How are you today?
Well rested! Clara is healthy finally, so last night it was time for another round of sleep training. Boo. But the good part is that when we do it, I sleep in the basement guest room with Lucy and DH takes care of sleep training upstairs. The girls share a room, so we have to relocate Lucy if Clara’s going to be left to cry in her crib for more than 30 seconds. So that means I went to sleep around 9ish when Lucy did and I slept through the first wakeup entirely. I woke up for a 4am to 5am wakeup, but then went back to sleep again. I feel great! And I’m resolved to finish grading, run a few errands, and to try not to wallow about CT.
Hope everyone has a great day!
Yay for sleep!
Any hope of temporarily dropping a nap for her? Ds was a bear to sleep train. Every so often we had to drop his nap so he’d be good and tired at night. Could backfire if she’s overtired but it did generally work for us. If you make it thru the afternoon, that is! We would go back to naps when we got nighttime straightened out. He quit napping altogether at 2 though.
Yeah, good point. She doesn’t usually get a great nap at daycare anyway. Yesterday it was just 1.5 hours. I guess that’s a good reason to be doing this during the week instead of over the weekend, as when she is at home, she can often do 2.5-3.5 hours in the afternoon. They did okay with sleep training last night. Crossing our fingers for another good night tonight, as well. We need to have a night of sleeping all night before Lucy can go back to her room. I am hoping for that tonight, but it might be tomorrow, realistically.
Wow, those are some mighty naps! Both my kids napped 1.5 on a good day.
Holey crap. 1.5 hours isn’t a great nap??? Mine never slept for longer than an hour! If they were asleep for 3.5, I’d be checking to see if they were alive!
Well, to be fair, she dropped her morning nap at around 9 months and she takes those great long afternoon naps when she is sick and not sleeping that well at night. When she’s well it’s usually about 2 or 2.5 at home, usually not more than 1.5 at school. It’s just that she’s almost always sick, so I’ve kind of lost my perspective about what’s normal.
That does seem awfully long for an afternoon nap, so maybe that is part of the problem. 1.5 hours was the max for both of mine – one good sleeper, one lousy sleeper – once they dropped the morning nap.
Dd almost 3 naps 4 hours on a good day, 2 is super short for her. She never stops moving and absolutely runs herself ragged. Totally the opposite of ds.
Lily was a better napper than Jess, but neither did more than 2 hours except when really sick. I think they were just too nebby to stay asleep and potentially miss out on things.
I also tend to get my kids in bed later than many people do. When I hear people talking about their kids going to bed at 7, I wonder how they ever get to spend any time together. Realistically, the baby goes to bed around 8, and sometimes even 8:30, while the 6 year old goes to bed closer to 8:45 or 9 most nights. We’re all happiest when it’s about 8 and 8:30. The good thing is that neither of us have to be to work by 8 or anything, so the kids can sleep until about 7:30, though the baby usually gets up by 7.
our magic hour was 730 come hell or high water that kid was asleep by 740… the nightly routine started at 7… trust me when she was a baby and a toddler the last thing I wasnted was more togetherness… I wanted her asleep… Her nightly routine may be the one and only successful thing I did as a parent in those early years.
Went to assembly at M’s school today. Nothing like a rousing chorus of Jingle Bells (complete with drums and xylophones) to restore one’s faith in humanity. Plus I scored a Nutcracker- signed by the principles from the Boston Ballet who danced Sugar Plum and Cavalier this past weekend at M’s show- from one of the moms who ran the gift table. She knew I wanted one but was waffling, so she held it back for me. M is going to be one happy girl on Christmas morning.
Sweet! My uncle sent us money for the kids. Instead of buying them more crap we are getting tickets to yo Gabba Gabba live! I think we are more excited than they are!
