewhere and be ready for a weekday work schedule again.

      • amen and word. I’ve been a work-from-home parent for seven years now, and haven’t regretted having both Jess and Lily in daycare one single bit.

  4. Hey, thanks y’all for the toddler bed suggestions! I had been thinking this might have been it, and fortunately the crib converts. So, assuming I can find those directions (and the hardware box with the extra bolts and stuff), I will take care of that this weekend.

    How much do I love you ladies? A LOT.

    • The toddler bed thing is a good idea. I will tell you that it didn’t work immediate miracles with either Jess or with Lily, but it did help cut down on some of the wrangles associated with sleeping. So it’s okay if it doesn’t work instantaneous, miraculous 12-hour-uninterrupted sleep. Although I hope it does!

    • So dd has had major sleep issues lately, a combo of still taking big naps (which I will be cutting back) and who knows what. Last night she took a record 3 hrs to fall asleep. We floated moving to a big girl bed from the toddler bed. But then I realized she’s been needing to be a “baby” lately a lot, even though she decided to potty train she still wants to be held and she says goo goo gaga all the time. So, I told her if she sleeps in the pack n play all night tonight, we’ll get the crib back out for her. She’s all about it. She’s teeny, the crib is oversized and low to the ground, and anyways we rushed her out of it when we were showing the house (the toddler bed made the room look bigger). So we’ll give that a try before we invest in a new twin bed!

      • Wonder of wonders, she conked out right away in the pack n play with no calling for us, getting out of bed or other assorted shenanigans. Maybe she needs the extra dose of security right now? We told her we would set up the crib if she wanted if she went to sleep with no fussing, so I guess that’s going back up tomorrow!

        • Yup, Alex is still in his crib and he will be 3 next month. Maya stayed in her crib until well past her 3rd birthday as well. I’m so grateful that he still likes it and sleeps well in it, because I enjoy not worrying about him wandering the house at night, or sneaking into our bed!

          • Oh she can totes crawl in and out, but she’s so agile that I don’t worry about her falling on her head.

            It’s almost 5am and she’s still happily snoring in the pack n play? Usually she’d be in between us right now.

  5. This is the “to be fair….” edition. Last night DH offered to do the weekly shopping and we agreed that instead we’d do the list together and he’d identify a couple of recipes he wants to,cook during the week. I like grocery shopping, so I’m not ready to give that up. He also cooked for me last night (as long as I gave him very specific instructions) and just called to say “should I cook chicken or reheat stuffed shells for tonight?”

    Guess all I had to do was ask….go figure.

  6. Hi all! Anyone here ski? I just tried it for the first time in NM and looooved it. The kids did too, and both did quite well. My four year old ended up schooling a grown man on the cubby hill. And my nine year old “no ferris wheels please they are too dangerous” actually took the lift and skied just fine. So we are all anxious to go again. My single-mom neighbor skis; she and I might go tomorrow night if it’s not too cold.

    Sorry I couldn’t meet up with our NM contingent … I had such a short trip and see my dad and his wife so infrequently I don’t want to take any time away from them. But we had a great visit so I think we’ll visit NM more often now. I sort of want to move there. Minnesota in the winter makes moving seem like a very rational idea.

  7. Hi all! Anyone here ski? I just tried it for the first time in NM and looooved it. The kids did too, and both did quite well. My four year old ended up schooling a grown man on the cubby hill. And my nine year old “no ferris wheels please they are too dangerous” actually took the lift and skied just fine. So we are all anxious to go again. My single-mom neighbor skis; she and I might go tomorrow night if it’s not too cold.

    Sorry I couldn’t meet up with our NM contingent … I had such a short trip and see my dad and his wife so infrequently I don’t want to take any time away from them. But we had a great visit so I think we’ll visit NM more often now. I sort of want to move there. Minnesota in the winter makes moving seem like a very rational idea.

    • I learned to ski in Minnesota! Lots of decent places in driving distance, and though it’s nothing like real mountain skiing, it’s still fun. It’s been ages since I’ve skiied and I can’t get DH interested in trying it, though. Boo.

    • I ski – I love it and both kids are hooked now too – yay! Our closest proper skiing is 9 hours drive away, so it’s a one-week-once-a-year thing. There is more at 3-4 hours, but that’s not really worth the drive. I loved living in Switzerland where I could go for a day – morning train, day on the slopes and home by dinner. Sometimes I’d go with colleagues on a work day if the weather and snow were good, and make up work on the wekend. Can’t be picky about conditions now, as things have to be booked way way way in advance, but I still love it. I had my fix over Christmas and always look forward to the next opportunity.

  8. We’re in a hotel and I’m checking mt for the first time in like a week. I have missed y’all while in Mother in Law land (otherwise known as the Pit of Despair). She loves us and my kids really love her, so it’s important for us to visit. But after being there for 5 days, I feel an urgent need to declutter and clean my house, stop complaining about anything about my life, and eat only whole grains, vegetables, and fruit. I so can’t handle how MIL lives. Chasing a 14 month old who almost never sits still around her house o’ death traps was not for the fainthearted.

    One long day of driving on Sat and we *should* be home. Wish me luck!

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