I think “experience” gifts are the best gifts ever…. I love giving Liza tickets to things instead of ‘stuff’
Unfortunately, experiences cost more than I can afford. The Nutcracker, however, was $15. We did pretty well on limiting the stuff this year- a lot of the kids’ gifts are things they needed for their activities- dance and soccer gear, etc- or clothes. I guess that’s one benefit of having older kids: they’re less interested in toys they’ll lose interest in.
I was thinking that I haven’t set foot in a Toys R US or a Target toy department for 3 Christmasses now… I have to say I don’t miss it.. I much prefer Hollister, Pink and Aeropostle! LOL
My kids don’t play with toys. Really, they are so into art and creating things. They have toys, but they prefer to make their own “toys” out of paper, cardboard scraps, ect. My son made a “backpack” out of paper that actually opens. The toys they do use are dress up stuff and the play kitchen, and their baby dolls. So I try to encourage “experience” gifts and passes to museums. But if course at the holidays and Christmas, there’s generally a $10 or so limit to most gifts so I try to keep stuff in the original packages to donate discretely.
One of my colleagues has twins who just turned five. For their birthdays, we gave the boy a roll of his own duct tape, and the girl, three balls of yarn. My husband thought I was INSANE but I said I knew the kids would like those things better (I’ve seen them play with or use them recently, and yes, the son has “his” duct tape for art projects.). It was a huge hit.
Yay for art and experiences!
Duct tape – excellent! I was looking for another stocking stuffer, preferably something I’d get them anyway. The fancy print rolls were catching their eyes at the hardware store.
At my daughter’s camp this past summer, they were selling hula hoops that the kids could customize with whatever patterned duct tape they wanted. I thought it was a great idea!
M is getting a box of 6 rolls of tape from Cosco as one of his gifts. we go through tape at an alarming rate. i think it’s going to be his favorite gift.
I once gave my mom a roll of bubble wrap from Staples b/c she loved to sit and pop the bubbles..
Me too. Best part of Christmas.
Clara is getting some tennis shoes from Santa that she went with me to try on at Stride Rite! Obviously I can’t pull that stunt again, probably. But shoes are expensive and she needs ‘em, so that’s how she’s getting them!
We have that going on here, too — both DD and DS lost their mittens this week, so they’ll find new ones in their stockings.
Oh, now I have that nursery rhyme in my head – “two little kittens have lost their mittens…”
Our equivalent is the annual “giving of the swim goggles” ritual in the stocking.
She’s also getting Desitin and Culturelle in her stocking! Why not?
Rachel….we have that same ritual. Plus sunscreen. They’re always sooo excited….
Oooh, sunscreen, you say? Well, we have tons of that, but those zinc-creme lipblocks would be nice…
Yeah, we tend to pad the tree with things we were going to get anyway. Our DVD player bit the dust so the replacement is wrapped as a family gift. And I’m replacing my iphone 3 this week – DH already got a new one from work – so two old deactivated iphones are going into the stockings. Otherwise we’re down to:
Books (only one kid actually wants these)
At least one weapon apiece every year. Because what’s christmas without weapons?
I totally agree with the experience gifts. This year, the timing wasn’t great–a lot of our great touring Broadway shows that I would have bought for DH or DD1 came this fall. I considered buying tix for Beauty and the Beast as Lucy’s big present this year, but it was this past week and I decided not to do it. I think it would be hard for a 6 year old to understand the concept of an early Christmas present like that. BUT THEN, we ended up getting free tickets and went Sunday afternoon!!! So totally awesome. We were very thankful and it did make me resolve that I need to be putting tickets to great shows at the top of my priority list for gift-giving.
We have that same tour here at my theater Jan 2-3!
Younger Dd wished for tix to Imagine Dragons because she saw that they were going to be in NC. Turns out they’re only going to be in one venue, as far from here as you can be and still be in the same state. Oh we’ll.
Baby is 5 weeks and I haven’t given her a bottle yet. Whoops. I just don’t wanna…I enjoy nursing her and I don’t have time to be bothered to wash all the pump stuff. But, I have to. The window of opportunity is closing and I have to go back to work at some point, so she needs to get acquainted with her new friend the Gerber bottle.
So here’s a conundrum. There was a lot of chatter at M’s school this morning about some rumors going around at the middle and high school about Friday. Specifically, that there are a group of kids planning something “bad” at all of the schools. I have no idea what the details are- it sounds like just a rumor to me- but a number of moms were going to start vacation a day early and keep their kids home. The teachers have actually moved the holiday parties to Thursday because of the number of planned absences in fact. So I’m torn between “Hells yes I’m keeping the kids home” and “I’m not going to panic and be stupid about some ridiculous rumor.”
I’ve heard nothing from the district about it, but I’m wondering…wwmtd?
send her to school – the kids will chicken out and it will be all strum and drang for naught…
also given her anxieties I think giving in and keeping her home will only feed them… being calm, telling her there’s nothing to worry about and that we are just going to keep living our lives… is the way to go.. (signed.. mom of another anxious kid)
Yup, you’re right. (Though, if I did keep her home I’d do it under the guide of “You’re wiped out from the Nutcracker and I don’t want you to be sick for Christmas” since she’s been hacking up a lung for the last week or so)
But still… you’re right.
We had those rumors once a week when I was in high school. I know it’s hard, but I would send her. You can’t start with this. The bad thing could be walking out of class for all you know. It would be hard for me, but I know my dh would absolutely not stand for a rumor getting in the way of class time. Shame on the teachers for caving in.
Dh is sort of encouraging me to keep H home because there’s a lot of anger at the Middle School right now in the community. I sort of agree that it’s probably more dangerous to drive back and forth to the school than it is to be at school, but we’ve got some end-of-timers locally who are really vocal about the cost (the MS is a new building), the environmental impact (it’s built in a wetlands and required some clear cutting) and the historical impact (they discovered some of the oldest Abenaki artifacts in New England when they were clearing the site).
Oh for F’s sake. Getting violent about clear cutting!?
The irony. It burns.
It seems like there are two different things then, if I am reading you correctly. A rumor about some kids doing something, and some ‘end-of-timers’ who must be adults. That would be unrelated, wouldn’t it? Adults don’t usually spread a rumor before they act out.
tell him not to be an idiot.. send the kid to school… anger out your way just results in self actualized righteous indignation anyway…
Good point. I suppose we can survive a good tongue lashing.
Many times people take the kids out on the day before vacation starts because they are traveling – holding the party a day early means that the kid doesn’t miss out. The Thursday party is not necessarily due to some bullshit rumour but may be a way to make sure that everyone gets to party.
OK, maybe I’m old school here. But shouldn’t the party be held on the last day so the kids who skip that day will only miss a party instead of, you know, education?
We always have it earlier in case the last day is a snow day/ That happened more than once while I was growing up so apparently the schools plan for that contingency now.
You’re the cutest.
I’m pretty sure this week is mostly about crafts and holiday stories. It snowed yesterday so the kids are NUTSO.
that all seems to go away in Middle school – Liza has been slammed with projects and tests the past two weeks-it’s been insane…
Urgh. I’m really sorry to hear that Liza’s been so busy. Hope it means that there aren’t any big projects/tests that she has to do over the vacation.
I sense the “this is how it’s going to be in high school” ramp up happening
Yep. My girl gets to sleep on Saturday. Until then, not so much. Swim practice, precalc test Thursday and Friday, and finishing up a book for English.
yeah.. Liza has a big project due on Friday and then will probably be starting rehearsals for her next show on the 27th…
Coming over here to walk away from a stooopid FB fight. Someone whose opinion I usually highly respect has posted that all people with schitzophrenia should be banned from owning a gun. I pointed out that if we can’t pass and keep laws on civil commitment, how can we possibly expect a gun ban based on an illness to pass? He says, well, we ban epileptics from driving cars, let’s ban schitzophrenics from owning guns. I hit the googles, and no, there’s no blanket ban on epileptics driving cars. So if we can’t ban epileptics from driving cars, how do you expect to ban schitzophrenics from owning guns. He goes, well we should ban epileptics from driving cars.
I’m up in arms around this one; my parents are social workers. They’ve worked around the severely mentally ill for going on five decades. I’ve been in and out of their workplaces since I was a newborn. I am highly attuned to discrimination against the mentally ill. I am so disappointed in this guy.
Yeah. I am sensitive to discrimination against mental illness, obviously. Good for you.
Fine. How about if we just ban everybody from owning them?
DING! DING! DING!
That’s my argument. Then he goes “well, that’s unworkable.” Which is a sad indictment all around.
Um, and why would that be? Lot’s of countries do it…
Not arguing with you, obv.
I know. It’s just … how quickly has the conversation shifted from “let’s get gun control done and boost mental health services” to “ban guns for the crazies!!!!!!! BOOGA BOOGA BOOGA”
America. Just when I think I’d like to move back, I realize I’m tons safer here.
Yeah, the way some of these conversations go is scary. Makes me very sad.
Those other countries may not have their own versions of the 2nd amendment. Unfortunately, that has really been a HUGE stumbling block to getting any reasonable legislation passed. The Supreme Court interprets it very generously. And repealing a constitutional amendment is not easy to do.
Yeah I know. I meant it more in a practical sense. Does make me very worried though, and it certainly makes the US a less attractive option for us (my family, I mean).
Every time I see a newly liberal gun law passing — such as people in OK now walking around with open carry sidearms — I mentally cross another state off my list of places to visit, nevermind live. FL is up there, with one guy shooting another in the belly while waiting in line for pizza “because the line is moving too slow.” We’ll see what MI does with their guns in schools legislation. Sheesh.
Yeah. In Australia, after the ’96 Port Arthur massacre, there was huge pushback from conservative/rural voters and organisations, but the fact that there is no enshrined right to bear arms meant there was no constitutional hurdle to overcome in passing gun control legislation. Plus, there was a massive, federally sponsored gun buy-back program. So no new legal guns combined with a massive, comprehensive effort to eliminate existing stocks.
I thought this was interesting this morning. This is an Australian journalistic site that is trying to change the idea of journalism. You can only write for them if you know what you’re talking about. I neither agree nor disagree with what he’s saying…it just gave me some pause for thought. And I always like hearing the perspective of people from the outside.
I enjoyed reading that. I did take an introductory Con Law class in college and really liked it. I think it’s also important to note that the US and Australian constitutions are the product of very different cultural moments in addition to the fact that the world of the 1790s was vastly different to the world of the early 1900s.
But yeah, I’m always amazed at how different the idea of “states’ rights” is here in Australia and that there’s this relatively well functioning body ( The Council of Australian Governments (COAG) to resolve those differences.
Lots, of course; gah!
I hear ya! DH works in public mental health, and public attitudes are so discouraging.
I mean, ferchrissakes, even if we did put that kind of ban in place, it wouldn’t have prevented this crime, given that Lanza used his mother’s guns.
Exactly. The mental health angle, although that is something that also needs to be looked just because services are so bad nationally, is a distraction from the main issue.
Gee, and I wonder who’s fomenting that distraction. I hate being a paranoid liberal and all, but …
We are long overdue a massive push on mental health services, but now I fear that both issues will destroy each other.
Anybody got something cute and distracting to show?!?!
Here ya go -is this random enough for you?
Thank you. I lol’d.
Use the Force, Harry!
I got cards today! Thanks Gigi, Erika and MusicTeacherK! We loved all the pictures. Ours will be a while, but eventually should arrive – but then, we do New Year’s cards, so we cut ourselves some slack.
And inevitably, now we have a story from Utah about a sixth grader whose parents (supposedly) gave him a gun to protect himself following Sandy Hook and he pulled it on another student at school. Great idea, parents.
Will the insanity never end?
We have armed guards here in pa. Not in my city but nearby. One lone guard who could easily be overpowered or ambushed.
Well, I’m well into the process of telling people that I’m leaving my job. Guess I’ve done a good job of hiding my unhappiness, because everyone is SHOCKED (except my hubby, BFFs, and family who are sick of hearing me complain!).
Interestingly, my ED who I thought would be nice about it was very “we have to follow policy”, my immediate boss was way more supportive than I expected, and the parent I was dreading calling (I see two of her kids) was just so nice I almost started crying.
An email was sent to the 20 top managers and exactly ONE person emailed to wish me luck…..guess they’ll survive without me!
Bad news is I can’t use any vacation days in the next four weeks, but good news is my boss told me (privately) that we can push my schedule around to give me some flex this weekend and next.
Congratulations! Where are you going? I’m really sorry I missed your announcement. I hope your new place values your work and experience and is a pleasanter place to work.
I initially just posted on our MT FB group because I hadn’t announced it yet, and can never be sure who sees/reads this board.
Where are you going?
I’m going to QSAC – which, among other things, has the advantage of being in Queens, just 20 min from home! I’ll be Director of Family Services.
That is so awesome! Congratulations again and huzzah for shorter commutes!
Congratulations! I’m glad to hear this and hoping it’s a wonderful fit for you.
Congratulations, that’s great news!
Why is it that when I wash my daughter’s hair, nary a strand of her golden brown locks falls out. But when I wash my own (already fine, sparse hair), I seem to lose half of it?
Seriously. It started after my last pregnancy and it hasn’t seemed to stop. At the rate I’m going I won’t have any hair left.
Is your hair curlier than M’s? Her hair seems straighter — more may fall out during the day, whereas yours being curly may not due to hair strands being intertwined more.
I feel you on the bummer about losing hair, though. Your hair always looks lovely and full in photos, btw, but I know we always see ourselves more critically. I’m pretty much limited to one hair style at this point. Can’t let it grow long since it’s too fine, can’t cut it shorter since I don’t want to look like my mother did! She looked cute, but I’ve had a lifetime of being compared to her — not going to invite even more comments.
I get sad when I hear women say “oh, I’m never going to cut my hair when I’m older, why do women do that?” Some of us don’t have a choice : /
For a product tip, I’ve been using Aveda’s Invati shampoo & scalp treatment for about 6 months, and I do think it has helped a little. It doesn’t regrow hair, but it interrupts the hair’s life cycle (so to speak), so it doesn’t fall out when it normally would. It helps keep each strand in longer so the hair seems fuller.
Maya’s hair is pretty straight, and mine is curly, so you might have a point. The curls are my saving grace, they make it look like I have a lot more hair than I actually do. I have very little hair! Recently I have grown it longer (down to mid-back) but I feel like unless I go all out styling it, it just looks straggly and ends up in a ponytail. So it might end up back near shoulder-length soon. I too feel like I am limited in my hairstyles; can’t get bangs because of the curls, too lazy to straighten it everyday, so curly and long it is. Sigh.
Thanks for the product tip!
Mine has been falling out a lot more lately, too. My stylist said it was probably hormonal since I’m still nursing a bit. She also said I have a lot of new growth, so my feeling that it’s thinner will hopefully be temporary.
Bring back the tall mall bangs for us curly girls, please!
I just got an alert from the enviro-hippie-greenie-park around the corner from us that there is going to be a special Christmas Day service by the local “Eco-feminist community of the Uniting Church”.
I just snorked my cuppa.
The one downside to your plans to come East for Christmas. Well, two, one, that we completely miss seeing each other in 2012 (how did that happen!?). And two, we can’t go and snark on that in person.
Oh….that would be sooo much fun. I must make a point of coming over just for that service one year. We’ll sit in the back with a thermos of margaritas and made snarky comments.
and bacon sandwiches. Big, honking, crispy bacon sandwiches.
I might buy bottled water to bring as well.
We could talk about how our last leg waxing appointments went, too…
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